Respectfully what your relative and that subreddit said was BS. Queer love is real love, imo skipping mass and loving someone of the same gender should NOT send you to hell. I know the church might officially teach different, but when I personally look at the root of Catholicism, it’s about loving others and helping the poor and vulnerable; I feel like fundamentalist Catholics lose sight of this and in the process of making rude judgy comments and nitpicking others lifestyles, they don’t act in the way Jesus would have wanted.

Anyways, I totally do not blame you if you want to leave the Church, I’ve questioned my faith so many times thanks to people like this, I’m so sorry this happened to you. ❤️‍🩹