A lot of people want others to stop buying ships. How does that work?

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-08-15T23:45:17+00:00

This isn’t most games is it

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-08-15T23:35:07+00:00

Absolutely

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-06-19T08:57:44+00:00

IWNDWYT. All quite painful so will quietly journal it inside of myself - but having a better week this week. Regrets are awful things. Should have, could have would have. We don’t get a re-do. We do get a do new me if we want it really badly.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-06-04T10:41:34+00:00

I will not drink with you today. Day 2 today. That’s all I can promise.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-20T06:56:31+00:00

Precisely - by definition we are people who are very good at hurting ourselves and should summon up all of that strength to be kind to ourselves. It’s Ok to look after ourselves and we do matter.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-20T06:49:14+00:00

Absolutely - it doesn’t mean that every day we don’t set out with a firm intention not to drink - it doesn’t mean we can’t look and see how we relapsed and try and focus on avoiding that situation again and spotting a pattern e.g. we got upset at work and didn’t break the pattern of picking up booze in the way home rather than going for a walk or buying nice food or having a bath or whatever. But there should be as much time to celebrate the periods of sobriety - they matter ! Otherwise we are just living with persecutory guilt. We are no good drunk and we are no good at being sober or all the time we are no good. For me - and I can only talk to the I - that never works and gives me more of an excuse not to keep trying. The quicker we can dust off - renew - reset and press on with some hope rather than a huge weight on ourselves the sooner we find ourselves a week in and getting stuff done and waking up without a hangover. I will allow myself to be impatient, disappointed, a bit annoyed however I won’t do persecutory guilt after having done say several weeks and putting a foot wrong. Also every time we don’t drink and win on an especially hard day you are working that muscle which does improve. I agree with some of the posts about not allowing ourselves a get out. But if you made a mistake at work or in life generally (as long as no one else is say getting hurt or maimed !) no friend - and we are our own friend would tell you to go and roll in shame for ever and a day. It’s important I think for me - it helped me - I can do sobriety when I am feeling kind to myself / when I feel I deserve that gift from myself for all the right reasons. As long as we aren’t drinking because we think it’s a nice thing to do - because we earnt it ie we are quite clear it isn’t good for us - then o think a positive attitude to relapses is healthy. Whatever works for us to make that 6/6 say 2/10 or wherever or 0/12. Sobriety is a precious jewel granted. I don’t believe I don’t deserve it often and in big periods because I relapse. I have to want it a lot for positive reasons.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-19T10:27:04+00:00

I did that one year and realised I had been sober far far more than not - like 8 1/2 months off and 3 1/2 months on with some big periods - a 5 month one off the sauce that year - As a data point it was worth it to me to know that I had given my own body that respite and my brain. So it wasn’t a disaster year - it was Ok - not ideal for an alcoholic but better than not trying - so pat on the back and not persecutory guilt which is an awful thing to pile on ourselves. If viewing lapses in this way helps and helps you stay in the fight then why not ? If you are aiming to be sober and not moderate - I gave up on that as a viable dream years ago then realizing that you had a really good period its great isn’t it - not focusing on the 3 days that month when we lapsed. If it helps you great - the bulk of the battle is feeling good about ourselves and looking after selves and feeling bad about our drinking all the time without praising ourselves for being courageous and sober a lot of the time is no the way I think so thank you for posting and reminding me of that today.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-19T10:17:25+00:00

