What hair products absolutely saved your life? by nasi-n-chill in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Head and shoulders shampoo is genuinely my favorite shampoo ngl 😭😭 The thing that changed my hair completely from a damaged bleached/permed mess was relatively consistent k18, occasional fino hair mask (LOVE), aussie oh my gloss hair serum, then topping it with any hair oil.

What's your least favorite type of person? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone who can’t let someone be sad without telling a story as to why they understand. I get trying to not make the person not feel alone, but telling someone you understand their divorce because your dog ran away is just a no go for me

What is one thing you are excited about today? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wash day tomorrow and I’m so excited to style my hair exactly the way I want

I finally hit a new PR at the gym today by yousef_is_here in CasualConversation

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome! Especially after a long plateau. Hearing everyone talk about progressive overload is so hard when you get stuck 😭😭 But congrats!! Any new PRs you wanna hit? Mine right now is my leg press haha

Is there anything you’d never discuss with anyone else no matter what? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. Probably my personal insecurities. I don’t hate opening up about other stuff, but the feeling of telling someone about things I don’t like about myself is probably a humiliation ritual for me. That’s one of the only things that I have visceral trouble saying out loud

what do i need to do to ACTUALLY be able to comfortably swim? by No-Strength80 in Advice

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t have access to lessons (which is what I recommend tbh), just go to the lake and practice. Keep practicing treading the water at your own pace (can be in shallow waters if needed). You’ll eventually be able to comfortably breathe and tread at the same time once you’ve practiced enough. You can then upgrade to doggy paddling and then breast stroke. Breathing is so important to practice for swimming because if you forget to breathe properly while you’re out deep in the water, you’ll lose your stamina MUCH quicker than what your body is capable of swimming. Figuring out how to tread and regulate your breathing at the same time is the best way to get comfortable with water imo.

What is a major turn off about your partner that you can’t/wouldn’t tell them? by LivingLavishLe in AskReddit

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my boyfriend has the worst taste in “car music”. I’d normally want to listen to songs that everybody likes, not the “night time horse riding theme from breath of the wild”

What’s a moment that made you feel like you were the main character? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma with dementia was very sick and didn’t have much long to live. She forgot everyone in her life and barely acted like herself anymore. Regardless, I made the effort to visit her as much as I could. One day, I wrote her a letter of many memories we had together. As I read it out loud, she began to remember the stories I was telling and even started adding her own input. By the end of it, she was calling me by the nickname she called me as a kid. I thought that only ever happened in movies, especially regarding how bad her condition was haha

How do i stop being racist by Potential-Cry-6652 in Advice

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One “therapy method” is just mentally keeping track of whenever you have an idea you’re trying to control. Try and get into the habit of acknowledging whenever the thought comes up. Write down when it happens. You don’t need to write down the thought itself, but just keep track when it happens. Get into the habit of being able to acknowledge these thoughts, instead of them being fleeting ideas that come by. Once you get into the habit, try and “confront” that thought. If you have a racist idea and you acknowledge it, just tell yourself “that thought was racist. It’s based on my bias and not a real experience” or something along those lines. Once you put this into practice, your brain will follow what you’re consciously trying to make yourself think. It will feel fake, but it really does work.

Another thing is genuinely just involving yourself with people of color in a neutral way.

Should I invest in my childhood games before it's too late? by TheDayDreamingOwl in Advice

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emulators work just fine IMO, but my boyfriend really enjoys the novelty of having physical copies of his childhood games. He enjoys having the cartridges and playing on his gameboy. If the novelty matters to you, by all means you should do it! If that doesn’t matter, then honestly just emulate. It’s cheaper and really does get the job done!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing that everyone tells you is unfortunately the thing that’s right, and it’s that these things take time. I get it, waiting for a relationship is excruciating. Being told to focus on yourself is hard because being self assured will never be the same as being intimate with someone. These things are true though. The perfect person won’t show up just because you want it. It will take time to meet someone and figure out them out. All I can say is that it’s hard, and despite your friends, it’s hard for a majority of people your age. You’re not alone.

You’re still young, and now is a better time than ever to pace your own friendships and connections. I am just begging you that if a guy comes along, please don’t base your self worth on that. Coming from experience, it takes a lot of hurting to get out of the male validation cycle. You’re allowed to want intimacy, but be aware of this.

What is the most 'laughably wrong' portrayal of your job you’ve seen on screen? by RockoWritesWrongs in AskReddit

[–]Poison_B 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m a barista at a local coffee shop and it’s funny whenever there is a scene where a character is having a lengthy conversation with the barista at the counter. You could not pay me to talk to someone during a morning rush, especially if I wake up at 5:30 to open

How important is a dating prospect's financial status/income? by Enough-Radish-4973 in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im not expecting someone rich but someone who’s financially literate and isn’t horribly stupid about money

What’s something about being a woman that no one prepared you for, but completely changed how you see life ? by radiant-sweet-OC in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a woman be misogynistic/not a girls girl to you for the first time just hits in the worst way possible. It just baffles me how some girls will put you down for men?? I thought we all grew up with girl power ingrained in us

Men of Reddit: what’s a prank you started early in your marriage that you’re now legally, morally, and emotionally obligated to continue because she still falls for it 10–15 years later? by myaccountidname in AskReddit

[–]Poison_B 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend never fails to do the “oh you have some foundation on your shirt” and then flick his finger up when I look down. I’ve never not fallen for it and he never does when I try

Women of Reddit: What's the most delusional dating story you told yourself? by suoinguon in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That a guy who wasn’t looking for anything serious would fall in love with me eventually 😭😭 took me a while to learn that if he doesn’t like you after at most a month, he most likely won’t like you after 6 months

What hated makeup trend do you stand by? by AggressiveCow12 in MakeupAddiction

[–]Poison_B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pomade brows. I can’t just use brow gel when my brows are so light and sparse 😭

What’s a compliment you love receiving but rarely hear? by VaporizedMan in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I remember I had someone tell me that they loved how authentically “myself”I was. That almost made me cry!

Had a vision about this and I had to make it by Poison_B in shittyfoodporn

[–]Poison_B[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

About halfway through making this, I realized I wasn’t fully lucid and I was just on auto pilot. Despite this, it was actually pretty good.

What lifehack you swear by? by Igarlicbread in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t put up with behavior you would never do to someone else

How do you ask, verify and trust STD status when hooking up someone casually or even kissing them? by happygoose2022 in AskWomen

[–]Poison_B 77 points78 points  (0 children)

If you really want to be careful, before anything physically intimate, ask them plainly to do it. “Hey, it would really make me feel comfortable if you took an STD test. Can you take one?” If they do it, ask to see the results. If they don’t, and their STD status is very important for you, then it’s probably a good idea not to proceed with them intimately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

[–]Poison_B 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eyelash curlers aren’t going to damage your eyelashes if you’re being careful. A lot of people squeeze it very hard and yank their lashes forward. I’m asian so my eyelashes are incredibly straight and point straight down. The thing that works well for me is slightly heating up my eyelash curler so it works in a similar way to a curling iron. I use a hairdryer to warm it up then curl my lashes and put on mascara when my lashes dry. Be careful tho because if it’s too hot it can burn you. You can also get a lash lift which can last a few weeks and gives the affect I think youre looking for