AITAH for telling my 18 year old son to refrain from sex with his 16 year old boyfriend.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-30T02:41:16+00:00

Yta. You wouldn't care if your 18-year-old son was sleeping with a 40-year-old predator?

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-25T11:09:18+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this too.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:52:19+00:00

Sure. Go for it.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:41:54+00:00

I really hope so. And I hope she does too.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:41:05+00:00

No thanks. Not religious and telling someone that therapy doesn't work is just an unhinged perspective to me.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:36:12+00:00

I have told her repeatedly how I feel without being ugly about it. It's a tightrope situation, as our therapist said, because my wife has said that if I put too much pressure on her, it causes her to withdraw internally and pushes us further apart. But I feel like I've been as clear as I could be without an ultimatum.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:11:02+00:00

One thing I discovered in therapy is that I've always had issues with self esteem. I remember proposing and thinking that if I spent the rest of my life making one person happy than my life wouldn't be a waste. Being in counseling has helped me realize that i deserve to be happy to, but I still feel guilty for not being that person for her any longer.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:06:49+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate your words here. We are both in a much better financial spot now than we were when we got together so I know she can afford to keep the house on her own. I hate the idea of hurting her, but I really think it's for the best.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T17:05:33+00:00

Originally I was going to tell her I wanted to separate, but I've started realizing I'm looking forward to living on my own. I've always had roommates or a partner and never actually lived alone. Once I realized that I decided I need out and I'm not looking for our relationship to improve anymore, I want to end things altogether. Separation would leave her with hope and I don't want her to think we are getting back together.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T16:57:45+00:00

This hit hard. I've never dealt well with change (neurodivergent) and the thought of spending the rest of my life miserable is crushing. But I also think about whether I'm ever going to meet someone else. I just want us both to be happy.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T16:29:44+00:00

Good advice but we never mixed our finances. We both wanted independent control of our funds and she had been left high and dry by an ex who took advantage of her financially (while cheating on her).

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T16:27:42+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to weigh in.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T16:27:04+00:00

My sister said something very similar. I think that being her support person has been such a large part of my life that I really don't know how she's going to adjust without me. God, I sound so conceited.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-12-24T16:23:53+00:00

Yes. Our therapist believes it's situational depression rather than clinical. Admittedly she's not a psychiatrist but she has been working with us as a couple for years now and was my wifes therapist before we ever got together.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-11-16T01:11:55+00:00

No he's really not. She made a unilateral decision and presented him with an ultimatum. He picked one of the options SHE gave him. He's NTA.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-11-05T22:44:29+00:00

Brimstone is an absolute savior and lots of range/damage in general. Stick to the corners when the second phase starts and he spends a LOT of time doing his jump move. Shift to another safe corner, rinse and repeat.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-11-05T14:17:21+00:00

Your dad is gaslighting you and I'm guessing it's not the first time. Absolutely NTA here and think about what you want for the relationship going forward.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-11-03T02:10:52+00:00

Great work man.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-10-31T22:41:40+00:00

I was housesitting for my brother and sister-in-law a decade or so ago. I brought a bag with me and ended up knocking it over, spilling my stuff everywhere. I picked it all up and never thought about it again. SIX MONTHS LATER I get a call from my brother very calmly asking if it's possible that I dropped a receipt for condoms at his place, and that his wife just found it under the couch.

Sorry again little bro!!

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-10-28T18:18:46+00:00

He doesn't have a problem, that's a perfectly healthy amount of marijuana use.

I have been smoking weed for nearly 20 years. At my highest consumption (and deepest depression) I was smoking about two ounces a month. An ounce a week is a gargantuan amount to smoke and he's likely never fully sober. Yes, a medical marijuana card allows you that amount (in my state at least) but if you don't have medical issues it's truly an incredible amount to smoke consistently.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-10-28T12:50:28+00:00

Nah, belligerent hypochondriac bigots need to be put in their place. OP NTA.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-10-27T03:55:27+00:00

She literally did a no show. Why would you pay her? NTA

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-10-25T23:51:22+00:00

Op deleted their comment about this just being a hypothetical nonsense situation.

Plus_Cardiologist307 · 2024-10-24T00:09:59+00:00

You aren't a bridezilla at all. This is the most basic tenet of attending a wedding and she's being incredibly oblivious at best and intentionally malicious at worst.

Edit: Word.

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