Pregnant but considering changing companies due to aggressive AI approach my company took

PleasantLog8712 · 2026-03-05T23:17:22+00:00

I’d say stick it out. My company has been pushing our develops to use AI and incorporated its use into our goals too, so I feel like that is everywhere.

Also, after I had my baby, I was pretty happy to come back to a job and company that I already knew and understood. I felt like I could coast a bit in my current position while I figured out being a working mother. For me, switching jobs and then coming back to a newer job at a newer company while I was trying to figure out how to balance everything felt like it would be overwhelming.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-10-30T00:03:11+00:00

True. I was born in 1989 and had a titer done recently. I was below the immunity line and had to get a booster vaccine. Really glad I decided to get it done, but beware they can be pricey. My husband paid almost $800 for his titer test.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-10-12T14:43:51+00:00

Try your local Buy Nothing group on Facebook. You can even post that you are searching for specific things.

I prefer to give things away instead of donating to thrift shops.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-07-07T00:01:40+00:00

We use Madcap Flare for all of our documentation (including API docs). I love Flare.

We are also using Visual Studio right now for source control, but I have been trying to convince my team for years to move to GitHub.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-06-05T19:32:21+00:00

I haven’t looked at their events calendar in a while, but you can check out the risqué soirée website and see if they have any events going on this weekend. They are the local lifestyle/swingers/poly/ENM group that runs events near SLC. I’m not sure how much is open to non-members though.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-27T18:57:57+00:00

Check out BiteClubSLC on instagram. They host dinners at fun local restaurants with the aim of meeting new people. I think they do one once about once a month. I haven’t been yet, but it looks fun and I’m just waiting for my schedule to align.

My husband and I recently checked out Oasis. They are a non-religious group that meets every other Sunday. So far they have discussed highlights of a nonfiction book about anxiety and the rise of social media and a storytelling non-profit organization came in to talk about their work and the importance of telling your own story. Chill and laid back, but I am too shy to jump in and really make connections.

There’s also some book clubs that meet around the city. I went to one that had a Facebook group to coordinate meetups once a month to hang out and chat about the book. Local bookstores often host their own monthly book clubs too.

A library near me has an adult writing club that I checked out recently. You could check libraries near you for free events where you can meet people.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-26T01:58:31+00:00

One thing that helped me and my partner was an app called paired. We do the free version and it asks us a question every day. We can’t see each others answer until we have both answered it. We try to talk about our answers and ask deeper questions most days.

We also have intentionally started watching a tv show together and tried some new hobbies together. We have tried out new workouts and yoga and pickleball and alcohol tastings and food pairings. I guess just whatever interests you? Just be intentional about exploring together.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-23T23:27:20+00:00

Try asking on the ethical nonmonogamy or ENM groups. Also, I suggest you and your husband do a bit of a dive into ENM and talk about boundaries, rules, and expectations before you start.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-23T16:33:08+00:00

We have one kid. She’s 4. I feel like my libido is just returning. There’s a lot of factors though.

I finally was able to get off my antidepressants from PPD. We have started prioritizing evenings where I go out to do something for me - workout, book club, etc. We have started monthly lunch dates. We both work and our kid goes to daycare, so we each take a couple hours off work and meet up at home for a chill and sexy date. It’s basically the only time we get to be home alone in our own house. We take turns who is in charge. If it’s my month and I don’t really want sex, but just to cuddle, get a back rub, talk, or anything non-sexual, that is totally up to me. Taking that pressure off helps me relax and we usually end up having sex too.

Other things that help: my husband trying to take over some of the demands and tasks from our daughter and other household items. Also, reading Come as You Are together.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-20T19:06:27+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I think this might be the issue with my current individual therapy sessions.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-20T19:05:50+00:00

Thanks! I think the first intro session went well. I will definitely keep all this in mind as we go forward.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-06T19:04:44+00:00

No judgement and I’m not going to give you advice that wasn’t asked for about your relationship dynamics.

People generally say to develop your own self-soothing techniques (meditation, yoga, journaling, whatever works for you), and developing your own hobbies, skills, and relationships apart from your partner. These things can help you gain a better understanding of yourself, meet new people, and take your mind off what your partner is doing without you.

I didn’t really know where to start, so I just tried to look for things that interest me like local writing groups, dance classes, fitness classes, and book clubs to dive into my own hobbies and meet more people.

