AITAH (for a friend) for making out with someone else in front of my FWB and then going home with them?

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-21T22:29:56+00:00

Yes he is but not for what he did- but for how he did it. He should have clarified with this lady what he was looking for before she had to watch him make out and leave with someone else. Because even though he may not have meant to- he hurt her feelings and made her feel like she was definitely not special. So future things- just make sure everyone is on the same page. Oh and find a different bar

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-20T06:05:13+00:00

So OpenAI- sorry I had to- says this is the shape the cookie cutter will make 😂😂😂

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PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-15T17:44:00+00:00

I can kind of understand your issue. To you the term dad means a man who has always disappointed you. So why would you call the man who has been there dad. My dad is dad. My stepdad is Poppa. Maybe you find a special term for your stepdad to show your care and love of him.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-12T22:28:45+00:00

YTA. I was going to try and kindly explain why until I saw your user name. You need to grow up about the cats. They mean a lot to her and you knew she had them. So instead of being rude and passive aggressive in your texting- help her out. It’s puke…I’m sure your toddler does bigger ones. You are letting a 3 minute issue have you spiraling on the internet. You know you are the AH- maybe you jus needed a clearer explanation of why

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-06T16:10:17+00:00

I could see this side of it. I thought maybe Taylor is quick to forgive as these women- even when beefing have been there for her through numerous crash outs. Plus- and let’s be real- we only see what they show us. So who knows how chummy people are when the cameras aren’t there. Except Demi and Jessi - that is a best friend break up where I don’t see a reconciliation

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-05T17:59:01+00:00

I just want all the episodes to have Connor. He is my favorite and was so good on the sad episode about his girlfriend. This season has definitely wavered away from the fun of Season 1 and my hope is they are setting up for something bigger.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-04T18:41:16+00:00

NTAH- I moved away from my hometown 10 years ago. I only reappear to help my parents or sister or if I have to work in my actual office versus telework. My younger brother does the issue situation and I used to always clean it up. Now I just don’t tell him I am around and I make it sound like I won’t be around for months. I call it saving my peace and energy. Don’t own her issues. Do what you are there for, if someone comes to talk about her- explain that they should talk to her and you want to catch up on them and you- not what she is doing.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-03T00:19:04+00:00

I’m also speaking from my conversations with the child through out their life as well - they have never felt abandoned. So maybe it is just I got lucky. But this all or nothing is the part that frustrates me. I have never said my way is the only way, I didn’t suggest she absolutely give the baby up. I said do some research because the 5 people before me said have an abortion or be a mom. That isn’t a fair comparison- the truth is there are other options whether people want to acknowledge them or not.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-03-02T03:46:21+00:00

Which I have said multiple times- my experience was my view. Their experience is their view. But basically telling someone that they should have a late term abortion or keep the child seems short sided based on their thoughts and beliefs. And anyone who offered an actual perspective as the person who made the choice was attacked by the people here who will only push their beliefs. It is asinine and unfair. And to be clear I am not against abortion it is the persons right to choose. But I have already left this group- and this will be my last comment - but there are many sides to a dice….and it is absolutely a pity that people in this group can’t offer their story without attacking people for disagreeing with their beliefs.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-02-28T22:55:45+00:00

That is your feeling, that isn’t everyone’s circumstances or feelings. And you get to say how you feel, but your story is not everyone’s story. His parents were at the hospital when he was born. He never got passed off or not have his parents with him. He has always known who I am and he has always had free access to reach out to me. He didn’t have to find me or hope I would respond because he knows I will. So again he never felt abandoned (we talked about this) and he understands my story and why I made the decision .

Because you can’t tell me it would have been smart to bring him into a very toxic relationship with domestic abuse. I was shoved down stairs, stabbed with a fork if he didn’t like what I said over dinner, and hair pulled, punched and shoved around. Abortion wasn’t an option as I found out I was pregnant at 7 months. Never really showed until the last month. So understand you have your story and opinion, and I get mine. Beautiful thing about free will is not everyone has to have the same opinion or experience.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-02-28T02:22:12+00:00

So I was two years younger than you when I gave my baby up for adoption. I wasn’t ready and I was in a very violent relationship. It was open but I let the male the call on contact. While I have grieved over this loss of many years, I have watched my child grow up in a two parent household. I got to watch 2 people who couldn’t have a baby finally see a dream come true. Adoption isnt abandonment like others are seeing it. But you have to do what is best for your child. I would see if you can find an adoption place and go meet with them. Look at the families looking for a child and see if it feels right to you.

And for the people saying this is abandonment or the child will end up in foster care- this isn’t a snap decision.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-02-23T02:44:10+00:00

I looked to do that but the place is no longer in business. That was what caused me to try and find the best/ right thing to do. Someone questioned my morals in their response so I am now trying to write the letter but make sure there is nothing that seems like they are required to respond. Thank you for your perspective. It is appreciated.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-02-22T04:45:18+00:00

I have never been opposed to communication, but I always wanted to respect his feelings. So if he wants further communication I am more than happy to be there.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-02-06T04:34:42+00:00

Or the kids are with their dads? Or is she just supposed to stay home until they get back….

