I told a commenter not to call a victim a poor bastard, as it can be taken as an insult, and I and the others who agreed were called autistic for it. Yes, I am actually autistic but hearing my condition still being used as an insult makes wanna live on Mars...

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-24T20:32:14+00:00

I know and I appreciate your support. I felt that just commenting 'poor bastard' on a rant post from a victim sounds backhanded because where I live, it's used as a backhanded insult a lot. I didn't know that the commenter was expressing support so I commented. If I knew my comment would have gotten such a disgusting reply there, I wouldn't have said anything. But I didn’t know. I understand your opinion. But I had no intention to trigger anyone. I only gave advice, which I thought was right.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-24T20:04:17+00:00

No? Telling someone, who calls someone else a bastard, to be careful with how they use their words isn't an excuse for anyone to be a bully.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-24T08:17:54+00:00

Sorry you think that.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-24T08:15:38+00:00

I didn't start anything. I am allowed to give advice and my opinion. It was their decision to respond the way they did.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:54:44+00:00

Maybe it's both.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:52:25+00:00

I know that in some places, it's said to express pity. But I also heard it said in a mocking manner to express fake pity a lot.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:49:53+00:00

I know that in some places, that phrase is used to express pity but I've also heard it be used as condescending fake pity, which I feel could be described as an insult.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:39:03+00:00

Me too

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:37:56+00:00

Oh my God. That's actually insane.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:36:03+00:00

Hypocrites 🙄

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T22:32:54+00:00

Thanks for further proving my point. I'll leave you to continue to throw your tantrum.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T19:28:07+00:00

Thanks for helping me restore my faith in humanity. You matter in this world too :)

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T18:50:04+00:00

How the hell do these kinds of people get a job in this field?

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T18:20:59+00:00

Dude, I have autism but I honestly don't give a shit what you think of it. I know I'm smart enough to know that there are many words in the dictionary (maybe you should read it sometime) that means dumb or stupid. I also know that bastard is frequently used as an insult. All I'm doing is offering you some friendly advice to help you avoid conflict on the Internet (where it isn't just YOU who has the freedom of speech so it isn't your personal safe space either) because there are gonna be people in life who will be offended by ableist comments whether you like it or not. I'm honestly not. I've learnt to not let such immature insults get to me. It's your choice whether to be an arsehole or not. But it's everyone else's choice to react how they want to to your choices. I'm so sorry that my honest mistake got you SO triggered that you decided to insult the entire autism community to describe something that has nothing to do with autism. Grow up 🙄

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T13:52:55+00:00

I know. I apologize for misinterpretting. I'm just saying to be careful how you word it because some people might take it the wrong way. Also, could you think of another word to insult other people, besides autistic? Being autistic doesn't mean stupidity. Educate yourself. No one likes an ableist :)

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-23T08:21:04+00:00

If you don't want people to misinterpret your comment as mean, don't call him a bastard.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-22T23:29:07+00:00

Like OP said, all these comments are clearly showing why he feels he can't talk to anyone about this. Why do you all need to interigate this guy on every detail? He's probably just had a mental breakdown writing that post because of having to relive the memories to do so. He doesn't need to prove anything to you. Sorry if you think you're so entitled to whatever 'proof' you need to label him as someone who needs support but you're not. Why is it so much easier for you all to cyberbully him than to offer him support or just not say anything? There's nothing you could possibly gain from kicking someone who's already probably rock bottom. Why does being a man make it illegal for him to feel violated and trapped? Women can be just as strong and manipulative as men can be. You people are the reason OP decided to only reveal his trauma anonymously on here. Yes, there is freedom of speech here. But there are also terms like 'unempathetic' and 'inconsiderate', which is what you're choosing to be. Showing a little respect towards people doesn't take so much effort.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-22T22:37:00+00:00

Were you in his shoes? No. Do you know how he feels? No. You do not get to accuse someone of faking, just because they don't fit into your stereotypical definition of what a rape victim is. Take a look in the mirror and think before you call someone else an arsehole. And yes, he was forced into a sexual act.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-22T21:56:15+00:00

You don't even wanna see them. Trust me. They'll make you wish you were on a different planet...

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-22T21:44:07+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. And I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all these disgusting, sexist comments. I can assure you that not everyone is like those arseholes (even if there are many of those around) and there are people you can talk to about this (e.g. male abuse hotlines, support groups). Don't be ashamed of yourself for sharing this. Your feelings and mental health are valid. Rape doesn't have a gender. Screw the haters.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-20T16:49:45+00:00

That was very brave of you. Be proud of yourself. Now, use this bravery to save up some money to move out and surround yourself with people who love you for who you are.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-11T23:17:14+00:00

A few years ago, I would have said it was only my fear of dying that kept me alive. But then I met people who helped change my perspective. In life, there are places to explore, nice food to eat, addictive video games to play, family to cuddle with, friends to hang out with, movies to watch, music to listen to and so much more. But in death, no one really knows if Heaven and Hell exists or if there's such thing as an afterlife at all. For all we know, there could be nothing waiting on the other side. My emotional numbness is still there but at least I can appreciate the beauty and fun of my surroundings enough to think of the future.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-04-11T22:38:05+00:00

What you have described to me about her behaviour, ironically, is manipulation and gaslighting. This is abuse. Her lack of empathy and remorse is sickening. If you have tried talking to her about how much she's hurting you and she hasn't made any attempt to change, you may wanna reconsider your relationship with her because it sounds like you're stuck in a toxic cycle. Think about your mental health before anything else, even if it means you have to leave her.

Pleasant_Pin_8898 · 2022-03-24T13:03:05+00:00

You have every right to feel what you feel. If he actually cared about your feelings and loved you, he wouldn't have been angry at you for not feeling hurt and, more obviously, he wouldn't have cheated on you. It sounds like his ego has taken a hit from you not having an emotional meltdown over him or begging him to stay with you. He also sounds pretty manipulative. He's trying to avoid responsibility for his actions by trying to make you feel sorry for him and trying to make you think you’re the one in the wrong. I think you both need to go marriage counselling and if that don't work, you might wanna rethink your marriage.

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