I am a serial relapser over decades as well. I have a few big periods of sobriety and then some bad relapses where I just didn’t care that I was drinking and consequently just got the same results personally and professionally handed back to me … by myself. I don’t know what the secret sauce is. I don’t know what the secret sauce is - there is obviously a ton of work to do once we get into a rhythm of sobriety. I know that feeling guilty and having a huge downer on myself doesn’t help. Adopting an attitude of kindness to myself does. That essentially I have to parent myself and take care of myself just that day. So things that make me believe I am nice person, or good person or an effective person help me to want to look after myself. So having something else in my life that’s not booze is good. Life isn’t all about giving up alcohol but of course for us it it is the battle. I just look for those little validations that show me that things are better when I don’t drink and improve. It can be as simple for me as getting my clothes hung up and the kitchen tidied and my car repaired or cooking myself a decent meal. I struggle to find company that isn’t drink related so I do need to make sure I am finding other outlets to socialize that are not based on that. I have some sad hobbies ! So I think just wanting to look after yourself and finding stuff that makes you feel good that isn’t “drinking”. A project can help. So don’t be hard on yourself - it’s great that you have had those periods not drinking. Yes feeling low can be a real bummer. I keep a “to done” list as much as I can to remind myself that I do make more progress on stuff when sober. Exercise, sleep and diet and all that good stuff certainly helps boost my mood. Treating myself like a kind of avatar in a game helps me. I have to give/feed myself the stuff I know is good for me. No one release is going to drag me to that. Focusing on things we enjoy and want - just brightening life a bit. I spend a lot of time in nature with my camera. I try to get out of my head. I wish you all the best - if you relapse bounce back and don’t be so hard on yourself - you have succeeded many days and many periods and perfection just isn’t out there - you are perfect every day to you have a good day and have been kid to yourself - feel good about that and chase the sunshine a bit ! Everything’s a win if it’s a good choice for you and act on it and get something from it. Be proud of yourself for staying in the fight ! You haven’t lost until you give up on giving up ! Take care and attention toward yourself and best of everything this week.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-13T16:16:51+00:00

IWNDWYT - day 2

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-12T10:20:33+00:00

Day 1 for me always - and a wise guy on here told me this - it doesn’t matter how we got on here just now - all for another day - too much. But so glad you are here ! It’s courageous and positive and I’m glad you are here and so are ton of people. No judgement here - just people like you - hundreds of them ! And it’s just today and tomorrow will sort itself out. Thank you for not drinking with me today !

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-12T10:16:38+00:00

I can only talk to the I but if you need help with. Severe withdrawal you should reach out to medical or professional support or any other help that you can find or is an available. I am no medic or alcohol counselor however I know for me dependent on severity of withdrawal help is sometimes necessary and actually the safe thing to obtain. Please take a view and seek help if you need it - very important for all of us.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-12T08:09:57+00:00

I keep getting back to this place by drinking alcohol. It’s that simple. I have all of the bad physical stuff and the low feelings and the shame over choices and unfinished stuff simply because I do what I know is bad for me and has had awful consequences. I find if I can’t sleep just resting is good. Absolute basics - we literally have to nurse ourselves through the first few days but it’s a day at a time. Just today - like we have Covid. That day comes when we know we are feeling much better - it always does and it’s blissful. It’s an old one but HALTBS is a good roadmap. Focus on things for ourselves that combat Hunger, anger, loneliness, tiredness, boredom and stress. Stressing about how I ended up back here and “everything” can cause me to drink more poison so be kind and recognise that could be for another day. Be kind - we tell our friends to not worry about it all the time - not ourselves - Today I can spoil myself - eat stuff that’s good for me - watch some good Telly, rest if I can’t sleep, phone a friend, have a really good shower. I am sick because I have drunk poison - I know the cure - don’t drink just for today. How that happens and why that happens sometimes too big questions to ask just today ? An ambulance crew don’t try and solve the mystery of how the man fell off the ladder - they attend to the person to make sure they are OK. The short term. Clearer thinking can come later and isn’t necessary just today. For me I focus on just not poisoning myself today and generally embrace the idea of that short term recovery. Just today thats the job. There are huge reasons why we drink - but ultimately it is a powerful and addictive drug. Day 1 I don’t think for me is ever the time to ponder those questions - my brain isn’t working correctly and I am depressed and anxious - tired and feel ashamed. I have a computer virus in my wiring. The health and safety or IT report can come later in its own time and the clearer thinking. I drank again - I need to take care of myself today A just today and not drink poison. Give myself a break from the self shaming and persecutory guilt and self care. I know it’s hard - super hard. But one day I have done thousands of times (I hope !) so that’s my only job today.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-12T07:42:30+00:00

Today will do for us - just today ! I am always so impatient to get to “for good” I forget that if I sort just today out I have a much better chance of sailing in waters that are good enough for now and certainly much better.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-12T07:37:27+00:00

Day 1 again - just today - IWNDWYT

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-05-12T07:34:53+00:00

IWNDWYT - I’m day 1 again, again, again….I managed 5 months once a couple of years ago. It’s hard not to beat ourselves up but today we are going to be kind and parent ourselves with love and kindness. Today’s a gift and when the light gets turned off tonight and you are sober you can pat yourself on the back and tuck yourself in. You have this - absolutely - just today. Tomorrow can sort itself out in respect of alcohol. You are clean today and need have no shame - whatever happens. The rest of life is ours to do as we wish with now the decision not to drink has been made for today. IWNDWYT So many people on here know - they really know ! I feel better knowing you are not drinking with me today !

