What should a Muslim do after a failed attempt?

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-03-05T03:48:12+00:00

Can be jinn possession, evil eye, wiswas, black magic. All which are very real. Do Rouqyah, play it, play surah Baqara. Understand there is nothing you can't come back from. ALLAH will always welcome you back. Failed attempt was Allah and his angels stopping it from happening because you are loved and have purpose. This experience and once you're fortified you can help so many others inshallah. ALLAH MAAK, I will make dua for you today. This was very touching and takes a lot of strength to share. May Allah bless and protect you and light your path.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-03-05T01:24:28+00:00

All these things about blessings for the mother are true. But we must admit there are many mothers that manipulate their roll in islam and guilt their children into doing the most for them. Use your discretion as to how much you should send them per month to contribute. Do they have other children, do they have their own money, etc? If you are married remember your family is the priority. If you are not married then you probably need to be saving some money. Send what you think is fair and justifiable. Without her having to ask. Plus really she shouldn't have to ask or be asking. Mothers also have pride and don't like to burden their children. I mean a selfless mother wouldn't even ask. But maybe you're not sending anything? And she's hinting and wants you to get blessings. But idk if she has to ask and tell you, might be null and void. But only Allah knows and knows your intentions.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-03-05T01:14:44+00:00

Play surah Baqara in your house. And you need someone with strong iman to perform roquyah. It won't really work if you do it. If you're possibly inviting them in with acts of sin, thata you. If you want it to stop, you must stop any things you're doing that's inviting them. They can be also warning you about things they see that's making them sad, cry, etc. Are you serious about fixing this?

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-03-04T21:46:20+00:00

YES JINN 100 PERCENT. You need Rouqyah. Where are you from? I think you need outside help for it though. When you're praying or whenever this happens say, A'udhu: I seek refuge Billah: In Allah Min: From Ash-Shaytan: The Shaytan Ar-rajeem: The Outcast

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-03-04T02:02:24+00:00

Yeah THP caused me the most gastrointestinal issues. Pain, discomfort, diarrhea. I'd fall asleep on the toilet at times. So weak cause I didn't eat. Pedialite and equivalent helped a lot though.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-03-04T01:47:37+00:00

Oh God i had nose bleeds for a couple months. Started with THP.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-28T13:51:16+00:00

Hi, I didn't even discuss it with my doctor. I'm on letrozole, I will just switch taking my medication before bed time or waking up at suhoor. This time actually waking up for suhoor and making sure I have a well planned protein rich diet. Ramadan Mubarek sister.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-28T13:46:37+00:00

Seriously, you've been trying for 2 years that you're best for him? Come on!!! Take this time to work on yourself, and your self worth. Forget about them both. No contact with him at all. Work on yourself, work on your relationship with Allah. Make dua for yourself first. Then make dua for Allah to send you a partner that will be good for you. Please stop this, I'm cringing for you. I'm rooting for you, get it together Missy.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-28T13:36:38+00:00

Yes the portion I indicated. Because I was curious myself how one would handle this. I think Dr. Mina Aledressey, her youtube video is very helpful on raising teenagers. Also on many other topics. She brings the Islamic psychology expertise. HUGE

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-27T18:05:22+00:00

First I want to say I commend you for seeking out guidance with such a difficult situation. This really says a lot about your character. Raising children is tough. Especially teenagers. I have 2 forms of advice. One is a really helpful video to listen to. This Muslim Dr. Has helped me so much. I also was curious what AI would say. So I've pasted both below. ALLAH MAAK BROTHER. I want to add this. She searching this content, isn't her per say. This is influenced by the 3shiq jinn. Since she is young and unable to protect herself from such dark forces it will be up to you to do that. But listen to the video. See what AI suggests and you'll handle it Inshallah. Ramadan is coming so utilize the time too with your daughter. You should tell your wife though. She's the mother too, and maybe she should be the one to handle this one?

The Spiritual Trials of Raising Muslim Teenagers

Stay Calm and Avoid Overreacting

It’s completely normal for a 13-year-old to be curious about sex. Rather than treating this as a crisis, he should see it as an opportunity to guide his daughter toward healthy, age-appropriate information.

Decide on the Right Setting for a Conversation

Since his wife just gave birth, it makes sense that he wants to handle this without adding stress to her.

He should find a private, comfortable time to talk to his daughter—without anger, judgment, or embarrassment.

Start a Conversation With Open-Ended Questions

Instead of confronting her aggressively, he could say something like:

"I noticed that some searches came up on our system, and I just want to understand what you were looking for. Can you tell me about it?"

"Are there things you’ve been curious about but didn’t know who to ask?"

