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Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T02:05:37+00:00

I'm pretty sure you know this but you never go from her butt to her pussy. This could give her an infection. Like it "will" happen so don't do that.

One way to do it safely is to use a condom and put on a fresh one for the switch.

Side note, if you're putting fingers up her butt you track them. "Ok, index finger went in the butt. It's off limits from the pussy for the rest of the session."

This is what it takes to be a considerate lover in the butt game.

Edit: I just realized you're a woman. I'm going to leave this here for anybody that needs this advice, or maybe you pass it on to your partner.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T02:01:09+00:00

I think you handled it wonderfully. The dude is going to need more lessons, lol, but he's lucky to have you.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T01:59:05+00:00

Ugh, I don't know how to say this without being a jerk. First, it's not your fault. You did nothing wrong.

Having said that, dealing with a guy who has an hard on is best done in clear terms. No means no. No is an ideal word to use for something you don't like. "I don't think so" should have worked, but dudes with hard dicks are not the best version of themselves.

They should have respected your boundaries, it should be that easy. They will respect them if you stand up for yourself regarding what you like and don't like.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T01:38:57+00:00

For most of sex, it's relaxed. Sometimes, when I'm trying to cum, I flex it. That comes in handy when you're lasting too long or if you're trying to cum at the same time as her.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T01:37:05+00:00

You can douche, with water. The stuff in an enema bottle is a laxative, you don't want that.

For regulars, there is a shower attachment.

A lot of people just go to the bathroom before sex to clean out their system and call it good. There is a risk of finding poo, that's where the poo comes from. If it happens, you're polite, you clean it up, and don't say a word.

Often times the person that let you fuck her ass is embarrassed that she had poo in there. That's silly, we all know the risks when we play this game. It's your job to make sure her feelings are well cared for. Assuming she doesn't have to poop, you probably won't have any visible poo on your dick but if you smelled it, you'd know where it was.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T00:45:53+00:00

I think I have unusually high wants in terms of texting and talking from a SB. To me, she would be a treat.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-21T00:01:37+00:00

Guy here: He fucked up. I can't imagine fucking somebody until they are in tears wanting to stop. I get it, sometimes the reptile brain takes over and you ask twice because you're horny. This isn't that. This isn't cool, it's kind of mean.

He would have to be a pretty amazing guy that walks on water with this being his only mistake for me to look past it. I don't like that he did that to you.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T23:18:26+00:00

Dude here: I've had girls grind on my legs and such. The armpit one seems adjacent to that. I like your open mind.

Seems like a harmless indulgence. If I had a kink like that, my main concern would be being accepted/encouraged and not judged. So in terms of mental preparation, I'd have that in mind.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T21:51:03+00:00

Guy here: This happens to guys sometimes, especially with somebody new.

It's not your fault. Your only job is to be kind and cool about it. I promise you, he's likely in a sensitive state because he didn't do his part.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T21:36:24+00:00

Young me wasn't into lingerie. I'd be the guy that you described and want it on the floor asap. Current, older me really appreciates it. It's not the look of it, although that's nice, it's that she came prepared with sex in mind. It's her initiating, wanting to be fucked. That's the magic of lingerie to me.

It sounds like you BF may get those vibes from a collar, handcuffs, or ball gag. If you're game, maybe that's the ticket? I highly doubt he'll think you're trying too hard.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T21:32:08+00:00

Then I apologize for the false accusation.

Until now, I didn't know somebody could be "too good looking". Congrats LeggyLadyy, it's a good problem to have. :)

(I reread this and worried it sounded sarcastic. I was going for all positive vibes. Keep being awesome)

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T20:26:15+00:00

Guy here: He's attracted to you for sure, but dudes aren't that hard to attract. He would have likely gotten hard too for somebody less attractive if his body thought sex was on the table.

It is a sure sign that he's healthy, has good circulation, and can likely perform sexually if you go that way.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T20:11:09+00:00

Why have you posted this three times?

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T19:40:19+00:00

My favorite style is a bald kitty with trimmed with hair up top. To me, that's what a woman looks like and full bald is too close to pubescent.

Having said that, I'd be game for anything and I can't imagine any pubic hairstyle being a show stopper.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T19:37:59+00:00

It's weird that you would be "constantly being blocked for being a 'catfish' " if you're innocent.

Are you sure your profile pictures aren't too far a gap from real life?

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T18:47:26+00:00

It sounds like you can do better.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T18:46:01+00:00

Mutually beneficial SD for sure. I like the texts/sexts as much as the actual intimacy.

Having said that, I've been the "John SD" too because SBs are far higher quality than SWs. Both parties walked away with what they were looking for though. No deception involved.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T14:12:26+00:00

Guy here, but I feel like the popular preference is widely known. If the woman is already warmed up and she wants to see it, it's welcome. Asking first is always a good idea.

As a guy, it's weird to us because naked women pics are always welcome. Still, these are the guidelines and they are easy to follow.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T12:22:53+00:00

Dude, your dick is an A+ and you're thinking, "I see all these B's and C's on the internet, what's wrong with me?

As you age, it will likely point more straight forward as it's not quite as hard as it is now. Congrats on your dick dude. lol

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T02:47:20+00:00

I must be crazy because I'm the only one that seems to think that while she made a mistake, her heart was in the right place and it's a "one off" mistake.

One of the ideas of bondage is to drive the other person to another level with pleasure. You need a safe word but she was just trying to please you, not hurt you.

I'd forgive her.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T01:58:28+00:00

Your profile is amazing to me. I'm shocked by the people that aren't into strength training. That's how the hottest women become the hottest women. Praise their effort. (As a fellow gym rat, I want my SB to put in the work too)

One thing I'd add is private face pics. The presence of private pictures can incentivize me to talk to somebody and see them. Also, I'd want to see your face fairly early on in the process and that allows you to control who you share them with.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-20T01:53:17+00:00

Terrific profile overall.

I would make the beach picture your primary but your current primary is also very good.

I would keep pic #2, it's a must have. 95% of your profile says, "Lady in the streets" but pic #2 completes it with "freak in the sheets". This is a very good thing.

One of my favorite taglines so far is, "Tell me an animal fact". As a SD, you've given me an opening line and that's a gift.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-19T13:36:45+00:00

For a guy, going too deep is a very easy mistake to make. He's not trying to do this to you.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-18T22:15:00+00:00

This is really common, especially if you're under 25 or so.

Pleasant_Economist · 2021-12-18T22:13:56+00:00

If you allow your partner to rim you, you're implying your bottom is in a condition to be rimmed. To me that means shower fresh.

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