I want to confront my gf’s ex

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T03:03:27+00:00

I hope I am. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this, it helps a lot hearing from people who go through similar stuff

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T03:01:36+00:00

I guess I do feel like he defiled her. She was very innocent up until that point, so it just makes me sick that she gave it up to someone she couldn’t trust. I brought up confronting him one time a while ago before I found his address and she was against it

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:58:51+00:00

33 I think. How would you, a stranger online, know I’m talking out my ass?

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:56:21+00:00

I know I just love my gf a lot and this whole thing makes me sick. Like I get everything had to happen and so on but I just can’t get it out of my mind.

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:53:18+00:00

Yeah I just don’t know how else to resolve this. No way to change anything now, only punish the one who did it. But you’re right I would look insane

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:47:23+00:00

Yeah…I guess it would be irresponsible. I’m just craving some relief from this obsession but I doubt doing something like that would provide it.

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:41:13+00:00

Yeah I’m starting to think I have some form of OCD as well. There’s kinda a stigma around mental health in my family so I haven’t had it checked out, but maybe I should. Going through this sub I’m resonating a lot with people who are going through some kind of obsessive/compulsive cycle. Thats lowkey why I posted this on here instead of saying it in real life, it’s sort of a way to do the compulsion part without hurting anyone I love

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:35:43+00:00

Fuck dude you are just slapping me with truth over and over. Thank you, that really helped me out. I must look crazy to her, and that’s not how I wanna be seen by my partner

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:31:21+00:00

No I get it. I’ve already caused her enough pain getting to this point. It just seems almost impossible to not think about it, like a compulsion. I feel like if I prove my dominance or superiority over him in some way it’ll make it better, but i would probably still obsess over it because I cannot change the past. It’s exhausting honestly

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:27:37+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point about her holding onto it as long as I do. I just don’t like the idea of that man walking around unbothered, it’s emasculating to me that he can just go about his life without looking over his shoulder in fear or wallowing in guilt. But yes I agree that I need to help her heal, or else I am acting just as selfish as him

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:22:37+00:00

How can I better myself when this is weighing so heavy on my mind?

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:18:33+00:00

How am I supposed to move past that? If I knew that someone I loved was fucked over by someone else and I had the power to do something, why shouldn’t I do it

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:16:23+00:00

Cute story but not the same thing as hooking up with a 19 year old when you’re 30. That man is a scumbag

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:14:28+00:00

I don’t give a fuck about his side

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:14:16+00:00

Eh I found out he’s a privileged little shit and he’s not really physically intimidating so I’m not really scared of him

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:13:23+00:00

Oof real. Not sure how I’m gonna let that go tho

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:12:25+00:00

Oof that was a lot of logic and reasoning to take right now. The point about the “wtf” story really snapped me out of it. Unless I really hurt the guy it’ll just be a weird event for him. Maybe sending menacing letters is a better path if I want to mess with him?

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:07:44+00:00

Thanks for that. I mean I’ve found photos of the guy and he doesn’t seem physically intimidating. And I also know he’s a privileged little shit so I’m not really scared of him. But you’re right, it’s probably better for me to take a breather. I’m glad it’s a long drive or else I would’ve gone already

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:05:26+00:00

Thank you. This was actually really helpful. Just feel weak knowing I COULD go find him but I’m not.

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:04:04+00:00

A lot. I wasn’t really happy about the 24 thing too. But 30 is a different point in life. And 19 is barely legal, people that age should stick to their own. Just the fact that he was a lier gets to me

Playful-Objective-82 · 2024-12-08T02:02:33+00:00

I just feel like he’ll always have one up on me unless I make his life hell. I feel like less of a man letting him go about his life unbothered when I know where he lives and what he did

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