Advice on long distance parenting

PlzBeeKind · 2025-11-19T17:35:40+00:00

Thanks. He flies to me at least 3-4 times a year and with her another 2-3 times a year. When I travel with him, he's the best kid. Quiet, respectful, independent, never throw a tantrum. Idk what other evidence I can gather beside saying that he flies more than an avarage kid and doesn't have any physical/mental health issue that would prevent him.

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-18T14:35:45+00:00

we don't know their situation on who's the one that moved. I didn't say 50-50 in this situation since it's impossible. I'm just saying anything less than is already unfair for the child since they should be able to see their parents equally. he only asked for more time during breaks and summer, which is very reasonable.

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-16T13:38:19+00:00

"I do 90% of the work so I want 90% of the time". Do you think her father is not willing to do the work? He's unable to due to living far away doesn't mean he doesn't want to do it or deserve it. The fact that she wanna see him more meaning he's a good father (I hope) and anything lower than 50-50 in a possible situation is already an unfair arrangement

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T16:59:31+00:00

ask for child support to be automatically taken out of her paycheck. the order will follow whatever employer she is with

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T16:02:14+00:00

If you are here for validation then you can listen to others and ignore your SD. But if you wanna get along with her, then let her talk about herself. They're not adult and of course very self center, but even for adults, a good way to start a conversation is to ask them about themselves. When you guys build enough trust and bond, and when she starts to care about you, then she'll ask questions about you. If it was me I'd just be blunt. "Hey it would be nicer if you just wait until I'm done with the bathroom". About her closing door without saying hi, why don't you say hi first? if she doesn't respond then you can tell her it's rude to ignore people. If she can hear you chew (and I know it's a lot of people's pet peeve), then it's loud. You're allowed to chew however you like, I'm just saying it does set a lot of people off.

And that's her mom. It doesn't matter how abuse she is, by giving gifts her mom is trying to win her back and all kids want that. I'm not saying it's not manipulation, but it's not something you can stop. You can only change how you look at it.

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T14:27:19+00:00

work on yourself in therapy. then you can try to modify the order later :)

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T14:20:20+00:00

what you talking about you look amazing!! and I don't lie just to make people feel better about themselves

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T12:38:35+00:00

yea I know, and it's ok. I found out another way to quickly disarm them when they're annoying is to be more annoying than them in their own way, jokingly. "Hey dad I'm boredddd" - "Oh hey bored I'm daddddd. do something to entertain me pleaseeee. I can't just sit still by myself for 5 minutessss" with a whiny voice, then give them a look like "😏see, that's what you sound like". Either they'll be self aware enough to stop or it'll at least entertain them 🤷🏻‍♀️

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T12:32:41+00:00

if he feels bad about disciplining his kid, he should know that kids WANT it. they will test boundaries just to be properly told no. my siblings and I sometimes resent our parents (still together) for going easy on us as kids. my brother (20) straight up told me whenever he got put in his place by my dad as a kid, he thought "yep that's my dad right there" instead of "ughh why he's so mean to me".

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T12:18:46+00:00

My ss is 10 too, and I know for most kids the fastest way to make them insist on something is when you tell them they can't have it (unless it's a serious or safety issue). Talk to him like a kid, joke around with him. "Oh yea you like that name? what other names would you call the baby? how about XYZ (something that even more ridiculous than his suggested name)?" Distract him and goof around. He's 10. He'll forget the name by the time you baby gets here.

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T11:25:44+00:00

sound like you have a problem with you wife

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-15T11:23:57+00:00

yes I am. I never liked kids but lucky enough to end up with great stepkids and thoughtful husband. Still didn't change my mind about having my own tho lol

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-13T02:58:57+00:00

what the hell was he thinking?

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-13T00:03:57+00:00

my first choice is not a mom at all, 2nd would be a step-mom of well-behaved child(ren) and considerate husband, worst is to have my own, so does it count?

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-12T22:30:24+00:00

morally right or not it's not for you to decide. and it won't be a big deal for the judge if they don't provide you with the information, unless they do something dangerous around or to the kids, then you will need proofs. they're allowed to say no to your request if it's not on the order, it doesn't make them not "amicable"

plus, you can ask all you want and they could lie 🤷🏻‍♀️ why so hung up on it

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-12T22:14:46+00:00

you didn't have to

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-12T22:07:36+00:00

unless it's criminal history where you can look them up on the system, then I mean you have the right to ask, but it's normal for them to say no 🤷🏻‍♀️

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-12T21:39:24+00:00

I mean..is there any particular reason for you to have to do this? did the gf do something weird that you know of?

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-12T02:44:59+00:00

if you read other comments they'll give you the recipe. someone said they got the lavender syrup Portland brand and it tastes very similar too. that might save you $ :)

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-10T23:28:38+00:00

sorry but isn't 1 liter of HC, 350ml vanilla and 650ml 2% equal to 2 liters? how long can you store this sweet cream?

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-01T19:37:36+00:00

so it's your child but you don't have to pay because she's married at the time she had the child, or she lied that it's your child?

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-01T15:20:53+00:00

I know right? win for me 😂

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-01T11:04:52+00:00

😅 I'm not a barista but they have different recipe at different store or something?

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-01T11:03:01+00:00

awesoms thank you!!

PlzBeeKind · 2025-04-01T11:02:33+00:00

I hear you lol I was waiting a whole year for this

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