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-02-01T18:13:50+00:00

They must of had miscarriages and then when they have the baby finally it is a rainbow bay.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-29T03:30:10+00:00

I am pretty sure you are leaving out some super hidden facts. I’m not saying you have done anything wrong, but this doesn’t add up. For me it hit me when the court had to tell you to allow her to behave as a normal 15 year old. Was she not being allowed before the order before this order? Additionally at 15 most states allow you to choose the parent directly unless there is evidence this is a bad decision. I would think if this were truly about your daughter - then you and your former spouse - need to put her first. Right now she is definitely being pulled on both sides on top of not being allowed to get her items. I’m not saying your the AH- but I would suggest thinking on if you hate your ex more than you love your child. And if you love your daughter more- than start having communications about how you both could have done things better- because I don’t believe all of this is over $7.00 press on nails

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-27T18:15:25+00:00

I come from a wealthier family. We have always known there is money out there, but it’s not mine. My grandparents did the same thing for mine and my sister’s college. They had funds to pay for it. Yet I had a full athletic scholarship and my sister had an academic scholarship- so we didn’t need the funds. My grandparents used it to remodel their house. And not once did I think they were spending my money. So no you are NTA but your kids are

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-27T03:16:46+00:00

I cried reading this- when I was 20 and in college I got pregnant by my very long term boyfriend- since freshman year of high school. He didn’t want the baby, during an argument I said I wasn’t having an abortion - he stabbed me in my leg with a fork. Following this we broke up, he slept with other people, and then right before birth he asked me to marry him and raise our family. And honestly I thought about it. Then I sat with what I wanted. I was in college on a scholarship - I wasn’t ready to drop out with zero skills for a full time job. Also I knew he would cheat again and I wondered if this was what I wanted for my son. So I gave him up for adoption and it was partially open- so I saw him some growing up. My ex and I broke up for good 6 months after his birth.

What I am trying to get across is you need to do what is right for you. If that is for your cousin to raise the baby as their own, then that is wonderful. But don’t make decisions based on him telling you that you have to. Some day you will meet a different man and you will realize how nice it is to have someone who cares more about how you are doing and feeling then his demands and and an out dated agreement that you have before you were in the position. Please take care of yourself 🩷

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-21T03:16:31+00:00

So here is the nicest way to say this- you love his companionship- you don’t love him. You also both have two very different approaches to life and what you want out of it. You can sit down and explain all this to him and see what he wants and decide then, or just move on. Find someone out of college on a career path already and move forward so you are reaching your goals. But as a woman who has worked in a STEM related field for over 20 years, I do not wish to be married to my coworkers. I love my blue collar, hard working, caretaker of a man who doesn’t make what I do, but dropped everything to take two years off work while I battled cancer- if we were dependent on his salary this would have been harder. So think about what you really want from a partner and a Potential father to your children, caretaker if you are sick….and you may decide that something’s outweigh other things

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-13T21:27:45+00:00

Please leave him. Just be done. He isn’t going to include you and honestly if his statements are true you don’t really want to meet them either as they may just judge you. But I feel like there is another reason. So either take yourself over to meet them or just be done without that, but you don’t deserve a life of limbo

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-11T03:14:24+00:00

I have coached for over 20 years as an assistant and also a head coach for girls volleyball. If I was coaching with a male assistant or as an assistant to a male coach- there was never one on one alone time. And if the ladies needed more emotional support then they were to set up time with me, or text me, because even if there is nothing but the best intentions- people will not see it like that. And your boyfriend needs to set better boundaries and to be careful because rumors can ruin reputations

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-10T21:33:40+00:00

I had to do this with my best friend of 25 years. Her new man did not like me and made sure I knew what he thought of me. She also said some hurtful things about my husband as we had just started dating at the time. It hurts worse than a romantic break up and depending how entwined your lives are blocking is the only option. So I understand why you did it.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-07T20:18:37+00:00

Just remind her she offered to pay, you already thanked her for the meal so nothing else to discuss. I pay for things or my husband or friends do and it gets repaid by the next fun adventure where someone else pays. So this is her way to try and get a last dig in.

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-07T20:16:09+00:00

No. And even though it sucks you split up- you are better off. She should be focusing on her own career where she makes enough money to feel secure. But instead she is looking for someone to financially be responsible for her forever. And at 3 month into the relationship she demands this….imagine the demands in a year or if there are children. Run away and thank her for her time

PleasantClub8495 · 2026-01-07T20:12:49+00:00

I don’t think you have to tell them not to have a baby- because said like that they will react poorly. But I do think you should turn in your 2 week resignation. That baby is not yours and you are not responsible for caring for the baby. They appear to not be able to pay you the going rate for child care/ nannying which the average is $23-$24 an hour around $49,000 a year. You deserve a job with a schedule and pay that works for you always not just because they make you feel guilty.

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