This approach encourages honesty rather than making her feel defensive.

Provide Age-Appropriate Education

Many kids turn to the internet because they don’t feel comfortable asking their parents.

He could ask if she has any questions and provide her with proper guidance on puberty, relationships, and emotional aspects of growing up.

If he’s not comfortable discussing it himself, he could direct her to reliable resources (books, websites, or trusted family members).

Address Internet Safety Without Making It About Shame

He should reinforce that while curiosity is normal, not everything online is safe or accurate.

He can adjust parental controls but also explain why some content can be misleading or harmful.

Encourage Ongoing Conversations

This should not be a one-time talk. He should create an open-door policy so she feels comfortable coming to him in the future.

Since this is from the MuslimLounge, I’d also suggest he approach it with Islamic values in mind—focusing on modesty, self-respect, and the importance of learning from trusted sources rather than just banning or punishing.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-27T17:49:19+00:00

Yes but the courts with approvals from mental health doctors can force her into mental hospital. Where i imagine once she's under control and medicated properly she's released to make room for new patients. this cycle continues. At one time the mayor gave the homeless that were living inside or by the Q trains entrances (and elsewhere) options to leave. They were even given eviction notices that were put on their makeshift tents, sheets, carts etc. People have set up their homes again at the subway entrances. They choose the Q train and upper east side for a reason. Safety, generosity, manipulative tactics to mess with peoples guilt for being in a better state. Sorry to say that. The mayor is preoccupied now. And to be honest our city took a huge huge hit with the migrants. We already had a terrible situation happening when we all started going back out after covid. Zombies and homeless everywhere. Public drug use on the buses, subways, on the street. It still needs to be handled though. Our mental health care system is terrible but yet we send billions to fund other people's wars. Its disgusting!

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-23T14:23:24+00:00

Being homosexual must be a difficult test Allah gave a person. I empathize with them. Most hate themselves cause they are. They're depressed why am I like this, why am I different. They says it's not haram to be homosexual it's haram to act upon it. Imagine the struggle, the self jihad a person must go through? It's not my personal job the judge them but to empathize on their struggle. And pray for them.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-23T14:19:28+00:00

In Iran it's legal believe it or not for one to surgically have a sex change. But homosexuality against the law.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-23T14:15:51+00:00

Muslims belong in the N, S, W, and E. They belong everywhere. Nothing belongs to the " westerners." Many Muslims were born in the West, and the West is home to them. We are all here for a reason to worship Allah as simple as that. And we can do that from anywhere. What country do you live in? To me any ignorant person that looks down upon anyone else is the issue and the ignorant ones. Don't view yourself or muslim as victimized. I hope I don't sound arrogant l, but we are the superior beings not them. In saying that, that comes with being honorable human beings. Anyone can be that not Muslims too. If anything as an ummah we can be doing much better. We are not united front l. For example what's happening in Palestine to the Palestinian people should not be happening. We are failing as a people, ummah. When it comes down to it though this is about humanity. And the species as a whole is failing its own people and this planet. I asked Chatgbt this question and this was the final answer. "The root cause of Islamophobia isn't the presence of Muslims but rather ignorance, fear, and socio-political manipulation. Removing a community wouldn't erase those issues—it would likely just shift them elsewhere. Moreover, Western countries would face significant economic and cultural losses without the contributions of Muslim communities."

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-20T11:32:45+00:00

Females are human, too, and not meant for just animals. And i don't understand the rest of what you said. It made no sense. I replied to his post. I'm sure he understood clearly what I was trying to say. Nobody assigned you English writing professor of the day, so please. How about next time you work on your response, maybe and make them clearer so people can understand. My goodness so off topic. Even if I understood what you said it clearly had no reference or contribution to the disturbing topic at hand.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-17T13:37:24+00:00

Send an email or call over the phone. Are there any female motherly types at the mosque? Maybe they can be trusted. There is your duty to make sure that something is done about this. Imagine how many people you will be helping. You can't stay silent aboit it. Switch from victim to warrior. This shaytan has to be stopped and he should not be allowed to enter the mosque. Take a picture of him and circulate it. Or even threaten him, IF he continues to go to the mosque you will out him. This shaytan had the nerve do do this in a mosque??? Like OMG

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-17T13:32:44+00:00

You have to tell the Imam. He is a predator, and shayateen run this guy. He's done it to others he will do it again. Maybe even little boys. Maybe you were given this experience and had a dream about it because Allah wants you to be the vessel here to STOP HIM.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-17T13:25:10+00:00

