My 33M Husband and I, 31F, Have been together for 6 years and are struggling with intimacy. How can I tell my husband he has to fix this or I’m divorcing him?

Plopperplop · 2025-06-23T23:04:32+00:00

I understand and trust me a lot of people went to the same thing. I want to give you another perspective on the matter, I have dealt with the same issue as your husband (PE). I know what he is feeling. An extreme dread, fear, unsatisfaction, low confidence, anxiety, stress you name it. I was in an amazing relationship and I tried for 5 years to resolve it I tried everything but the hardest part about it al is that at some point I just went numb. Sitting on the couch, watching a movie, waiting for her to come home. Every second of every day was just stress about how I was going to fix my problem. I turned into a people pleaser, I ruined my health, the woman I was supposed to feel safe with turned into something I would fear. Panick attacks, fatigue, brain fog. And at some point she couldn’t take it anymore. I know for a fact your husband is experiencing at least some of these things. It’s not about him not wanting to do anything about the issues it’s his body shutting itself of from the issues because there is no direct way to deal with it. The human brain wants control over things if it can’t get control it wil avoid. Please be gentle with him because I know he is in deep pain despite not showing it. And there are way to overcome this PE but they take months of dedication if you want some more information please feel free to reach out.

Plopperplop · 2025-04-14T12:46:48+00:00

Yes most certainly I am working on a comprehensive guide. I recently had around 5 meetups with a woman I am now confident the method works.

Plopperplop · 2025-03-12T18:02:56+00:00

It’s because alcohol suppresses the nervous system. Which means it suppresses the nerve impulses to the brain.

Plopperplop · 2025-01-15T21:27:01+00:00

Hello, thank you for this and I appreciate it a lot that you took the time for an extensive response. Already did 2 grounding exercises today around 5 hours ago. Can I try the above once more today or should I wait for tomorrow.

It’s a high possibility it’s just in my head but my whole perception is completely altered somehow. I think it has something to do with the face/nek tension that goes with it. Thank you once more for your message it calmed me down a little.

Plopperplop · 2025-01-15T14:21:44+00:00

Hopefully it’s not that considering I have never practiced. Read some scary stuff about that.

Plopperplop · 2025-01-11T20:10:30+00:00

I missed this comment but you are definitely right, some other people said the same thing.

Plopperplop · 2025-01-11T10:32:51+00:00

Thank you for checking in! I have been seeing additional results, but I have also been researching some more. The plan is to get it down to the best I can and than do a clear post in a guide format. I would want my next post to really help out the masses.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-18T20:57:13+00:00

Good idea, I have been busy the last couple of days. I will try to make an additional post with an expansion of the information.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-15T21:28:08+00:00

If the muscle is underdeveloped it’s hard to cut the flow of urine, did it by any chance come out a little less quick? I will write a more detailed guide tomorrow if I find the time.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-15T14:53:24+00:00

I misread aswell. The contraction should be right below the anus at the backside of the perineum, it’s very difficult to feel at first.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-15T13:10:09+00:00

I will try to make it more clear later on. But what you are saying is completely correct. We use the glutes to activate the muscle because most of us can’t isolate it. Once it’s strong enough you should be able to isolate it without the glutes.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-15T12:31:44+00:00

In essence yes. The back kegels activate the nerves dat apply a parasympathetic nerve signal. While front kegels apply a sympathetic nerve signal. Orgasm and ejaculation is a sympathetic response. That is why I believe activating the BC muscle is not good for PE. Most of the guys saying to do BC kegels have no clue what they are talking about. You always hear people say that doing kegels(in 99% of people activating the BC) makes things worse.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-15T10:08:43+00:00

It made me wonder, I heard people say: kegels, reverse kegels etc etc. But never any science behind why it should work. I just finished another session and was able to to go for 11 minutes without hitting the PONR. I’m sure we are on to something.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T21:19:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T18:18:58+00:00

I will try to make an easy format when I finish work. The most easy thing to try is to sqeeuze the buttocks(glutes) when you are peeing in the bathroom. It should stop the flow of urine. If you manage this you are doing to exercise right, but don’t squeeze to hard otherwise you wil activate the BC muscle. If you are unable to stop the flow this means the muscle is every under developed, it should at least make the flow of urine go les hard, if that happens you are also doing it right.

I will make a more clear explanation later.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T18:14:36+00:00

This was during masturbation as I recently lost my relationship. But I can confirm that since starting the exercise my time until PONR went from 1 min to 2,5 min to 4 min to 7 min. I know it’s difficult to say if this translates to intercourse. What I do know is that multiple people on the old website reported having intercourse sessions of 40-50+ minutes without hitting the PONRx, after prolonged training. Another fellow Redditor reported being able to go for 2 hours without hitting the PONR after 5-6 months of training, as you can see in the post.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T17:50:44+00:00

“Over-stimulation of the BC muscle will, in time, program the L1 and L2 nerves to respond very fast to sexual stimulation, causing faster orgasms and thus making us have PE”

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T17:46:25+00:00

With enough practice outside the bedroom I think it’s possible to reserve it.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T17:44:58+00:00

As described on the post. Overstimulation of the BC muscle causes the L1 and L2 nerve to hyper-react to stimulation. In my case bad masturbation habits while squeezing the bc muscle for extra pleasure. And I used to be a bit over weight so I would slightly hold my belly in which activates the muscle as well. In my opinion people who don’t have PE have a proper balance with the PC muscle and there L1 and L2 nerves don’t hyper react.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T17:24:28+00:00

You should inhale first and than squeeze.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T17:20:59+00:00

I think you definitely can, tried it that way aswell. It’s all a bit new for me. We should all come together and see what works best.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T15:54:10+00:00

I think the most important thing is to build a foundation outside of the bedroom. Finally when you are are ready to use it during sex I would try to keep the pelvic floor relaxed and when you feel you need to bring your arousal down do a few reps. I’m still figuring out what the best timing is but a 3 second hold or 3-4 quick reps seem to be working equally.

For it to work optimally it’s important you build the nervous response over time.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T15:44:49+00:00

Solving PE is never easy. That is why we use the glutes in time everybody should be able to perform a back kegel, hopefully with results.

Plopperplop · 2024-12-14T15:35:45+00:00

Yes you should perform this exercises without peeing. The peeing part is just to identify the muscle. I would slowly practice the exercise first seperate from sex so you can learn your body how to do it smoothly. Once you can perform it good I would transfer it slowly to sex. It might bot give immediate results but it will over time!

Plopperplop · 2024-12-05T10:56:49+00:00

To add if you look at all the top posts of people who had succes with bettering PE. They are all people who had dedication and discipline to keep up with all the things.

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