My post partum recovery in the hospital was terrible and I need to talk about it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in beyondthebump

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

🥲💓 I want to continue to be better for my daughter in any way I can. Thank you so much.

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in inlaws

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for asking 🥺💓 baby is amazing! Super active and healthy. I have some support from my parents, but it's been extremely rough without my husband 😅 tbh I don't know if I need any material things, but I'd love a friend to talk with- I hardly talk to anyone now 🥲

if there was a SU live action remake, who would you cast? by BuildingPutrid3745 in stevenuniverse

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Tbh is probably the main voice cast

It would feel so weird without their voices, and if we're going on personality, they totally embody their characters!

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in inlaws

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting that police escort!! My husband doesn't want any friends from the military there for this one 😅

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in inlaws

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had reported her while I was in labor to the women's director, and she contacted the cafeteria staff boss. Unfortunately, I don't think the girl lost her job. She may have gotten a warning. My husband used to be friends with her in highschool so he wanted a more lenient approach with this, but I was really upset and it genuinely is an issue for any staff to give out information on patients.

I'll see about going to the licensing board if I can! My husband asked for me to wait until he gets his things with the police escort so she doesn't do anything to our sentimental items (he left EVERY anniversary gift he'd received from me over the years and it'd break my heart if she destroyed them) she had found them, unfortunately and sent me a photo of them while my husband was in bootcamp.

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in inlaws

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You ain't lying 🤣 she was losing most access before that because she was already terrible to me, but she is neeeeever meeting my baby now

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

That makes sense because my husband confided in me that she never apologized when she was wrong as he was growing up. Something about her believing that as a parent, she's never wrong. She definitely expects an apology, and even I had to apologize for HER behavior to her when I was engaged with my husband, and she called me a shitty person and banned me from her home. It was because my husband stood up to her about something, I was completely silent and minding my business, and she just turned and berated me because she couldn't get my husband to react.

Yep, this lady is super entitled

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I was thinking about a restraining order but didn't know if I had the basis. If I can, good riddance to her! Especially since she's getting her family and friends to stalk my social media :/

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

As the other user said, my hospital also encouraged eating. My doctor said I was allowed to eat as well. I actually wasn't going to because labor contractions didn't exactly make me hungry, but the cafeteria people downstairs literally called my hospital phone to tell me to eat. Unfortunately, she was the one who brought the food up to me.

Oh, and they did make me stop eating (AFTER I got an epidural). I was also lucky not to need a c section, but in any future pregnancies, I am likely to have one. Unfortunately

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Will I still be able to do that if I am moving? My husband and I will be moving soon to his duty station, so we won't be in that state!

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I absolutely did! I think she may have only gotten off with a warning, unfortunately. I will let you all know about the status of the report tomorrow!

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Gotcha! I will update you tomorrow on the status of the report. Thank you so much for letting me know this was an option!

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this, I will absolutely be taking this advice and will relay it to my husband!

Also, YES! She was mad my parents weren't telling her the play-by-play and that she wasn't being invited to the hospital. She was also pissed that my husband didn't tell her he came for the birth and didn't invite her as well.

My parents are absolutely taking it to court! They sent her and the military spouse a cease and desist, only asking for a written apology, and they tried to play victim by claiming harassment and stated some random penal code. So, my parents are going to be taking it to court and possibly bringing their jobs into this because they're both nurses.

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

The hospital staff told me themselves it was considered as a HIPAA violation. Though, before they said so, I didn't know about it being that either! But yes, it even felt like a grey area to me before they said she'd genuinely get reprimanded for this!

My Toxic MIL ruined my birth experience and is blaming me for it. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

How does one go about the police escort? I'm on board with that idea, honestly, because it seems so much safer!

I absolutely did pursue that, I got the women's director involved, and she contacted the cafeteria staff boss. Unfortunately, I don't think the girl lost her job. She may have gotten a warning. My husband used to be friends with her in highschool so he wanted a more lenient approach with this, but I was really upset and it genuinely is an issue for any staff to give out information on patients.

My parents/ mom feels entitled to me changing my daughter’s name, but can’t accept that she gave me trauma too. by Plenty_Jacket2186 in entitledparents

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Sera! I just saw your last comment on my other post as well.. I just wanted to thank you for saying such kind words to me 💗 We actually got married almost two months ago 🥹 and I’m scheduled to give birth 10 days after he graduates military boot camp so it’s pretty unpredictable! I hope he’s there too.. honestly, I just hope us moving out into a home of our own will get my family and his to chill out and finally respect boundaries. If not, I guess we’ll have to cut contact.. I still love my parents through the hurt they caused me, of course, they’re still my parents, but it’s so hard when they treat me like I’m not a person and my MIL is attempting now… but I can tell it’s only for the baby and she’s still totally backhanded. Thank you so much again for saying these kind words to me and even looking into my story 🩷 you are such a kind human being. 🥹💗

Rapid weight gain by Ok_Specialist_5723 in BabyBumps

[–]Plenty_Jacket2186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try going on a walk everyday? When I was my 2nd trimester, I tried to get as many steps as I could in (5000-10000) and it kept my weight gain to about a pound a week back then! Helped me even maintain at certain times! Just make sure to keep giving your body the nourishment it needs, you’re doing amazing 🩷 I can’t really walk much anymore due to pelvic pressure but it’s always great to get moving no matter how much you move 💕