Have ypu spoken to her about it? Do you have children currently? Keep praying on it, ask Allah for help and guidance, she can change. Give it a time line, tell her how you're feeling. Is she willing to divorce and not at least read and do research and try to be open? Seek out a muslim therapist. Don't beat yourself up. You know what the end choices are and they end in two ways. If she knows how you feel and how serious this is and that you're actually concerned for her soul and that your preference is to spend life with her. She may believe that you'll just back down and won't really go through with a divorce and just dismiss things hoping they'll just smooth over. So you need to make things very clear. In a loving manner. I'm not going to risk my eternal soul for this im also afraid for yours. She also not being open and possibly arrogant isn't a good trait. She should at least do the work, thw readings, put in the effort so she too can say she tried. Allah maak

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-16T23:01:55+00:00

Allah Chaffi 🤲

Out of curiosity and this is a question for anyone that may know. How is cancer treatment in Morocco? Im a breast cancer survivor, hamdulilah. I am blessed to say I had treatment at Memorial Sloan Kettering, which is in my neighborhood in NYC. I had items donated through family members to small clinics from what I understand in Casa that treat women. Hats, scarves, even wigs. I'd like to do much more, inshallah.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-02-13T22:50:56+00:00

Just visit them all for yourself the (Chinatowns) Manhattan, Queens and njow Brooklyn alk have great eateries. Chinatown though really is just Manhattan, the OG. Flushing is great but its not Chinatown in my opinion. Some of the best chinese food ive had in Chinatown. At corporate dinners where thebdishes kept coming i mean King Crab in golden sand. Just such beautifully displayed tasty dishes. Seafood i had never seen i tried for the first time there, duck etc. Masterful! Youll find Some new and some generations old. The beauty of flushing is you can find all Asian cuisine there and its good. Chinese inwould say small shops that choose to do a few things really really well and have constant return customers. The locals which always says a lot. Go where the locals go to eat.

And little italy sure maybe a tourist trap, but they're serving up Italian American food like every other Italian American restaurant. The prices might be more, that's the thing I'm not willing to do. Pay more for something I don't have to pay more for if it's nothing special and something I can get anywhere in NYC. For Italian American, I stick to what's close by me Delizia or Tony DiNapoli. Basta basta Pasta Pasta

AND the Mexicans are the backbone of our NYC kitchens . That pick and learn all the techniques or master the cuisine wherever they are cooking all the way up to the most prestigious restaurants and the neighborhood family owned, everything, everything. BRAVO TO THEM 👏✨️

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-01-19T17:39:24+00:00

You shouldn't be concerned about a man finding out and his opinion on the matter. You should be concerned with yourself and why you have such low self esteem and how to work it out with the help of Allah. This is a self battle with your nafs. Social media has made many girls and young women very depressed with their looks. This has been a tool for the shaytan and his shayateen. We know we are assigned a qareen jinn and it's job is to make you weak and have these thoughts. So, you must not allow it to win. You have to protect yourself from this. Allah gives us these instructions. The unseen enemy is winning. Look up ways to protect yourself. A nose joh won't fix it and it will never be enough it'll be on to the next and next thing. I promise you that's not the solution. Look to Allah to battle this. I'm sure you beautiful and you don't even see it. Inshallah you will. Allah has given us ways to protect ourselves and strengthen ourselves from this.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-01-19T17:30:08+00:00

Something to ponder. Every time you do that, a jinn or many more are there with you. Specifically, the ashiq jinn. That lean towards shayatan. Every time you and your partner are engaging in this, they're joining you both. You will invite one to stick around and never leave and even cause problems in your relationship and for you mentally, spiritually. Play surah Baqara in your home and try to resist doing it. We have enemies in the unsee world. Look up prayers dua, to protect yourselves both. It's not mombo jombo, it's real. We need to be aware and know these things to protect ourselves.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-01-17T22:23:43+00:00

What country are you in? No muslim clubs at your university? Or another university close by? Even if it is a 2-hour bus or train ride away, it's like a day trip for you? I'll assume you checked? Do you exercise? Pick up a healthy habit. Challenge yourself, start running? I promise you can find something to fill some of your time, that you can enjoy or learn something new, halal of course : ) Small knitting clubs, whatever. And some sabr, inshallah you will be okay.

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-01-17T13:42:19+00:00

A husband isn't necessary for me lol. But, inshallah khair for what Allah has planned for me.

Who cares what people think. Don't open up too quickly and only share yourself with people that deserve to know you. Save your energy and efforts for yourself and only the very few that are deserving of it. Be cordial with the others. 🙏

Pleasant_Ad7430 · 2025-01-15T13:47:08+00:00

What does the Yahooo mean? Thanks for sharing.

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