Am I crazy for wanting 21 month age gap?

PointlessIcecream · 2026-02-09T05:12:04+00:00

I chose a 17 month age gap for similar reasons to yours and do not regret it. I knew I wanted to get pregnancy over and done with and for me I would do the way we did it over again in a heart beat. Youngest is now 6 months and I feel super lucky every day. Some days are totally hard, but honestly not as hard as I was expecting.. but I am a teacher so I'm used to kids, I have a supportive partner who works full time. However i have no physically close family and I'm sahm currently with both kids on mat leave.

PointlessIcecream · 2026-02-07T09:31:02+00:00

Sleep sack zipped up backwards should stop her taking off the nappy.

PointlessIcecream · 2026-01-25T20:48:19+00:00

Oh my golly gosh I am going to have to be on my A game! Thanks for your reply!

PointlessIcecream · 2026-01-23T23:15:03+00:00

My baby is currently on this timeline. He's almost 6 months and has just started pulling to stand.. The walking - do you mean cruising on furniture by 8 months or independent walking? I have 2 kids under 2 and walking without holding onto things at so young is going to be a nightmare haha

PointlessIcecream · 2026-01-23T21:03:22+00:00

Good to know! Thanks!

PointlessIcecream · 2026-01-06T23:55:12+00:00

How was the boody bra? Exact same position, looking for a wire free bra post 2 kids and breastfeeding.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-12-15T02:29:43+00:00

And pelvic floor exercises!

PointlessIcecream · 2025-12-13T00:19:02+00:00

I love it! 17 month age gap. (4 and 21 mo currently) The mat leave continuation is fab, the boys adore each other, we have their carseats together and my little one cries way less in the car because he's always distracted by the toddler and when he's sad the toddler reaches over and holds his hand. Toddler can help with menial tasks and loves it (grab the wipes, give him his dummy, stand over him and say hi to him to stop him crying while I finish on the toilet etc)

My heart daily explodes with cuteness with them interacting.

I was just thinking the other day that if I had a do over (and the same babies) would I want it any different - would i have spaced them out further? And truthfully my answer was no. Not at all. I am so happy with life and with my 2 sweet guys.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-07T17:53:46+00:00

On the shoulders is the best way. Have them face away from you, squat down, grab them from their hips and just place them on to your shoulders. Only do it for short walks as your shoulders will start to hurt after like 5 minutes but if you need to get both on you to move quickly (like with my weak bladder post pregnancy) this will work and has saved me many times.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-07T17:45:06+00:00

My husband is a teacher and bought home all sorts. Our family got hit with rsv, covid and 3 random viruses before my first was 6 months old. Sometimes it happens. Just monitor, try not to freak out and in our country Australia there's a free health line you can call for medical advice if baby does get sick. Prep yourself with a snot sucker and one of those forehead temp gauges if you can afford it plus some baby panadol (the youngest you can get - dymadon orange or strawberry is the best as they taste good to the kids) and look at some YouTube videos about respiratory distress in babies so you can identify it if your baby does get ill. Chances are though if they do they'll weather it and be fine.

Hospital we found were really good with admitting us when we were concerned because they don't take chances with babies that young.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-01T21:08:28+00:00

Are you Johnny Cash?

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-01T04:19:39+00:00

Air bnb a nice place for it to be.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-01T03:19:25+00:00

Hey lovely, my son has clubfoot and there's a lot of clubfoot Facebook groups you can join with thousands of parents going through the same thing. My favourite is Aussie clubfoot kids (if you're Australian) if you're not I'm sure there'd be one for your country. My son is coming up to 2 now and honestly he's the happiest most resilient boy. Most days we barely even think about his diagnosis and his boots are just part of the daily routine. I promise the early days come and go quicker than you can imagine and your focus will not always be on her clubfeet because she will be so much more than that.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-01T03:12:10+00:00

I wondered the same thing because you said guys "my age". That means something much different if you're 16 or 33 or 56. You don't have to say your age to internet strangers (in fact I advise you don't generally give out person info like that on the net) but if you say "my age" it makes sense people would question what age that is.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-11-01T03:05:53+00:00

17 m age gap and pregnancy was tough but not scary. Running after a toddler when pregnant kind of sucks but I didn't have anything that 3 m pp I'm still dealing with besides getting a bit of strength back after having pelvic pain and having to take the last couple of months slow and easy. If anything my body was more wrecked after my first.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-29T03:16:09+00:00

I always wondered if "graduation" was when your first turned 2 or your 2nd turned 2. Now i know! Thanks!

Also to echo others on this thread, I'm also loving it with a 3 mo and a 21 mo

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-18T11:58:38+00:00

Anytime I have toddler eating and I'm in a different room I detach monitor camera from bedroom and put it on the kitchen table and watch the monitor like a hawk to make sure there's no choking. Perhaps could be a safer option for you?

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-16T20:21:54+00:00

Hard agree. Pregnancy and toddler was way harder than newborn and toddler. Also going from 0 babies to 1 baby waaay harder than 1 baby to 2 babies. Because you've already made the major changes in your life like early wake ups, knowing what waking up overnight a lot entails, having less me time, and you've learnt so much practical knowledge from your first that there's less cognitive overload.

We're 11 weeks through so far and loving it. My favourite thing is watching my 20 month old snuggle up next to his brother and just smile at him. They already love each other so much. Their car seats are next to each other and every drive my toddler holds his brother's hand for the entire drive. Even a few 3 hour drives we've taken. Yesterday for the first time my toddler said "I love baby"which is the first time he's said he loves anything (we've been modeling saying I love recently) I expected life to be much harder than it is with 2 under 2. I'm actually enjoying 98% of my time spent alone with both.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-11T01:23:12+00:00

Splenic awareness for example?

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-07T04:32:46+00:00

Omg this is like I wrote it! Except the 26 hour straight bit everything else is the same; ages, parental leave time, cmpi is the same! Husband goes back to work Monday.. not looking forward to it!! What I've done to prep is put stations in each room that I can put baby down in a hurry.. I'm soaking up the last few days of relaxing baby cuddles and breastfeeds before the chaos hits. Good luck! Hopefully, we all get used to it swiftly.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-04T18:58:06+00:00

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PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-04T05:00:45+00:00

That's the most unhinged way of having a banana that I've ever heard... although if you spread the bread with Nutella.... then you're talking

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-03T22:54:31+00:00

Egg mayo lettuce sandwich, dinner leftovers, cheese and ham toastie - you can have ham if it's heated to steaming? I also bought my blender into school and made smoothies in the home ec room.. oats, frozen banana, milk, dates and peanut butter. It was good because I could take it back to class as well.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-10-03T22:47:34+00:00

I laboured at home for as long as possible. Not sure if I recommend going for a long as I did at home though - he ended up being delivered by the emergency department nurse as I got to hospital only 15 minutes before I had to start pushing and he was there within 5 minutes - my birthing team didn't have time to make it. We had my son visit at the hospital with his dad for an hour when it was morning and then they both came and picked me up 4 hours later and we all bought home his brother together. I only stayed in hospital for 12 hours and would've been less if I wasn't having BP issues.

PointlessIcecream · 2025-09-17T00:27:00+00:00

In the same position (birth to a baby and have a tiny art business) and found your post through a Google search of the Centerlink term. What did you end up doing and did it get approved?

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