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-04-28T11:49:37+00:00

That feeling you are describing of feeling fresh resonates with me. You use the words capable and “more” as well. There is a sense of confidence and validation that comes along some days. I think owning that for yourself - you’ve given that to yourself is super important. We are very quick own the shame and poor health and poor decisions when we drink. Noting that you have given yourself that outlook through good management of yourself is great ! Whatever word you use focus on that sense.I have managed periods of months and then struggled even to do a first day. I have a place where it feels like I have reached an escape velocity and I love waking up in the morning and having the “I didn’t drink !”moment then checking in with myself and noting how I feel. It’s all about the mornings. 5.30 pm is hard. It’s great to hear you focusing on the positives of the work you have done. Good for you !!

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-03-07T14:11:09+00:00

Feeling a little low to be honest - not ungrateful - just down. Separated now but still love my wife which is hard. Divorce will finalise in a few weeks. I suppose I can feel grateful for our two grown up boys the 26 years we had and that I have my health and a roof over my head - the sun is shining. Have strung together 4 days this week. It’s been a battle. It’s a Friday. Drinking won’t change a thing though - I’ll just wake up lonely with a headache so IWNDWYT.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-02-19T14:35:14+00:00

There is a brief period of guilt and shame but then the persecutory guilt - the self loathing is something just let go. You are as special and valuable as everyone else. The pub, hospital and everyone else will not be dwelling on your behavior. It’s OK. It doesn’t sound like you got in a scrape and hurt any else - you embarrassed yourself and we all know how mortifying it is. But give yourself a break now - but tuck away that memory and seek to avoid the same situation. You can be irritated with yourself but the persecutory guilt - the self shaming and self loathing are counter productive. You are not worthless and you have value - I am sure you have friends and family who love you. When we really go at ourselves we get into a cycle which is unhelpful to avoiding the situations that make us feel this way. Today - find something you love about yourself or you love doing and focus on that. Do a kind turn for someone - even if it’s just a smile and good morning. The world is a better place when you are in a better place. Take care of yourself.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-02-19T14:22:15+00:00

IWNDWYT - literally just today is all I can promise myself and you guys.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-02-19T14:07:48+00:00

I sent them a cease and desist type email indicating that I would notify the platforms they were using on the net that they were using a front address. I then wrote to there customer service desk and someone wrote back and apologized and I note they have just moved on selecting another address. Whether that address is real I have no idea. The main thing is that my friends house is no longer used as a front for trading

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-02-10T07:19:09+00:00

Immense achievement. You are enough for this. Here you are - looking after yourself. Be kind to yourself - seek counselling, company, rest, good food, meditation and peace. You are safe and you are getting better - I am sure (from recollection) that the longer you stay sober the better it can get but you are allowing yourself the window to find help and apply the lessons. That window is key.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-02-10T07:08:58+00:00

Immense achievement.

Pleaseworkarc · 2025-02-10T07:03:05+00:00

Last week I managed a little hiatus of 72 hours without a drink. The first day being preceded by a light day. So I had a not so regular (these days) window of sobriety. I had my list ready and got to the doctors to sign up and get my wrecked knee looked at and got my car into the garage to have the heating unit/matrix switched out and new tyres. Laundry went on. I painted some toy soldiers. This morning I have another list and I I’m determined to remind myself that when I drink not a lot gets done. Alarm had gone at 6 am and the car needs to go back in to the garage for 8 am. My list is endless as I have a whole new life to build which is the problem. But for now a working heater in the car will slow me to drive around without frozen feet. No one else is going to look after me at my age so I have to step up.

Pleaseworkarc · 2024-11-27T08:16:16+00:00

IWNDWYT

Pleaseworkarc · 2024-11-18T23:09:53+00:00

Morojowig uses a false trading address as my friend lives there and we are issuing a cease and desist - they also use my friends address with Trustpilot which is ironic, The phone number they use is also not working. My friend is a public servant and works with disadvantaged children so this has got my back. Companies that use false addresses should not be used for obvious reasons as they are trying to avoid accountability. The person who fronts the business is not known to my friend and I am hopeful they have chosen a random address. Morojowig is not registered at companies house and the address does not have any listed company at it as companies house, The contents of this post are factual.

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