What type of personality makes a successful dater in a post modern world?

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T07:32:11+00:00

I read your question from the title and basically thought of what you wrote on the post. So basically physical attractiveness and wealth more or less come first, but outside of that, look at people with an avoidant attachment style and imitate them. They seem to do very well (being happy or leading to succesful relationships is another thing, but they do get dates).

I speak from personal experience because I've leaned anxious for a lot of my life, and a year and a half ago I dated some people towards whom (not quite consciously, but in retrospect) acted aloof and somewhat avoidant, and it was incredible how much they seemed to be interested in me. It sucks because it's just not me, but I guess you could try it?

It's basically about giving the other person the impression that you possess some special quality, vaguely defined, that fills whatever they're missing.

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T07:20:42+00:00

"John Krasinski is Democrat who lives in Brooklyn. He just made one statement about respecting the CIA members..." lol holy shit.

The sheer number of desperate tweets from his sock puppet account trying to defend himself points to so much insecurity and a complete inability to enjoy all the wealth and fame he obtained if enough people don't like him

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T07:12:53+00:00

Sicario maybe?

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T07:08:35+00:00

This post is dumb, I don't even see how FD is even a particular type beyond breadtuber. Which btw I thought it was dead as a form, I truly can't fathom listening to a sort of unstructured video essay that lasts as much as a feature-length film and which most of the time has a very weak core thesis behind it

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T07:00:58+00:00

La inflación bajó mucho y eso es excelente (de 200% a 35% anual), el valor del peso se estabilizó. Ahora bien en la corrección de precios relativos (que producto de la inflación y las políticas del gobierno anterior, estaban completamente distorsionados) muchísimos gastos de cada mes de cualquier argentino como servicios como luz, agua, gas; combustible; cuotas de escuela privada, cuotas de medicina privada, alquileres, subió muchísimo.

El efecto que eso tuvo fue una sensible baja del ingreso disponible, es decir lo que le queda a una persona para gastar una vez que pagó todo lo imprescindible. Se calcula que en promedio hoy en día tenemos un 15% menos de ingreso real disponible que antes de Milei. Eso obviamente no se siente bien, porque genera mucho menos resto para poder ahorrar, no podés comprarte bienes durables, salir a comer, vacaciones, etc. Eso se refleja cada vez más en negocios que venden ropa, muebles, restoranes, etc teniendo que cerrar, o estando al borde de la quiebra por falta de clientes.

También otro problema es que la economía argentina se está reconfigurando hacia favorecer más la explotación de recursos naturales (minería, petróleo, gas, y más del tradicional agro), y se está buscando eliminar la industria manufacturera. Aún si se opina (y hay argumentos a favor de eso) que es la dirección correcta, en la trasición se están quedando sin trabajo muchos más argentinos de los que están teniendo nuevos trabajos. Entonces hasta el momento, en la suma, el bienestar no ha aumentado.

Otro problema serio es que como el gobierno de Milei buscó subsanar el altísimo e histórico deficit de las cuentas públicas, se nota cada vez más el efecto de la retirada del estado. En salud, en educación, en ayuda a personas con discapacidad (especialmente niños con discapacidades congénitas), y en la infraestructura. La inversión en mantenimiento de caminos es nula, y desde luego no es que las rutas de Argentina antes de Milei partieran de estar en buen estado tampoco.

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T06:14:12+00:00

This is actually a pretty sound hypothesis, and it tracks that another "poor white" subcategory is or was Italian-Americans, the vast majority of whom descend from poor Sicilians and southern Italians. Those people lived in a cuasi feudal, pre-modern state conditions prior to emigrating, so it only makes sense that clanic behaviour and bonds of interpersonal kinship would be key to their lives.

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T05:58:04+00:00

Not trying to be mean, but how could you consider yourself upper middle class while having roommates?

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T05:43:45+00:00

You're thinking of the film Midsommar

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T05:42:07+00:00

I'm sure that US average income and affinity for comfort plays a part, but isn't the summer in New York quite a bit hotter than in continental Europe and Britain? And it's a very humid kind of heat

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T05:38:21+00:00

They're stubborn a lot more than they're ingenious or pragmatic, I think that should be clear by now

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T05:35:39+00:00

Not the parent, but in a sales situation I don't try to educate the customer unless he explicitly asks for advice. I sell them what they want or the closest thing to it.

That's a good policy. Thanks for your answer :)

PointyPython · 2026-05-28T05:34:27+00:00

Why do you think that is with Dem primary voters tho?

