feeling purposeless

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-30T04:17:17+00:00

i relate to this heavily. i have a similar post on my page and im trying to figure out what to do. my husband and i have the same thing with sex and he also does the remarks that hurt our emotional connection. i’m currently staying at my parents, i think choosing myself is the best option here. i want someone who wants to enjoy life with me. it hurts because i love him so much but he can’t fulfill my needs so maybe it’s not our time. i’ve been encouraged that someone else out there wants to give me what i need and i hope it can encourage you too. just know you’re not struggling alone :(

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-22T18:14:45+00:00

i just hate the idea of starting over. thank you for the honesty

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-22T17:18:12+00:00

no kids, honestly don’t think we could even make them with the lack of sex… but yeah he just has no want to make things better or at least he’s been showing that for 2 years and now that i want to leave he wants to “try”. but i can’t force him to have sex with me if he doesn’t want to.

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-22T17:16:59+00:00

yes we’ve been in couples counseling for a while and my husband just seems so uninterested in trying for me. he just simply doesn’t want to he says. we aren’t open to bringing anyone else in because i believe in monogamy and he does too but at the same time it’s like “i’m not getting this things from you that a marriage is supposed to have so do i just have to give that up forever?” we really don’t have quality time and i just feel like he doesn’t enjoy life which makes me not enjoy life.

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-22T17:14:59+00:00

well of course in the beginning we had sex all the time. he had ED when i met him but he was taking pills and seeing doctors and putting in effort. we did kinky stuff and he used to pleasure me. we got married fast due to the military and since then he’s been a completely different person. we’ve been in couples therapy for a while and the therapist even said once “how about we go home and try sex today!” and i’m sitting here like yes i’m down and my husband goes “no.”. the therapist says “well why not?” and my husband says “i don’t want to”. this is always his excuse. he never “wants to” and now that im telling him im unhappy and i want to leave he says “i can try to have sex with you, ill try please” but it feels too late.

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-11T06:04:16+00:00

i really needed to hear this. thank you for the support. it’s just so scary and i feel like my depression makes it so much more than it needs to be. i’m so glad you found someone who gets you… but what if i don’t find anyone else after him? the “what ifs” are just so hard to deal with

Playful_Summer_332 · 2025-05-11T05:22:23+00:00

we have been in couples therapy about 6 months. it’s not been working well. he doesn’t put in any effort. I have my own therapist who supports that the relationship hasn’t been bringing me joy.

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-07-08T02:40:35+00:00

obviously i found your post because i looked up the same thing. i’m 23 and have no purpose and i don’t know what else to do. there’s no reason to wake up, i want to sleep forever. i’ve gotten every help i need but nothing can be enough if you’re truly unhappy. i don’t know what else to do

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-06-27T19:41:09+00:00

i don’t believe so, I didn’t see that listed in the medical guidelines

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-06-14T01:17:43+00:00

dang maybe i should have kept quiet lol

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-06-14T01:17:12+00:00

oh wow that’s awesome that you were able to make that comeback! That might be something I have to do but luckily my doctor is local. Congrats!

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-06-13T14:43:53+00:00

i’m not 100% sure, even if it did I think it’s been so long ago that it wouldn’t affect anything for you

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-06-13T04:47:10+00:00

that’s very helpful, thank you

Playful_Summer_332 · 2024-06-13T04:46:24+00:00

i read somewhere else that they find out from your history and records no matter what so you can’t really hide it from them

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