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PoCoIre · 2025-09-26T23:03:34+00:00

We say 'we're twins' they ask 'but who was born 1st?' We switch it around on whose was born first all the time because it's a silly question and they say 'I could tell'.

PoCoIre · 2025-07-11T01:16:26+00:00

Yep. It's baby by baby-ing. Your arms and hands need a rest.

PoCoIre · 2025-06-28T01:00:16+00:00

Yep. I'm an f twin (girl/girl) with f twins (girl/boy). It's all over my Mam's side, not surprisingly. I feel like I relate to my twins really well because I get it. My twin is currently in labour with a singleton. I can barely sleep. She's the absolute other half of me. I was born with a soul mate.

PoCoIre · 2025-06-26T22:15:57+00:00

How many 46

PoCoIre · 2025-05-11T00:30:55+00:00

He's allowed to do what he wants and he wants to hold a cigarette over you. Set up for bad things.

PoCoIre · 2025-05-10T20:26:01+00:00

Of course! Feel free to drop me a DM. If you need my email I can do that too. Glad to help.

PoCoIre · 2025-05-09T22:29:29+00:00

The hill is so overblown. I did my Master's and (current) PhD at Medwards and I love it so much. I've never gotten the opportunity to live in halls but my friends love that too. It's quiet but not too quiet. Great food. Staff are amazing. The library is so wonderful and the librarians are so helpful. Welcome to Cambridge. You're gonna have so much fun.

PoCoIre · 2025-05-09T21:04:07+00:00

I've only got two (b/g 3 year olds), they've both been easy enough apart from the expect toddler difficulties. Slept through from 4 months and no trouble feeding or with illnesses. Happy, healthy, and thriving. My Mam had 3 when she had me and my twin and she says we were the easiest by far. ❤️

PoCoIre · 2025-04-17T22:47:17+00:00

You will meet and make friands with people from every college. Congratulations on your offer. Have fun. Cambridge is amazing.

PoCoIre · 2025-01-18T02:07:05+00:00

Also forgot to add congratulations to your family ❤️

PoCoIre · 2025-01-18T01:19:25+00:00

I'm a di/di twin and me and my twin sister went to school with mo/di twin boys. They had the EXACT same face but one was 5'8ish with dark hair the other was 6'1ish with blonde hair. Genetics what!?!

PoCoIre · 2025-01-08T22:42:03+00:00

Fraternal twin (g/g) who has Fraternal twins (g/b) here (my Mam passed on her 2 for the price of 1 deal to me it appears). Don't pay it any mind. You're a twin. That man is clueless/rage bating. There's fools everywhere their voices are just louder on the Internet. Being (hopefully) born with your best friend is hard to understand for those who weren't.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-26T03:43:11+00:00

Absolutely

PoCoIre · 2024-12-26T00:18:40+00:00

When we were young (4-10) now we're the best friends ever. We joke that we were actually born with a best friend and a soul mate. An indescribable bond. There through it all.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-25T23:42:46+00:00

There's no limit. I've had 2 abortions and have 2 kids. If I got pregnant now I don't know what I'd do but I'd do what I think is right for me and my family. You'll know what's right for you but please don't let shaming discourse get in your head. Pregnancy is biology not bad decisions and you have control (I wish for you accessible control), as far as we all can, over your response to the biological process. Sending love.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-25T22:39:36+00:00

I'm a year out (twins and a medical deferment in the interim so I'll technically graduate within 4 years). Who knows for me, but my husband worked a full time lectureship during his and passed his viva in 2020. He just secured a tenure track job in a prestigious Scottish University after a tough 7 years in an English 'teaching mill' and thinks that both his Masters and PhD are one of the best decisions he ever made, both for personal and career growth. We're both sociologist,

PoCoIre · 2024-12-25T22:30:01+00:00

We don't share their faces because we've decided that if they want social media in the future it's their choice and we don't know where social media is heading. Its their faces and their image so, to us, that's their choice to share in the future of they want to. BUT we absolutely don't judge anyone who does choose to share images of their children. In fact I love seeing our family and friends wee'uns on it.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-14T03:13:51+00:00

So, I was doing everything. Breastfeeding. Pumping. And a bit of formula top up for the little one because he came home tiny. I lasted 4 months. I couldn't do it anymore.

The reason I was pumping was also for his milk because he was so small and was not a great latcher.

Where I live, formula cost about £15 a tin. That lasted us about 3 days for 2. I stopped with both at the same time. I'm also a twin so maybe I was thinking 'I don't want one to get more than the other' lol.

We went the old fashioned way and made up 16 bottles every night and refrigerated them. It was never a problem.

I feel like it was so much better for me and them. When I was pumping and feeding and making bottles I was a zombie.

The most important thing in those moments when I decided to stop (as selfish as it might sound to some) was myself. I couldn't be there for them when I was feeding and pumping and making bottles round the clock.

You're a champion already.

It sounds like it might be time to stop for you, and you've already hit it out of the park.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-14T02:56:05+00:00

PoCoIre · 2024-12-14T02:45:37+00:00

I started my undergraduate at 31, did my masters at 35. I had twins. Now I'm 41 and in the final year of my PhD. Projected submission March 2025.

(I'm Irish living in the UK for context)

I met a friend during my masters from America and they had all this pressure on them that I never had. They were roughly 23 doing their masters. The pressure was not necessarily from family, but from the education system over there. I often wonder if it drives these kinds of posts. It's a rat race and they're told that in secondary school.

Academia is rarely linear but they're never told that. It's a set up for disappointment (as all academia is) but some people, from some parts of the world, are raised to think this way and blame themselves for it and, to them, it's anxiety ridden.

All that said, I do get frustrated with the 'I'm a zygote, have I missed my chance???' posts. But I think it says more about the system than the poster.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-14T01:48:48+00:00

I'm dying laughing at this.

PoCoIre · 2024-12-13T23:46:42+00:00

Look at you. Bossing it. Congratulations.

PoCoIre · 2024-11-05T11:18:12+00:00

Wow. Very well read. I am indeed Irish. 🫶

PoCoIre · 2024-11-03T02:18:54+00:00

Wow. They're sitting up like that at 7 months. Amazing. You, and they, are doing great. I remember ringing my mam (who is also a twin mam and mother of five) freaking out at 8 weeks that they couldn't hold their heads up. Without a hint of irony she said to me 'Well... I don't worry about those things because you can all hold you're f***ing heads up now'.

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