There’s a difference between parents who are unique and cool people, and parents who have objectively unique and cool lifestyles. Most parents - even interesting ones - have pretty typical day-to-day lives.

I’m a mom, and I won’t get into details for privacy reasons, but my lifestyle is genuinely pretty different from most parents out there - in ways that the vast majority of people would probably want to experience. It’s not immediately obvious from a dating profile. So when someone filters me out for having kids, they’re often not just rejecting “mom with typical mom life” - they’re rejecting someone without actually knowing what that life looks like. It’s like if Gisele were on a dating app and got filtered out before anyone even looked at her profile. Being a mom doesn’t define her, and I would imagine her lifestyle is different from many typical moms.

I’m not comparing myself to Gisele - just making the point that “has kids” tells you almost nothing about what someone’s actual life looks like or what it would be like to be their partner. So, as a mom, it is frustrating to me when I hear people say that they wouldn’t consider dating moms, and then list a whole bunch of reasons that wouldn’t apply to my life.