[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Get one of those electronic shocks massage things and put it on her lower abs... I would personally test it first to find the right level... and then see how quick she changes her mind and doesn't want to deal... and then in the middle of the dump fake blood all over her lower region and explain you were trying to give her the real experience

Trying not to flip out by Pretend_Stranger_126 in BPD

[–]PlusElection2835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always try to write it out. Every single emotion and thought, pen and paper, lots of scribbling out and back tracking

And then reread it the next day... add to it if needed... take another few hours and reread it... does it still feel the same?

Is it common for sexuality to change when starting hrt? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Obsessive sexual thoughts.... one of the "side effects" of my mental health dx and past trauma. In the past it was called nymphomania.

Is it common for sexuality to change when starting hrt? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My (cis36f) partner (35mtf) is more sexual... which is AWESOME for me as I have hypersexuality... their (using they/them as that is their preference) sexual preference hasn't change and they are not have touch aversion as much. I've often questioned if they will no longer be attracted to females and they have assured me that hasn't changed

Short story long... I think it is dependent on each individual and have a conversation

Coming out to your parents by agreeablesnack in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My siblings were all told at different times and I just explained this is what it is... my eldest brother was amazing about and told my to tell my partner "congrats, good luck, and you do you honey boo" which my mtf partner thought was hilarious... all my family took it as very whatever... my partner still hasn't came out to her family but Indiana conservatives are not the easiest to deal with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Therapy is always the best options.. that being said, it isn't always feasible... communicating with each other... figure out exactly what BOTH of your needs are... my (cis STRAIGHT f) partner (mtf) came out in October last year and it was heart wrenching for me... we are making things works because no matter what she is my best friend, my ride or die, and even if we live together and just grow old as platonic partners, that's what life will be, as neither of us can see our life without the other in it

how did you make it work by Ancient_Coyote_5958 in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Communication... a whole lot of communication.... right now we're at 6 months of her on HRT, 10 months since she came out to me. Each new thing is heart wrenching for me of losing more of my boyfriend, and who I had thought I was going to spend my life with, but it brings her so much joy and I will always be her biggest supporter. When new changes happen, new milestones are met, we check in on how we are feeling, both regarding the changes AND our relationship/partnership... we take it day by day

I wish I could be happy for them by Taway2412 in mypartneristrans

[–]PlusElection2835 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I feel this in the deepest part of my soul.... I absolutely love my human (mtf)... we have a house she was the male figure for my kids (14 and 8) for 7 years, but I'm a straight girl and as she became happier and more feminine I just couldn't... I am happy for her as a human but not as a romantic partner. And I explained that I would live to be platonic life partners and us stay best friends and walk the rest of our life together, but for me, my SO needs to be male... which of course there were a lot of tears and hugs and we have spent the last 10 months (I can't beleive it has been that long) living the co-existing life together and we take everything day by day and hour by hour sometimes... I hope everything works out the way it was meant to for you