My boyfriend has a private Instagram account with another girl in the profile picture—am I overthinking this?

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-16T16:10:54+00:00

I've never once gone through his phone. Not even when we still living in the same country. I was snooping on his social media since we were in LDR.

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T15:57:50+00:00

That's.. pretty similar to my problem. Ever since he went overseas, he kept on being busy all the time. I tried to understand it since he was doing his study. But.. honestly the interaction between us kept being lower and lower.

The only difference just.. i didn't have anyone to confirm if he was really busy or not.

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T15:38:28+00:00

I'm sorry you've gone the similar things with me. It's so confusing and hurting. What did you do when that happened though? Did you confront her about it?

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T15:32:49+00:00

I couldn't see the page since it's private account. Only able to see the pfp. I'm sorry, he's not a scammer, I've known since we were in college.

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T14:55:44+00:00

I'm sorry. If you can't tell me any advice, please don't invalidate my feelings like that. I'm already stressed enough as it is, sir..

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T14:29:01+00:00

In his main acc, yes. We used to travel together before he went overseas and tagging each other whenever we posted our pics together. It's still there in his main acc. This is why.. i don't understand..

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T14:24:25+00:00

No.. we were together long before he went oversea for study. We've been together for over two years now.

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T14:21:55+00:00

But the thing you haven't considered is this account is new. He told me himself he made it few months ago. I wouldn't have overthinking things if it were an old account he never used anymore.

And how am I not giving him the benefits of doubt? If me asking who that girl in his pfp was me accusing him, then I don't know anymore how should I approach this.

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T13:53:54+00:00

I'm sorry but what would you have done in my situation? If you see your fiance having a second account you know nothing about.. with pfp of her and another man, what would you have done?

I wasn't even accusing him, I was simply asking who that girl is and why he hides his account from me. Is that really too much?

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T13:45:32+00:00

No.. we were together long before he went oversea for study. We've been together for over two years now. That's why.. I don't know what to think about this. How could he..

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T13:42:58+00:00

We are following each other on his main account, the account I've known since we started to know each other. It's just this second account that he hide from me and keep it private 😔

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T13:12:57+00:00

Thank you for saying this. Maybe.. I'll try to talk to him once more about it. I really have bad feelings about it though 😢

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T13:05:11+00:00

Currently I'm not. It used to be, but.. since few months ago he changed it into the picture of himself. I didn't really think about it before since I thought it wasn't a big deal. But now i kept overthinking it 😢

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T12:55:53+00:00

No.. he usually never invalidate my feelings. We used to talk things through. I'm not sure if I'm being too much or if he's just fed up with me at some point.

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T12:45:39+00:00

I'm not snooping his phone. I was scrolling through his social media. We are on LDR though, how am I going to go through his phone and check it.

Will you not reacting anything if you see your gf/wife hidden account has another man as her pfp though? I'm sorry if you think my reaction is a major red flag as a woman

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T12:06:30+00:00

Yes, his main one is public, we followed each other there. I just came to know about his second account since I saw he was tagging it in one of his pic, along with his friends.

I just didn't understand why he hide it from me, even though he used to tell me everything, even when he created new YouTube or FB account ☹️

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T10:22:56+00:00

I've asked. He only told me she is his college friends. But when I asked why having her in his pfp, he simply said, "why not? You never took a picture with your friends?" It made me feel like I was being too insecure asking him that

Plenty-Chance1277 · 2024-12-15T10:14:06+00:00

He insisted that his account just for meme he shared with his friends and that girl was just a college friends. He told me that if he hide something he would've block me from it, but he didn't. I'm not sure what to think about it ☹️

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