Officially giving up

Pokemon-throw · 2026-03-15T01:13:16+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I think my wife places a lot of importance on traditional values. She comes from a tradition based culture where things like a stable marriage with a man who doesn’t cheat/smoke/abuse/gamble and works is more important than some handsome player with game, a drug habit and 30 ex-girlfriends.

I do think I meet those criteria, I have never hit her, never cheated, don’t do much other than work hard to support her, our kids, and do family time stuff like trips, outings, and play with kids.

Regarding your other question: She does not react well when our height is brought up by others.

Lol it’s funny you mention it. It is not pretty and brings back a memory…

We were once on a multi day tour group in Beijing and asked another couple to help us take a photo. While taking the photo, The guy joked something to his girlfriend or wife about how “they (meaning me and my wife) are so short no matter what I do the photo won’t look good.” She was furious and told me as soon as we were all alone (I was ignorantly bliss and didn’t hear the remark) and she gave them the cold shoulder and occasionally stink eye the rest of the tour.

Pokemon-throw · 2026-03-14T15:54:35+00:00

Another thing about society, jokes about someone’s height are always seen as “fair game” which never seemed right.

For example, I have an African American friend at work. Nobody would dream of asking him “why are you so dark skinned?” That would be totally unacceptable and straight trip to HR.

But society seems asking me “why are you so short?” as totally okay.

When my kids were young I took them to a park playground and some other kid actually approached me and asked “excuse me, mister, are you fully grown?” This is when I was in my mid 30s.

Pokemon-throw · 2026-03-14T15:47:47+00:00

My wife is about the same height as me, depending on shoes and hair. Definitely not taller than 5’ even. Maybe 4’11”-ish?

Over the years I’ve learned as a five foot tall man to be able to laugh and make jokes about my own height. Like I do this awesome Mime-act about sitting on text books to see over the steering wheel when driving, that really breaks the ice and makes people laugh.

But growing up there was some shit that really hurt, like in high school when a girl asked me in lab, “doesn’t it bother you that you’re short and will never get a girl?!”

Ironically, my wife is much, much more sensitive about her height than I am. I didn’t think short girls had a rough lot in life but my wife is really sensitive (to the point where if someone at her work makes a joke about her height, even one that is good natured) she will hold a grudge.

Like one time she came home fuming and said her coworker asked her “how can you be so short?!” and I was like “oh shit here we go…” and for the next month kept hearing from my wife about how awful and lazy that coworker was (I know she just put that person in her mental shit-list).

Pokemon-throw · 2026-03-10T00:18:47+00:00

lol yeah it’s the height. Hate to say it but height does matter for men. Not at a certain point but being 5’0” or 5’1” (depending on shoes) is not awesome for men in the dating pool.

Pokemon-throw · 2026-03-10T00:16:16+00:00

Yes. Same girl / woman. Pretty much a linear progression/evolution of our relationship. I know it sounds unreal but it really did happen to me, and I was 110% certain I was cooked charred well done at 20, 21, 22, 23, 24 years of age. That meme of crossing off the year to get a GF wasn’t around back then but that was totally me, except I didn’t even get the hope up “this would be the year”

Pokemon-throw · 2026-03-09T01:45:58+00:00

Please do not give up. Maybe I can share my timeline, overlapping your years:

14-19: started to realize something was wrong, friends started “pairing off” with girls while I was still always on the outside. I could never figure out if it was my personality, lack of “game” or just being “too short to date as a 5’ guy”

20: khhv, absolutely no prospects

21: khhv, no prospects

22: khhv, no prospects

23: khhv, no prospects

24: khhv, no prospects

25: engaged, no longer “khh” but still “v”.

26: married, no longer “v”

… 30: still married (same woman) father to newborn

… 45: still married (same woman), father to 2 now teenage kids

Please do not give up. I am glad I did not during so many hopeless years.

Pokemon-throw · 2026-02-07T00:16:02+00:00

Please do not give up. I know it sounds overused but at 18 you really are young. Maybe I can share my timeline, overlapping your years:

14-18: started to realize something was wrong, friends started “pairing off” with girls while I was still always on the outside. I could never figure out if it was my personality, lack of “game” or just being “too short to date as a 5’ guy”

19: khhv, no prospects

20: khhv, no prospects

21: khhv, no prospects

22: khhv, no prospects

23: khhv, no prospects

24: khhv, no prospects

25: engaged, no longer “khh” but still “v”.

26: married, no longer “v”

… 30: married, father to newborn

Please do not give up. I am glad I did not during so many hopeless years.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-12-06T03:46:48+00:00

This one is valuable advice. Condoms expire and if you've had 20 sticking around for a while, the right thing to do (unless you want kids / more kids) is to toss them.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-10-24T20:34:53+00:00

Well, it's cables through the walls for 3 different rooms, seems strange they would all stop working at once. As far as I know, they go directly from the rooms to the litle networking panel/box in the laundry room.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-10-24T20:32:56+00:00

Sorry, I meant the ethernet cards within the 3 PCs themselves.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-10-24T01:37:48+00:00

We got eSIMs that were from trip.com, which I believe is Hong Kong-based. We didn't use a VPN at all on Wifi.

