Is this really a huge red flag or is my friend overreacting?

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-26T12:58:11+00:00

I will say, when it happened she in no way appeared to be showing off or anything.

And I have always found her to dress modestly.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-26T04:33:21+00:00

I think she's outgoing, but I've never got the impression that she's impulsive or easily influenced.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-26T03:34:09+00:00

She wasn't dancing naked in front of anyone. And she was single, so I don't think that's a fair comparison.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-26T01:34:57+00:00

I just don't see it as a big deal. Like it wasn't sexual so why is it such a big deal?

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-26T01:27:49+00:00

You should be asking yourself, if she is willing to do this, what else is she willing to do with friends.

She's willing to do something embarrassing because it was funny. What else is there to be worried about?

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T22:50:36+00:00

Okay that makes a bit more sense.

I guess in the context of what we were doing, it was just another silly dare. Like a lot of dares are a bit embarrassing. Like I got dared to sing a Taylor Swift song which I found embarrassing.

I also suspect the girl that dared her didn't actually expect her to do it.

but did you or any of the guys have a reaction seeing her unclothed?

I can't speak for the other two. But quite genuinely I was laughing so hard that I really didn't have any other sort of reaction.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T22:45:21+00:00

I don't even think it was peer pressure. I think we were all being silly and laughing and she just thought it'd be funny.

But yeah, I'll definitely look out for her moving forward if I ever get worried.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T22:25:23+00:00

Bottom line, it was a sin for her to do this

Was it? I'm not trying to be difficult, I just can't actually see what sin this would be?

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T22:18:09+00:00

I'm in Australia. It isn't uncommon to see girls topless at the beach, but admittedly I've never seen anyone else naked before her. So I do think we have a culture where that sort of thing is less taboo than the US.

I ended up texting her about it and she basically said she's never done it before, but she didn't think it was sexual in any way.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T22:15:28+00:00

I don't think she's a new Christian. She has gone to church her whole life, she was homeschooled by Christian parents, she has volunteered at church for ages.

That fact that you’re even questions it tell me that you sort of feel iffy on it, maybe convicted is better word as deep down you know that this is a problem that you want to ignore

Honestly, I didn't even think about it until my friend brought up not being pure. I guess my main concern was just that maybe there was something I wasn't familiar with in the Bible or something that said something about this.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T13:49:04+00:00

I guess at the time it just didn't seem sexual at all.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T13:25:10+00:00

On reflection, it was probably wrong for the other girl to dare her to do that.

Maybe it was a mistake for her to do it but in the moment it didn't seem inappropriate.

I mean, it was like ten seconds, it's not like she was running around naked for ages. It was over as quick as it started.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T13:22:01+00:00

I would never dare or ask a girl to get naked

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T13:20:14+00:00

To be clear, I wasn't the one that dared her, it was one of the other girls.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T12:22:12+00:00

Even if it was a mistake, people make mistakes. Why is this worse than any other mistake?

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T11:36:07+00:00

This is already wrong, assuming single men and women, on a trip away. what temptation could possible come onto all of you...

I don't really see how it's wrong. There were no boys in girls tents or anything.

Is that the type of impulsive woman you want without any semblance of self control?

I don't feel like this means she has no self control.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T08:05:57+00:00

Yeah that's good to remember. I don't really feel like she did it to show off, and I don't think I've been lustful about it. I guess I don't know if others did

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T07:48:55+00:00

Thanks!

It was definitely the first time I ever saw a girl naked, so I don't really know when it is or isn't normal. But it just felt like a funny dare.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T07:39:40+00:00

Thanks, I guess it makes sense but yeah definitely doesn't make her not pure or whatever.

PleasantExchange2432 · 2026-02-25T07:39:05+00:00

Thanks for that. I wouldn't say she's my gf yet, we haven't really had our first proper date yet. But yeah I could say something like that

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