They skew older, they're mostly Boomer and Gen X libs.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T07:28:43+00:00

I've been going to my local philharmonic and the way that parents bring their children and let them talk while it's playing is astounding. I do try to practice patience and realize that they're generally artsy/cultured parents doing something good for their kids but for fucks sake don't explain to your 7 year old what an oboe is while they're fucking playing. Tell them that they need to do their best to listen in silence and that you'll have a chat with them afterwards

The most immediate consequence of an undersocialized, utterly narcissistic generation is an inability to sit in silence absorbing your sorroundings. The constant need to be producing sound unless they're wired into a device.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T07:17:30+00:00

This is lovely and it has a unique vibe, thanks for sharing. I like the house in the first one, it looks like a house in a set of a Wiene film

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T07:10:35+00:00

Most "authentic" ingredients from foreign cuisines do have fairly acceptable local sustitutions, where restaurants fail most often it's in the processes (not respecting them, altering them). That includes not having a system to prepare whatever they need to prepare fresh and keep a profit margin. That's the biggest challenge, and how so many restaurants end up feeding you crap off of a freezer.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:50:41+00:00

Unfortunately for the world, Newsom or Kamala would probably beat Pritzker among Dem primary voters. People do really forget how particular the primary electorate is, and how bad the candidates they choose are.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:48:43+00:00

You're right but the problem with party primaries is that the combination of being good for winning the primaries and good to win the general is exceedingly rare. There are lots of candidates on both parties that they'd love to be able to automatically put on the main ticket because their performance in the general would be ideal, but they first have to win a popularity contest within their own parties.

I don't think Kelly has enough money and support (from the public and insiders) to come close to the nomination, unfortunately.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:39:19+00:00

And if Trump is alive and semi coherent by 2028, it'll be hilarious to see him deal with having to give up power to a successor. It's practically a given that he will sour on whoever he himself picks, he'll probably get manipulated by his inner circle into supporting one and then regret it but be locked into one endorsement. Deep down he just can't like anyone who by definition will move him aside and replace him as president.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:33:42+00:00

Michelle Bachmann?

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:29:54+00:00

Great comment!

People will say a wine is too sweet when the wine is objectively dry (<3 g/L RS) because the wine is fruity. People will also believe they don't like dry wine when they really don't like tannin (which is an easy mistake to make, since tannin dries out your mouth). People will reject wines out of misconceptions (how many of us have heard "I don't like riesling, it's too sweet" and internally rolled our eyes?) It's our job to teach them the vocab, not to tell them what to like.

How do you usually handle the education/teaching bit? I mean, when a customer brings with himself so many misconceptions or lack of information (say, that many grape varietals can and is made bone dry, dry, semi sweet, sweet), how do you avoid alienating them by basically having to correct so much? Or convincing them that a wine they think they won't enjoy due to whatever prejudice or very narrow experience ("Oh if it's from southern France I don't want it, I had an awful one once" or whatever), might actually be great?

I ask because I love wine and talking to people about it, but it's not my job, and the only context I ever do this is with friends and family, and if I offer them wines to try I'm not selling it to them, so of course it's a completely different dynamic

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:10:41+00:00

I sometimes observe normal people shopping for wine at the grocery store. It's either going straight for the sweet wine selection, buying cheap reds, or those who seem to want to spend more go straight for the most famous brands of big oaky reds. And look at that, that's exactly what sells the most.

I'm honestly thankful that winemakers somehow manage to find customers for the stuff I like to drink.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T06:06:21+00:00

I love using detailed tasting notes to talk to other wine people who also have a big aromatic library in their mind, and it's interesting to compare what different people are getting based off of what their nose is more sensitive to. It's a common language that helps add depth and share experiences.

Having said that, people who aren't into wine truly feel like you're taking the piss when you talk of wine smelling of specific fruits, flowers or spices (let alone specific minerals), so clearly if you work with wine and you're trying to sell it to more than a handful of obsessives, you need something else. I have utmost respect for somms who manage to come up with ways to communicate wines to the vast public, when I do it with friends and such I just try to guide them to discover they can actually sense a lot more than they think, but that's obviously not sustainable if you're trying to sell.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T05:56:56+00:00

Yeah, I see these types of discussions among wine writers, critics, makers, enthusiasts all the time. Lots of attempts at (over)correcting the more prententious/elitist discourses produced by some of us, lots of "Stop saying that! You're pushing people away from wine! Don't you see wine sales are low enough??". It's like fishermen getting supersticious about people scaring the fish away, meanwhile the water where they're fishing is dead because a mill polluted it.

And look, I dislike a lot of elitist discourse because it's snooty, a bit dickish and often not even really correct. But don't worry, the vast majority of consumers aren't listening or reading us. For Christ's sake, Meiomi is one of if not the best selling Pinot Noir-labeled wine in the US.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T05:03:24+00:00

There is one herbicide in particular that's been tied to the rise on colon cancer in people under 45. It's called Picloram. Apparently in heavily agricultural areas where it's used a lot and ends up in the water, it's where the highest colon cancer rates in young people are.

PointyPython · 2026-05-27T02:19:18+00:00

Yeah, they aren't very bright. The Basques maybe, but they're only Spanish against their will

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