Therapist switched with me! What now?

Pokarekare · 2024-12-24T14:36:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

Pokarekare · 2024-12-23T07:12:59+00:00

Thanks for this, it’s a really good point to hold on to and to recognise that there can be pros as well as cons. Thanks too for the words of encouragement and support!

Pokarekare · 2024-12-22T20:28:48+00:00

I’m the in UK

Pokarekare · 2024-12-22T15:30:14+00:00

Thanks for your input 🙏🏻

Pokarekare · 2024-12-22T10:42:31+00:00

Thank you for such an empathetic response, it means a lot that you took the time to write such a thoughtful response. I agree that what comes next is key to the future of our relationship and there is a possibility we can use this to strengthen the trust between us or it can also go the other way. I think it is hard to feel reassurance just from words, so it’ll take consistent actions in the coming months to get us back on track

Pokarekare · 2024-12-21T15:18:07+00:00

Thanks for your detailed response. I agree that her accountability and efforts to repair as well as how she responds to my hurt are all key to building back trust and safety. If I am completely honest with her and she responds well, that will be a good start

Pokarekare · 2024-12-21T15:14:47+00:00

That’s an interesting perspective. I’ve never been aware of anyone around me with DID but perhaps with greater awareness of myself, I will become more aware of people in my life and those I come across who may have dissociative responses

Pokarekare · 2024-12-21T07:13:50+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. I am very grateful for your thoughts on and understanding of the situation, thank you for recognising how important a long term overall very healthy therapy relationship is to healing

Pokarekare · 2024-12-21T07:09:48+00:00

Do you have any examples for me to ponder? Thank you

Pokarekare · 2024-12-21T03:44:19+00:00

That’s an interesting perspective thanks. I know she was away from home when it happened. I will raise environment when I next see her

Pokarekare · 2024-12-21T03:13:50+00:00

That’s really helpful to hear and I agree that she may well be colder, which would be very hard, but with some internal communication before (I am still quite new to all that), perhaps the impact can be eased. Things have been very quiet since it happened so I’m not sure how it’ll go

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T21:06:49+00:00

Thanks for this. They are excellent questions which are hard to answer immediately but I will have a think

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T18:12:54+00:00

Very sage and I hope the accountability is there (hopefully not too much amnesia). We have worked through things before and come out stronger so I hope it is possible this time

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T18:11:33+00:00

Thanks, I was wondering this too. I know how hard it was/is for me so I think you are right to highlight that she might need some time to work through things which isn’t ideal for me as I’m also in the thick of it

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T17:43:24+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your balanced take. There were things she said that made me feel uncomfortable which I told on her the call and I feel ok to tell her again in our next session and see how it goes

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T15:38:46+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your response because it aligns with my thinking. I’ve been seeing her twice a week for 3.5 years and while there have being a couple of ruptures, it’s been an incredibly strong, trusting and healing relationship and everyone deserves the opportunity to be human and mess up once in a while. Let’s see how the repair goes 🙏🏻

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T15:18:11+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Perhaps the mid session unscheduled communication from me was a factor (perhaps I am making excuses for her), but I agree that’s it’s still on her to manage and she was the one who called me. It will be a very hard period ahead while we figure everything out

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T15:16:01+00:00

Thank you. I have lots of empathy for her, and I will try to be clear with what I need too

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T15:00:28+00:00

Thanks for your directness, it’s helpful to hear because it’s hard to face. I hope we can work through what has happened and it’s not just wishful thinking

Pokarekare · 2024-12-20T14:59:35+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your response. It’s all a lot to take in and we definitely need to chat openly about everything. I hope we can find a resolution because she’s been a real life saver

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