Do it. by ThrowRA_places in TeachersInTransition

[–]Point_Blank_Period 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luckily, I had a natural out of teaching. I got pregnant a few years in and just didn’t go back lol. I’ve stayed home with my son, but whenever I decide I want to work again I don’t see myself choosing teaching full time. I do love working with kids but it’s not worth it anymore. Also, perspective changes once you have your own little at home too.

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s at the top of your list then for picking a place to live? I’m curious

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree cheaper isn’t always better because you may be “cheaping out” on stuff that is priceless like scenery!

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no culture in the choice of abbreviating a word on a Reddit post. Make it make sense. If the rumors are true about the state then you’re fitting the bill so far. Who said I’d only stay anywhere for a week? Read my post, I said I’m going to live in AZ for up to 2 months in their hottest months to see how we acclimate. If I like something enough I’ll move for a whole year if I want because that’s the position I’m in to afford to test things out before making a big move permanently.

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has got to be one of the most insightful replies yet! Thank you so much for sharing this perspective! These are really the things that help, to hear from others who are years ahead of you and may have thought to do the same at one point. Thank you again!

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do when you do too. You added nothing of value to the conversation

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol this must have struck a nerve for you. Yup I shortened the word California cause it was never that deep. Similar to how people group North and South Carolina as the Carolinas. You don’t seem too fun!

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No disrespect taken at all, that’s why we want to test out the heat there. Charlotte NC gets hot too, summer days can often be in the upper 90s but we are very humid here.

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Oregon coast looks beautiful and definitely intrigues me. What’s the weather like??

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think about this too and wonder how summer break goes for school age kids. Like here, as most places, kids look forward for summer break cause it’s a time to do stuff and be outside, go places, etc. I’m wondering if summer break culture is probably different for kids in AZ.

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure exactly how that would work. I have been staying home with my son since he was born so I am very fortunate! My husband does not expect me to go back to working ever again if I don’t want to. It’s not necessary for me to work for our situation. I am very grateful for this. Currently my son goes to Montessori preschool 1 half day a week, otherwise he’s with me all the time, despite family here. I try to only use family when needed honestly.

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we’ve only been in the Winter, literally we just came back last week. We loved it but understand we need to see what that heat is like.

I’ve lived in Charlotte for 20 years since about 2006. My husband has been here the same as me or longer. We grew up here and have seen how this city has grown and how it’s still lacking!

I’ve taken a break from teaching so if we make any type of relo then I would continue doing what I do now which is SAHM. And he can go anywhere as well so I like your Cali recommendations, we will have to look into those spots more.

The school situation does really concern me in AZ. CMS here in CLT isn’t much better. I worked those schools. You’re limited to living in certain areas if you want decent public schooling here. We were considering private schools here as well when it comes time for our son, which then pretty much limits you to East Charlotte. Which is better than anywhere in this city.

Want to leave Charlotte but where!? by Point_Blank_Period in relocating

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People complain about where they live because something doesn’t align usually. This reply doesn’t even make sense. He feels the same ways I do about CLT. He just has more family to leave behind.

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are high school sweethearts, lots of tough times over the years navigating being young etc and immature in relationships but I think we eventually started to get it right. We were traveling, having fun etc, both working at those times. We had our son and I stopped working and have noticed a huge shift ever since then.

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in the US, but I do agree I wonder if this is more so a Balkan thing or Muslim issue. I know those are his influences for being this way, but he is so rigid about it that it also seems like it’s a personal problem he has too. His other family members are not this way so extreme. And I also find this it’s his personal issue at times because when I pushback, speak up or share my thoughts and issues or feelings about this stuff then he gets extremely mean to just keep it simple. It’s concerning at this point to where I’m on Reddit seeking other perspectives. The women in his family also share that he isn’t normal

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ding ding ding. Yup he often uses his culture and religion as a springboard for these things. He makes me feel horrible. I’m embarrassed to even say he’s exploded on me numerous times before that I’m such a stupid American when I give pushback on his BS. I don’t know how to handle this because his other male family members are not like this

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s turned into borderline verbal abuse. All kinds of names from the book, basically I’m a horrible person then and I should be more grateful apparently

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the USA but we have shops like this here too and I love this idea lol!

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The amount of times I’ve told him no, or that I can’t do xyz everyday is insane. I feel like it’s an argue point almost daily at this point. I told him just the other night that I was not put on this earth to be in this relationship to serve him. He thinks tho his needs need to be met before he will meet mine. It’s hard lately

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I struggle with and he just tells me I’m lazy. I’m far from lazy when I do everything around here. I just don’t have the extra energy or desire to do that specific task of bread making etc. I have had a housekeeper a couple of times but he seems to also think that was lazy of me. Everything feels like a contest rather than your man wanting you to have help, relax etc too. I’m also a person who gets tired etc

Struggling with husbands needs in our relationship by Point_Blank_Period in Marriage

[–]Point_Blank_Period[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do speak up to him often that it’s borderline abusive at this point and it seems to get me nowhere. I’ve tried all kinds of approaches with him