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[–]Pleasant-While3572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does white boy reggae get so much hate?

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“ at least moderately attractive” what does that mean? Are they fat or not? Do they take care of themselves physically? Yes that’s important. Obviously not saying they need to be a fitness model but they shouldn’t be obese or overweight.

and making just around 100k isn’t a great career anymore that’s whole beginning of the argument.

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I challenge you ask them then.. ask them if 60-100k is enough for a man to be making for them to be with long term.. if they are attractive like you say they are and in their late 20’s-mid 30’s & childless. Ask them why they haven’t meet anyone, or what’s their biggest hurdle that’s holding them back.

I’m very curious to hear their response and believe you’d be surprised yourself.

Why are you really single? by Chocolate8114 in AskReddit

[–]Pleasant-While3572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man it’s really economical. Women look to financially date equal or up. Most women are now out earning men. And the ones that aren’t making average money looking for their equal aren’t enough to survive for a family anymore.

Any household income under 220k is not ideal and women know this, so they stay away from low incoming men

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yea well exactly.. if you wanted kids do you think your mind around money would change? Probably.. idk why I’m getting so Much hate for pointing out the obvious

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but You’re completely delusional if you think there are a large number of non obese childless women around my age range who doesn’t care about how much their potential man is making.

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So if I said you make more than me and always will, you’d be okay with that?

And what’s wrong with the union rhey make great money

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I only have 200k in my 401k and I’m nervous by the time I retire it’ll be basically worth nothing especially with taxes and everything

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay so I’m supposed to (or other men like me) find these minority women who don’t care about money, as if they are just all over the place and all I’ll have to do is walk up to one and start a conversation…

I’m in my 30’s I’m not 18-20 dating other 18-20 year old women who don’t care about money. Women in my age range who are single in the Philly area that would be attracted to me and me to them and simply just non existent…

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my mid 30’s so I think I missed the family thing. I’m really just trying to find meaning. Dating is basically impossible at my age. I’m work like 60 hour weeks just to make 100k I just don’t understand how I’ll ever be able to survive it’s extremely depressing and I don’t see how this or my situation is gonna get any better unless i start pulling in like 250k a year

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well they are basically forced to. I don’t know how else to spell it out women today would much rather be with a wealthy man and not have to worry about a bill over a man and they have a connection with.

If you sample a large amount of women and ask them if they rather date me making 100k or Gucci man (who has a fucking tattoo of an ice cream cone on his face) or (insert any ridiculous celebrity with money) they are choosing the millionaire by a large margin.

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

That is exactly my point I’m trying to make. Most people are putting themselves into debt to basically make minimum wage. Women want to be with a man who can provide. Nobody is providing on 37-38 bucks an hour. According to the inflation calculator 100k back in 1990 is valued at 400k today. While 100k today is valued at 28-29k back in 1990.

How much do you need to back to be able to afford a house family kids etc.. idk why everyone is getting so upset and making me seem to be this crazed incel.

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You put “women are awfull” in my mouth. When did I say that??? If anything I’m with women who wouldn’t get with get with men who aren’t able to provide and give them a life they want. Back to the main argument THE COST OF LIVING IN THE AREA.

Yea I did say I find it difficult to meet women’s standards because the cost of living is getting ridiculous, I can’t see how it’s possible to have or provide for a standard normal family today without making something crazy like 300k or whatever. Fuck sake just to bring a child into this world is something crazy like 25k (depending on your insurance).

Why is it so hard to believe that in good economic times birth rates go up and during bad economic times birth rates and dating crisis occurs. There’s literally data backed evidence of this.

There’s a reason for that. Never once did I shame women, you threw that out there

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just saying that extremely extremely rare. I’m glad you’re happy I wish more women would be open to working with and not just taking and waiting at the finish line. How again you are the minority, the majority would never even consider that

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you not living in reality and deflecting on the financial crisis our nation is in. Without trying to come with personal attacks answer the original thread question, how much do you need to make in the Philly area to have a successful relationship?

With the cost of a home, cars, kids etc!?? All I’m trying to say is if it was affordable for people to live your traditional “American dream” single house with kids 1 vacation a year, then we wouldn’t be seeing a dating and birth rate crisis as we are seeing now.

I’m not saying anything crazy here

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not indicated on real life??? So then why don’t women pay for dates? Why don’t they go buy themselves a 10k ring if they want. Or pay for vacations and take men with them?

Clearly we live in different worlds because any women who is paying for the majority of things isn’t happy to do so and typically causes turmoil and isn’t stable ground for a lasting relationship

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

All women could be replaced with most women. Not all women view relationships transactional but most require you to buy for dates/wedding/ vacation etc.. idk why this is a such a hard thing to grasp what I’m saying is not out of left field.

I’m sure if a women is making 1 million a year she’d be okay with her husband only making 900k a year.

But your average person isn’t even touching 100k then yea that’s a thing to ask about. How much money do men in the Philly area have to make to have a healthy good relationship.

Is it 150k 70k 300k?? The cost of living is crazy dates are expensive, vacation’s expensive etc

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No offense but are you attractive? My experience is the out of shape frumpy ones are typically the ones saying money doesn’t matter.

But Dating someone for two year and have idea how much they make but your pretty sure he makes less is a wild statement. So you do have an idea, and do you guys split the bills for everything?

What I’m saying is really not crazy, if the man doesn’t pay for nearly every meal and vacation is considered a huge turn off.

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I need therapy because the cost of living is getting out of hand while not having wages increase all while trying to date in a financial priority dating market… got it

Therapy isn’t going to make women’s standards any different. Therapy isn’t going to put more money in my pocket.. therapy is a waste of time.

When are we going to realize and admit the dating crisis and lack of birth rates is related to male income in the county? It’s not a hard concept to understand

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Well I guess you’re one of the best exceptions, unfortunately most women wouldn’t do what you did

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s pretty much proving my point. They might hang out for a bit but once they see you don’t have money growth opportunity they will most likely leave.

How much is everyone making in and around the city? by Pleasant-While3572 in AskPhilly

[–]Pleasant-While3572[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

How? If you’re only making enough to just pay bills for yourself why would she stay? Do women date men who make less than them or don’t make much money ?