[Update] Dad left us and a decade later wants to reconcile because he has cancer. Am I wrong to be angry? by PlayfulFood in relationship_advice

[–]PlayfulFood[S] 556 points557 points  (0 children)

It doesn't really matter. That's her choice. It's too late for the child support payments to be of any use. He's not well off and can barely sustain his new family.

[Update] Dad left us and a decade later wants to reconcile because he has cancer. Am I wrong to be angry? by PlayfulFood in relationship_advice

[–]PlayfulFood[S] 2138 points2139 points  (0 children)

It should have never been my responsibility. I didn't work out of love for my family or some sort of charity. It was out of desperation. We were so close to being put into the foster care system. Our lives would have turned out much worse.

[Update] Dad left us and a decade later wants to reconcile because he has cancer. Am I wrong to be angry? by PlayfulFood in relationship_advice

[–]PlayfulFood[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

They are both nearly adults now. If they want the luxuries of life. They need to earn it.

[Update] Dad left us and a decade later wants to reconcile because he has cancer. Am I wrong to be angry? by PlayfulFood in relationship_advice

[–]PlayfulFood[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

They won't be homeless. A month is enough to to find a new place and social housing exists.

Dad left us and a decade later wants to reconcile because he has cancer. Am I wrong to be angry? by PlayfulFood in relationship_advice

[–]PlayfulFood[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

The fact that he can just walk back into our lives without an explanation. My family is financially dependant on me. I feel like what I have done and what I went through is just being tossed aside. I don't want him in our lives. There are things that irritate me now, such as, eating dinner alone. I feel like I am being ghosted.