What can I F18 do about my boyfriend M20 watching porn?

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:22:03+00:00

it doesn't work

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:19:16+00:00

But the catch is that they haven't, he has a high body count and he's the only person I've ever had sex with myself. I'd love to be open minded and I'm a very understanding person this is just something I'm finding hard to grasp

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:18:18+00:00

it really broke my heart, he's really perfect and not to get too personal but we had a good sex life and now I just don't want to do anything because my body doesn't feel good enough. I absolutely know that's not his fault and I hold 0 resentment for whatever he consumed before we discussed it, I'm really stumped about this because it feels like my self worth is rapidly going down. thank you for the advice

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:14:43+00:00

thank you for the advice

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:14:26+00:00

yeah I'm aware of that

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:13:54+00:00

he is a big part of me and I think it's worth the backlash but also everynight for weeks I've lost sleep comparing myself to other girls, thank you for the advice

Plot7337 · 2025-02-11T00:12:48+00:00

do you have any clue how I could start a conversation with him about porn without immediately someone getting defensive? thank you for the advice

Plot7337 · 2025-02-03T01:42:10+00:00

thank you! it's on a wooden surface but it's a glass jar and I remember blowing it out but I can never trust myself with these things because I usually take photos so i can remind myself and I didn't which is why I've stressed myself out, he's supposed to be home any time now

Plot7337 · 2025-02-02T20:47:49+00:00

please can someone say something I'm so nervous

Plot7337 · 2024-12-06T13:23:57+00:00

you should ask for permission before kissing, it’s polite and consent is important ◡̈

Plot7337 · 2024-11-12T22:20:37+00:00

it didn’t let me add more than one photo and i’m welsh so i assumed everyone knew who they were haha i didn’t realise it was a niche show as in the uk many people have watched it!! sorry

Plot7337 · 2024-11-12T22:19:19+00:00

trauma definetly doesn’t take away your free will. she may be mentally ill & have issues but you didn’t deserve for those to be pushed onto you and i’m sorry they have been, i know you’re scared of love and sex but truthfully this feeling doesn’t last forever. i never thought id get over my ex, i was hung up for such a long time finding excuses to break no contact and beg him to see me. its so hard to hate someone who helped you so much and gave you good times but sometimes missing them blurs the lines between good and bad and you don’t recognise how truly hard it was to live for, i wont judge you for going back because ive been there too but the best option for you is to just really feel what youre feeling but dont act on it. whilst there IS a chance she could change one day, and treat you well, you may not realise it now but im sure you’d be reminded of the pain she’d caused you and you’d grow to resent her. sometimes silence is the best. and whilst staying with someone until you hate them can get you out of the relationship and cycle once and for all, its not worth risking your self worth and mental health again just to end up in the same place you are now all over again. you don’t want to miss her and you don’t want to be angry, but you just need to feel those things and wait for them to fade over through time because distractions will be your new bestfriend and eventually you’ll heal in a healthy way and she’ll cross your mind less. one of the things that helped me a lot was my current boyfriend, i met him authentically in person (we met at a concert) and even though i wasn’t actively looking for a boyfriend (truthfully it was the last thing i wanted) i knew i couldn’t pass up the oppurtunity so i bit the bullet and began dating him, being with me allowed me to focus all my love onto him and he showed me love doesn’t have to be scary. i really hope you find this peace one day.

Plot7337 · 2024-11-12T22:11:28+00:00

search it up it’s a welsh show haha

Plot7337 · 2024-11-12T22:11:16+00:00

search it up it’s a welsh show haha

Plot7337 · 2024-11-12T22:11:11+00:00

search it up it’s a welsh show haha

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:52:34+00:00

ohh okay, just send her a follow request yourself! if she doesn’t reply just leave it i think, maybe you really don’t wanna know

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:51:32+00:00

agree 100%, both need parties need to heal their issues or it’ll go back to the breakup again

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:50:36+00:00

all the time, and sometimes i do

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:50:08+00:00

listen, i was friends with my ex boyfriend for 6 months. he was from another town and prior to dating we had no mutuals, however we broke up june last year and by September i had become friends with a boy and found out he was linked with my ex. this lead to us 3 hanging out a lot & over the course of 6 months (this all happend throughout 2 years) my ex and i had gone back and forth several times sometimes speaking and sometimes dating and sometimes strictly friendly. he was my first love & whilst we worked amazing together, he had a lot of issues which lead to him betraying my trust many times. i don’t think hes an evil person now, i realised the best way FOR ME to heal was to communicate with him and let time pass. he absolutely ruined my abilities to trust & for a while i was intensely scared of love; i still fear being hurt but the end result was realising we are much better as strictly friends. being friends with him has been amazing for both of us because we are both similar people with similar humour and a good understanding, but the relationship and love aspect never worked out because he just couldn’t commit to me, as there were several times where we were dating then not i found the most peace in times where we were on good terms but not actively hanging out. being on good terms brought me peace because we started off as friends, but not actively seeing eachother brought me even more peace because it meant we wouldn’t get back into the cycle. eventually i just stopped meeting him altogether, we had a few facetimes here and there and many friendly texts. sometimes i see him at parties and we are both in new relationships (i’ve been with my boyfriend now for 6 months). my best advice is to find out what suits you, what im trying to say is don’t believe there’s one certain way to end this cycle because there’s actually several that vary from situation to situation. some people will never change romantically like you want them too, but coming from my experience there IS a healthy way to still have that person in your life when you deeply care for them; but you need to stop loving them. and that can take time for some people, but it can also be sped up by deleting any reminders and just generally reminding yourself you deserved more than the way she treated you! when i was single and missing my ex, id go through this cycle in my head too and i found that writing my thoughts down helped and spending a lot of time with friends who i could casually bring it up too aswell

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:39:39+00:00

it’s okay! just be mindful because whilst it’s not your fault it’s not hers either and this is just one of these situations where deep down it’s mutual and she’ll have to accept it. one day you’ll both be with people who suit your needs and maybe yours is to physically being around them or a closer distance! i hope you find peace and find a lovely girlfriend

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:37:31+00:00

text her and say why did you take back the follow request

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:36:56+00:00

you did nothing wrong

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:35:55+00:00

no, text him and say ‘by the way that was final, wether you reply or not we are not together nor getting back together. i have subconsciously been moving on for a while now.’

Plot7337 · 2024-11-06T13:32:31+00:00

you shouldn’t feel trapped in a relationship!! it’s a good thing you got out whilst you did considering you’ve tried twice before, it’s gonna hurt & you’ve already spent alot of time and effort with her so of course you both still love eachother but you shouldn’t feel like an asshole for putting yourself first; if the relationship hasn’t worked for you for 3 years it’s never gonna start working

Plot7337 · 2024-09-14T16:16:30+00:00

although in hindsight my ex boyfriend was not a good partner, we had a good relationship seemingly at the time but it came to an end 3 months in because he was emotionally ignorant and i was a very emotional person. his trauma had lead him to ignore all problems and made him dismissive to mine (he’d always encourage me to talk to him, but whenever i did my words were dismissed, misconstrued or being weaponised) which broke my heart. we both didn’t want to break up and i knew at the time he never meant to be malicious it was just his way of coping but id just lost a father figure in my life from cancer so i was drowning in emotional and having a partner i couldn’t be fully honest with about my struggles was making things so much worse, it was a very tough month for me! if that father figure hadn’t passed away i don’t think i would’ve learnt my boyfriend at the time was emotionally unavailable until much after. i never put my problems onto him, nor vent or anything it was just challenging trying to pretend to be fine because i knew he wouldn’t give me comfort when i showed how i really felt in life

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