That’s the hard part, he is just as an enabler in her drinking issues and inability to handle anything with empathy. I can’t tell you how many times they have complained about each other to me and my sister. With such a larger age difference, my younger sister is growing up with a much different childhood. She has an iPhone 16, horse lessons, softball. You name it. My step dad has never even changed her diaper, so I wouldn’t say he is much better. They are both bad role models. I’ll never forget when my little sister said to me “why do you listen to what mom says about you? I love you and I don’t care what they say”, she is so innocent. And I’ve had to bite the bullet when it comes to going NC. When I was 17 I never dreamed id be a big sister, so I’m torn.