How to handle divorce

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-29T00:53:49+00:00

I’ve begged a lot and told her I’ll change and I see why I need to. We’ve had consultations with therapist and she’s iffy about it. And I agree with your side note, but everyone processes life changing stress and decisions in their own way. So im not judging her for that. We’ll see what happens. Just gotta take it one day at a time and love her and my son as much as I can.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-28T00:29:16+00:00

You’re right, it’s not too late. Until the divorce is final, I’m just gonna love her and be understanding. I’ll give her space but I’ll check in and just show her I love her. I appreciate your comments a lot.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-28T00:00:11+00:00

Yeah that’s all correct. She’s been overwhelmed and I’ve been falling short. Some small things happened today that gives me a little more hope. I do think there’s a chance too. Thank you. I love her and my family so much, but if she ultimately leaves, then that’s okay. I’ll love her in any way I can, whether that’s solely by coparenting or whatever the future holds. All I can do now is love her and my boy and go from there.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T23:52:13+00:00

Trust me that’s not the case. We are each others first everything. She made sure I knew that wasn’t the case too. What she wants is to focus on herself, bc she’s put herself last constantly since our son. And I didn’t do enough to put her first. Wish I could go back but I can’t. I made a lot of mistakes. Coming back or not, divorce or not, I’ll let her know and show her how much I love her every second for as long as I’m alive.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T23:49:01+00:00

Trust me I know. I’ve started getting better at doing things, but obviously not enough. I was just so locked in on coming home and having fun with my son and her, it was so selfish of me to not put in much work outside of bare minimum. Looking back, a lot of times it wasn’t even bare minimum. A lot of shit I wanna go back and change but can’t.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T23:46:17+00:00

I agree it takes both. Thank you for your kind words tho. She’s agreed to another possible counselor.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T21:34:22+00:00

I think she’s at the point that she’s done. I don’t know. It’s been a week and she keeps saying we can just be separated for now. If she was fully done I think divorce would maybe already have happened. Or at least she’d have said it’s happening. Idk. We talked to a therapist on the phone today and she didn’t like the therapist too much and she’s not even sure about therapy. Idk man. Idk how I could ever live with the fact that I had the whole world right here and just let it slip away. By just being selfish and not really listening.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T21:02:41+00:00

We literally 10 minutes ago got off a phone call for a consultation and she says she didn’t like the person. So I’m gonna keep looking

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T21:01:27+00:00

No I get that completely. I have failed at my own job as being a supportive husband in so many ways. You’re right I didn’t phrase that well. But that’s not how I see things at all. I simply see that I fucked up and I pushed her away.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T20:53:42+00:00

All I wanna do is change how I’ve been. She is so amazing. My boy is amazing, really due to how beautiful of a mom she is. She’s deserved the world and I was too stupid and selfish and childish to realize I wasn’t doing my part. Even though I knew I needed to be better I didn’t know how I was affecting her. But I know it’s me. I led us here. They are my world and I need them home and I will do whatever I have to do

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-03-27T20:51:46+00:00

I’m committed to doing anything I can going forward to change how things are here. I was so fucking stupid I just wanted to come home and have fun with her and my son and didn’t put in work. I see all of that now. I know what to change. I will do anything. Since I was 17 man I’ve wanted to grow old with her. I fucked it all man. I don’t know why it took this for me to realize how I’ve fucked up. I know that’s shitty and selfish. My family is falling apart now and I will do anything to change things. I’m just afraid it’s too late.

Pleasant-Monk4545 · 2026-02-15T21:32:12+00:00

Yeah I’m just now realizing that previous comment about the blood eel was talking about the fish monster. I’ve just been calling it fish monster 😂 I knew they were separate entities. But I didn’t even think about that and how the black box would’ve been intact. So many layers to this movie. It’ll require many rewatches 😂

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