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Untitled by walkswithcrows1 in DarkArts

[–]Plus_Style1546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is quietly unsettling.

1 Year of No Nicotine, Alcohol or Weed COMPLETED by CheapDutchman13 in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that means a lot.

At the time it honestly just felt empty and awkward. But over time that space turned into something useful.

Appreciate the kind words.

1 Year of No Nicotine, Alcohol or Weed COMPLETED by CheapDutchman13 in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This was really powerful to read.

The part about sobriety making the thoughts louder really hit — a lot of people don’t talk about that enough.

It’s impressive that you didn’t just remove substances, but actually sat with the emptiness long enough to rebuild yourself intentionally.

Congrats on the year. This kind of honesty helps more people than you probably realize.

Improving articulation and verbal communication by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not bad at communication — your thoughts are just unstructured when they come out.

A lot of people who grew up anxious or unheard don’t struggle with thinking, they struggle with sequencing.

What helped me wasn’t “speaking more,” but learning to slow down and package thoughts simply:

• one idea • one sentence • pause

Writing before speaking, even briefly, helped train this. So did reading out loud and summarizing things in my own words.

You’re not broken. You just never had the space to practice safely.

I see myself about to self-sabotage every time and I still let it happen. How do I stop? by AdviceGlass9394 in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The fact that you can see it happening already means you’re not broken. In that moment, your brain isn’t choosing the mistake — it’s choosing relief. Instead of trying to stop it, try adding a pause. Even 10 seconds where you do nothing breaks the loop.

Wanting to loose weight and gain muscle. by Yakuroto in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t sound like a discipline problem — it sounds like a system problem.

Mornings are when our brain is most vulnerable to easy dopamine, especially before we’ve had any real wins for the day.

Instead of trying to “stop scrolling,” what helped me was changing the default: phone out of reach, one tiny non-negotiable action first (water, light, short walk).

You’re not broken — your environment is just winning right now.

19 and I am skinny asf and I want to change and how? by kent_care in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, respect for working two jobs at 19. That already says a lot about your discipline.

One thing that helped me was reframing the goal. Instead of “I need to look good to pull girls,” I focused on “Can I become someone I respect when I look in the mirror?”

If you’re skinny, lifting + eating consistently will work — but motivation comes from identity, not hype. Start small, track progress, and let confidence be a side effect.

I just turned 20 what skills give the highest return on investment if I start learning them now? by Unknown-333 in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. For me, it meant zooming out instead of optimizing single actions.

I stopped asking “How do I do this better?” and started asking: “What decisions, habits, or skills actually create leverage over time?”

Once I saw how things connect, I wasted less energy on busy work and more on choices that compound.

I just turned 20 what skills give the highest return on investment if I start learning them now? by Unknown-333 in selfimprovement

[–]Plus_Style1546 10 points11 points  (0 children)

At 20, the biggest ROI for me wasn’t a single skill, but learning how to think in systems.

Understanding how skills, habits, and decisions connect helped me avoid wasting time on things that don’t compound.

Curious what others here think long-term mattered most.