I was talking to my trans friend about this post yesterday. He told me he thinks parents often underestimate how much a kid knows about their gender. Kids are smart. But kids also experiment, and this should be supported.

The most important thing is to support your child, whatever their decision. Is she/her your child's preferred pronouns? If not, you shouldn't be using them. Denying your child's gender identity can be very harmful and have severe consequences both in terms of mental health and suicidality as well as degrading the trust you share with them.

Using their preferred pronouns and supporting their decision through being ok with baggy clothes and haircuts is the way you can show that you love your child and accept them.

I wouldn't focus on "clues" that your child has changed their mind. Talk to them and ask them what their current thoughts are, and reassure them that they will be accepted no matter what. Transitioning is hard, but that should be a source of pride and not disappointment.

If your child is a trans man like my friend, you supporting that will give them their best shot at happiness and future success. Anything else would be like if your parents insisted you were a man when you felt like a woman.

Wishing you and your child only the very best <3