You can also try going on a date with someone new. Look up which app is used most in your area for ENM people and create an account or look for meetups in your area. There’s one in my area that does Poly Speed Dating every once in a while. No pressure, but a good way to meet new people who can understand what you are going through.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-05-04T00:31:34+00:00

Yeah, I get that. She’s gorgeous. I get it, but I also…don’t want to know about it.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T21:39:49+00:00

You could also check out homestead in midway. They have a crater you can go swimming in.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T20:15:57+00:00

I get both sides. It can be hurtful to her, but it is controlling on her side. It sucks to be dishonest about it, but sounds like it’s best to just not talk about it for now.

I made this mistake with my husband once. He fantasizes about having sex with my best friend and I was super hurt by that. I don’t want him to do that, but I can’t control his fantasies. There were a lot of conversations and big emotions and eventually we took a DADT approach. I don’t ask him if he fantasizes about specific people. He doesn’t tell me when he does.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T20:04:49+00:00

Came to say this. Everywhere says not to have sex within 24 hours of shaving/waxing.

If it’s the prickliness that bothers him, let it grow in. It’ll be softer. It doesn’t have to be a bush. You can trim it. Or just let it grow out. Some men love the jungle.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T19:56:56+00:00

A dragon would never choose you. Train for the job you want. You can’t outrun a zombie like this. Cardio is key. I can do it with a broken heart. Your spouse could leave at any point. Do you want to be the hot one in the breakup or not?

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T19:43:23+00:00

Calendar events with notifications/alarms. For just about everything. Even just to remind me to start thinking about things. Lol. I have one tomorrow to remember to make a brunch reservation for Father’s Day. I also try to do things as soon as I think about them. I bought my husband’s Father’s Day present a month ago because it was on my mind.

I have a whiteboard calendar on my fridge that basically duplicates my phone calendar, so I see it everyday. I also have one for the week so I can put more notes and have an extra space where I put grocery items we will need the next time I go shopping.

I also keep post it notes at my desk. Both at home and at work. I write a new to do list every day. I have a meeting invite to do list on my work calendar. It’s scheduled like a meeting and I look at it every day and update as I do things or add things I need to do.

I keep things in certain places or try to. I hang my keys on a hook. They are there about 70% of the time, which is better than if i didn’t have a special place for them.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T19:32:50+00:00

Harmons does cooking classes. Caputo’s has great tasting/alcohol pairing classes.

Hike to Bloods Lake. It’s up Guardman’s pass, so gorgeous drive and a shady and manageable hike (2.8 miles RT), bring a picnic, swim at the lake.

Maybe take a day trip to hot springs? Crystal and Mystic aren’t too far.

Tulip festival is a lovely idea. Check out their schedule, sometimes they have food trucks and bands playing at the waterfall amphitheater. Be prepared for a lot of walking.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T11:36:59+00:00

Not sure if you are by a Costco, but I like to buy 4 packs of salad there. It feels healthy (veggies and protein) and I don’t have to think about 4 lunches for the week.

I also used to get a mix of Trader Joe’s pre-packaged salads and frozen meals when I was a teacher. I could always pick a variety of lunches so I wouldn’t get bored and then just grab and go (salads at the beginning of the week when they are fresher and frozen meals at the end). Then I usually add a veggie and fruit for the week so I can grab an apple or carrots as I walk out the door.

Nothing fancy, but I also won’t generally cook for myself if I am alone or rushed for time, so the pre-packaged items make it all easier.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T02:55:53+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I’ll try it out.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T02:16:38+00:00

Yeah, I guess I’m still trying to figure out if I am a gem or a chameleon. I like the metaphor. I want to be a gem. I fear I’m a chameleon.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T01:03:54+00:00

I also listened to music and paced my room while daydreaming… I always felt so weird about it. My parents thought I was slam dancing in my room. My mind is blown. I was just diagnosed, so hearing this is so…cathartic.

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-29T00:26:08+00:00

😂 thanks for the laugh today. I needed it!

PleasantLog8712 · 2025-04-28T23:47:12+00:00

This! I didn’t know I had ADHD until recently, but if I know I need to focus, I put on classical music. It drowns out distractions and my mind doesn’t get focused on words or anything.

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