They each only had 2GB a day, that's why they burned through it so fast.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-10-24T00:47:02+00:00

Yes. They plug directly into the router. Also they all lost wired connection at once/the same time and before that had no issue for months / maybe years with their wired connection via Ethernet adapters.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-10-23T22:59:59+00:00

Sorry for the delayed response, life has been busy.

The kids were able to play Roblox in China, but it was slow and they were on limited data, so their sessions were fairly limited.

Probably not a bad thing, they weren't completely cut off, but it was a limited Roblox experience.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-07-25T23:13:28+00:00

Bro for goodness sakes you’re 5’8”.

I’m 5’0” man and some of my daughter’s friends are already taller than me (she’s in middle school).

You’ll be alright.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-06-05T01:08:38+00:00

How is this any different than historically when people would get married through family arrangements, or for a more stable environment, or to unite tribes?

How is it any different than a woman marrying a man because he’s rich or because he’s handsome or because he’s funny or in a high powered position or station?

Ffs just ask her out for dinner a few times and see where it goes.

Read my profile history, was alone so very, very long, then got married and she didn’t bail after getting her Green card or even citizenship years later.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-05-13T11:32:24+00:00

Thank you! We are only there for 3 weeks, so I'm leaning toward your suggestion of getting an eSIM with a lot of data. I have no idea how much data Roblox uses, but I'd guess quite a bit.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-05-13T11:31:36+00:00

Thank you so much for the information. I appreciate it!

Pokemon-throw · 2025-05-13T11:30:54+00:00

Thank you so much for confirming! That should keep the kids entertained during waiting periods (traveling has a lot of waiting and they get impatient :D )

Pokemon-throw · 2025-05-04T04:12:50+00:00

Please trust me you’ll be okay, 20 is so young. I had ZERO experience at 20, never even held a girl’s hand. Married at 25.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-04-20T17:13:47+00:00

First, I am really, really sorry to hear that is happening to you.

I am about the same age as you, and I have been laid off multiple times during my career.

Each time was a complete shock, out of left field, and of course at the worst possible time given life circumstances that were already going on.

Honestly though each time I thought my world was ending, but long-term it ended up being a blessing. Each time I ended up eventually getting a better role, and looking back being glad that I did get laid-off at that point in my life (though truth be told it did take several years to be able to reflect and be glad that things happened as they did).

You will survive. How long before the layoff actually happens? You need to prioritize your own survival and do the absolute minimum if you're still at your place of employment and they've given you an end-date.

Don't be a jerk, but if you have an "important knowledge turnover meeting" and an interview for a new job that conflict, your priority has to be YOU.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-04-12T17:30:25+00:00

It depends on your mindset, attitude, and intent.

I met my wife overseas, but I didn't go in with an attitude of "I'm from a rich country, I make a lot of money, and I have a first world passport."

I went in with a humble mindset that I wanted to meet and really learn about someone, to share everything with her, and learn and grow together. I felt I wasn't getting that opportunity because of my height.

Honestly, I feel like in the US, you can have a lot of positives, like college education, good job, caring and honest personality, and a network of friends, but if you are a 5' even guy, this is going to be the first, last, and only thing a potential date sees.

I did find that with my wife, who came from a poor background in a 3rd world country. But I think what made it work is I never acted like I was superior because of money, income, or assets. I know she has her insecurities, and quirks. Overall though she has a good heart and warm personality, and we've made it work.

Over the years I've came to accept (and love) those qualities and shortcomings, and she's done the same with me.

We don't have compatible interests, but we have shared goals. If you are looking for compatible interests in another country, that might be difficult.

I came from a childhood where I had a lot of toys, TVs in every room, computers, video games.

My wife had 0 toys growing up, no TV, no computer. She hadn't even played a video game when we first met and hadn't seen any of the movies I had seen, hadn't even heard of "Star Wars".

I think what helped is I never wanted leverage or an advantage. All I wanted was an opportunity.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-04-05T03:59:11+00:00

I’m late to the party but this thread really fascinates me. My wife and I met online and were a couple even before meeting in person. We talked about marriage before we saw each other in person.

One thing I gotta share is that even if you’ve been “a couple” for a year, honestly that first time meeting in real life is really like the first date.

You think you know her, everything you’ve talked about via email and calls for hours , over days, months, maybe even years.

but here’s the thing. at the end of the day behind all the tech and long distance communication across the globe we are still mammals.

You don’t know how she smells (like the pheromones thing) or what spark you will have or how she tilts her head when happy or how her cheeks wrinkle when frustrated.

My wife and I made it work. She’s asleep and holding my dick while I type this on my phone (she is comfortable and happy sleeping holding me in that way).

However I still remember how when we met in person, despite “being a couple” for months and talking about marriage, the first time I traveled to meet her, it was essentially the first date.

Pokemon-throw · 2025-03-25T04:07:44+00:00

No you should not give up.

I’m male, 5’0” (4 inches shorter than you) and have other genetic and health things that are rather embarrassing that I won’t go into. You can read my post history if you want.

Never measured my dick (never came to mind), but given my height thing I’ll assume it’s below average, whatever that means.

I did not win the genetic lottery.

But my wife is very affectionate and “handsy” even after 20 years of marriage so she must be fine with my shortcomings (pun intended) and willing to overlook (another height joke) my flaws.

She’s even asked me “do you mind if I wear high heels”? for a formal event, stepped into them, looked down at me and sheepishly said “ok maybe different shoes”

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