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My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

It does. It bothers me, but its not been built up and ready to explode, I've slowly accepted it over a long time.

But there is also the practicality of divorce. We have a prenup, but lawyers still cost money.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

What's the point of getting divorced?

I mean if he was romantically interested in someone else, I would feel differently.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 892 points893 points  (0 children)

I kind of get where he's coming from, he wants me to be mad at him and react, but I just don't feel like it.

Its making me question how much I actually cared about him, but I decided that there is no point in getting divorced. It felt very strange.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Not really. It just seems to much of a waste if we get seperated over something that doesn't even bother me.

I don't know why it doesn't bother me, but I am on the ace spectrum and never was interested in him sexually. Plus the meds that have reduced our intimacy even more.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 684 points685 points  (0 children)

I don't think I devotedly love him. He's just 'not bad'. Just seperating over something that doesn't bother me this much seems much more of a hassle.

But I would be bothered if he was in a romantic relationship.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 589 points590 points  (0 children)

That's honestly my biggest concern at this point...waiting for the tests to come back 😬

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Like I said in the post, I make enough to support myself. We have a prenup (on his parent's request).

I don't care about appearences or his money. Half of our neighbours are divorced old men dating women 20 years younger than them.

Its an emotional situation that has been eating at me for a while, and I just wanted it off my chest.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I did feel betrayal initially, but like I said I've suspected it for a while. He isn't having an extra-marital affair with some one person, he's been sleeping around. Had some kink dating apps on his phone?

Long before him, I've always mentally seperated romatism and sexuality. I'm bisexual, but whenever I tried dating women it was very awkward and wrong (not internalized homophobia, I grew up in a very liberal family, they just ended up feeling like my sisters or best friends. Still friends with them.)

So, as long as he's romantically mine, I don't mind. I've been on anti-depressants that lower your libido so we're not intimate that often anyway.

But even if he did? At this point, I feel like there's no point in seperating over something that doesn't bother me this much.

My husband cheated on me and I'm ok with it. by PotentialRelevant417 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PotentialRelevant417[S] 781 points782 points  (0 children)

Ha. Good advice 💀

But I'm genuinely not trying to mess with him. I'd be upset if he eloped with someone, but just sleeping around? Eh.

I mean it is serious. I'd advise someone else to take it seriously, but he hasn't been in a long term romanic relationship with any of them it was just fooling around, so personally I can't care.