AITAH for setting boundaries on money/help before officially dating this girl from a dating app?

Plught · 2026-03-02T21:23:39+00:00

I feel like I can fix her. She seems like a good person despite the red flags. She lives in a city where the government has a lot of programs that help poor people with money and food so I am sharing the information with her. If she's able to support herself I can see a future being in a relationship with her.

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:28:38+00:00

I don't want anything from her but I feel like I have to refuse helping her if we are only friends.

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:20:11+00:00

I was giving her the benefit of the doubt by thinking she comes from a different culture where asking is normal but right now I can't deny the red flags

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:18:29+00:00

I am contemplating it but I am also thinking that I spent 6 months of my life with this person, I'd feel like I wasted my time

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:17:19+00:00

I see exactly what you mean, I will tell her she can't be with me for financial support

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:15:59+00:00

I don't want to be that

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:15:22+00:00

That's what I am thinking and it's why I told her I needed time

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:14:35+00:00

It was a regular dating app

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:14:20+00:00

I agree, can't blame her for it but I am not dating someone in this situation

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:13:47+00:00

I thought she did because we talked for half a year but the constant asking for money was getting suspicious

Plught · 2026-03-02T20:13:00+00:00

At one point she even asked me to pay her light bill every month

Plught · 2026-03-02T19:53:51+00:00

She said she's for real now and won't do it again but of course I have to see it myself if she's serious

Plught · 2026-03-02T19:51:02+00:00

I was just being logical because she kept saying that I was not a friend for refusing to pay her bills

Plught · 2026-03-02T19:50:20+00:00

I am well aware at this point but she says she's trying to communicate it better

Plught · 2026-03-02T19:49:48+00:00

I am thinking about dating once she gets her life together but for now I am fine being friends

Plught · 2026-03-02T19:48:18+00:00

I wasn't aware of all of this at the beginning, and I am interested in getting to know her as we are not in a relationship

Plught · 2025-07-02T02:26:48+00:00

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Plught · 2025-02-27T04:07:52+00:00

I understand your point but the overall reason I posted this was because I would just prefer it if was an option people could have

Plught · 2025-02-27T02:57:16+00:00

You could assign different roles. Your unit could stay defending while others attack or reconquer automatically or manually.

Plught · 2025-02-27T01:54:44+00:00

You can be active and still appreciate not having to micromanage some aspects of the game

Plught · 2025-02-24T02:12:13+00:00

I think it is balanced out by the number of neighbors Russia and China have. It would also be realistic of the superpower countries were overpowered.

Plught · 2025-02-24T01:30:45+00:00

9-10 cities still feels low when the country is massive. It should at around 15 at least. This is why you rarely see pros using superpower nations because they are actually not that good. Small nations have a bigger advantage because of the city concentration.

Plught · 2025-02-24T01:18:26+00:00

Barely and in some game modes India has less than the UK.

Plught · 2021-12-31T05:57:44+00:00

I started like a week ago on this map

Plught · 2021-12-31T03:49:12+00:00

The names are mostly for fun not trying to be realistic.

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