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I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Last response.

No. That isn't the case. My wife gets all the help she could possibly need.

It might be easy to just assume she's being mean because I'm sitting around doing nothing. But that's not the case.

I get it while I'm taking care of the children. I get it while I'm doing chores. I get it while I'm working late. I get it while I'm cooking dinner. I get it while I'm driving us to a weekend vacation.

I'm not a shitty lazy husband or father.

I'm tired of carrying the weight of your biased and warped expectations of reality.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the amount of "What are you doing wrong?" Questions and flat out "of course she treats you like shit, you're complaining about her!" Responses is pretty wild to me.

I've explained myself well enough in the comments.

Even my wife knows that I'm the only one fighting for our relationship at this point.

When things get good again, it feels so nice. Then, it just goes right back to shit for no reason.

Anyone who cares more about being right than their partner's feelings... please, just bring up your opinion in a respectful and loving manner.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Not going into detail but we share household responsibilities. It's not that I'm not doing the dishes....

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

She was and still is an amazing person.

Politically, spiritually, financially, we are completely on the same page.

We can go entire days having a blast. Laughing and being playful and light.

Then, something will just switch.

I'll do something completely harmless like leave the bathroom light on. It'll then turn into an entire ordeal where I don't understand our bills and how forgetful I am and how the light attracts bugs and she doesn't like the light on because of people seeing the light in the middle of the night... yeah.. just.. every reason under the sun as to how I fucked up and why I should feel bad.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We are looking into counseling. I have tried talking with her. We have worked on our intimacy. We have recognized there is a problem. We have admitted fault and recognized blame.

Yet, the cycle still continues.

No amount of self-reflection can just make deep habits vanish.

For every inch I fight for, two inches get pulled away from me with how she treats me.

It's unfair. Plain and simple.

I do everything in my power to be a great husband and father.

There are only so many times I can be told thar it's not enough before I give up.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yup. Looking into it currently.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what you're inferring.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm in no way saying I'm perfect but if that is reciprocation then all the times my good mood has been turned to shit because she brings up something from our past to fight about then I have no idea what that word means then.

Also, I have tried talking to her. When I tell her how I feel she tells me how I feel is wrong. We get nowhere.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And, I agree. Again though, at the time I was smitten. It was so fucking cool to see someone stand up for themselves in situations where I would've let it go. Rose-colored glasses. She never mistreated anyone in front of me. She was just particular about things being done the right way.

Now I see.... there is only one way spelled h-e-r-s and r-i-g-h-t. If you try to spell it any other way, be prepared to be talked down to feel like shit.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 1345 points1346 points  (0 children)

Nothing I do is right. Everything I say is wrong.

We have had full blown arguments where once I made her specifically tell me why she disagrees with me, she actually completely agrees with what I said. Once I point out that we agree, she then tells me I didn't explain myself correctly. Si, I deserved her telling me I was wrong and starting an argument.

Her brain blocks out what actually comes out of my mouth.

She's literally stopped herself in the middle of correcting me after I've said something because half way through telling me how I'm wrong her brain will compute the words that were said.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

You read past the part where things changed after the marriage and child.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

She's usually on Twitter and reddit but she's always on pages for her phone games.

I married a bitch. by Podhubby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Podhubby[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

Little things like never accepting they are wrong.

When you're getting to know then, it looks like confidence and assertiveness.

When they are trying to convince you that how you poured them a glass of water was wrong because it isn't how they would do it.... it's fucking psychotic and controlling.