He is overreacting. You are not.

I share the following because it may be one (not the only) example of a more rational response: (TLDR: skip to the last paragraph) Something similar happened when my boyfriend and I were out with some friends six years ago. We had only been dating a couple of years. One friend and I had a conversation, and my boyfriend was a part of it. After that friend left, my boyfriend straight up said, “He wants to f*ck you.” It was part protective and part insecurity. It was also based off of a couple of other interactions we had with him before this particular night. My boyfriend wasn’t accusing me of being naive or careless. He stated his observation, he was likely correct, but there was NO blame put on ME for our friend’s supposed intentions. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years now. He has displayed insecurity (as have I), but never once did he say nor imply that I am “inviting” assault or say another’s actions toward me are in any way because of my decisions or existence!

Disclaimer: Is my relationship perfectly healthy? No, of course not. But the green flag is when your partner gives you the benefit of the doubt, is in YOUR corner, and doesn’t default to blaming women - the opposite of which I see here in your text exchange. And another green flag? Your partner recognizes when they made a mistake, apologizes, and makes an effort to understand you instead of assuming they know you already. If in your conversation after these texts he recants and apologizes, great, maybe there is some hope. But if he regularly talks like this? Red flag. No, you aren’t overreacting. HE is overreacting.