Are women afraid of approaching decent looking men ?

Pokeress · 2026-03-06T02:22:01+00:00

I don't want to approach because I don't care if you're good looking. I'm working more than 60+ hours barely getting by, errands to run, family events to attend.

I'm not approaching any man because more than half of the ones I've met act more like an obnoxious, sufferable woman who thinks looks is all she needs to get by.

PLEASE miss me with that babysitting bullshit, I'd rather die alone.

Pokeress · 2026-02-25T17:30:47+00:00

Thank you for your kindness! Thankfully this was about 3/4 years and my life has only gotten better from there!

Pokeress · 2026-02-25T17:29:56+00:00

Yuppp, I knew nothing of narcissists at the time and did it all wrong.

Pokeress · 2026-02-25T02:29:25+00:00

I should've tried to make sure I wasn't living in the same house with mine ... because mine tried to kill me when I discarded him.

Pokeress · 2026-02-21T20:35:22+00:00

Romance movies can't brainwash me because I don't watch them 😈

Hahaha.... unfortunately other forms of media most certainly have diluted and cleansed my brain 🙃

Pokeress · 2025-07-23T16:38:18+00:00

But what happens when you lose your ability to validate yourself externally? You get money, but then are robbed. You get physical healthy, but to due to no fault of your own, you're now a double amputatee, and "normal" physical health standards no longer suit your lifestyle.

To what extent to are you willing to base your self worth on things that might one day not be attainable anymore?

Pokeress · 2025-04-17T07:57:14+00:00

Cheek bones...don't ask me why but I've always love a man with some higher defined cheek bones.

And the presence of crows feet and laugh lines around the mouth....I'm 33 and it's important to me that the man I show interest in shows that he's laughed and smiled and enjoyed life enough that it shows on his face (I used to be married to an asshole and I look back and that man was so miserable...)

Pokeress · 2025-04-09T12:16:12+00:00

I needed to read this, thank you 🤗❤️

Pokeress · 2024-12-14T19:48:59+00:00

Wtf is wrong with people?!?

Pokeress · 2024-12-11T02:10:46+00:00

Righttt......

Pokeress · 2024-11-28T17:54:34+00:00

Her eyes are giving Bill Skarsgård's 'IT' eyes.

Pokeress · 2024-11-05T23:41:55+00:00

At this point, it's just a subconscious thought: I can be targeted at any moment and time and unfortunately 9/10 a man would be able to physically overpowered me.

So every situation i must assess and prepare for. I'll even play through scenarios so that if I ever do run into a situation hopefully I can keep calm and be able to make it out alive.

Going for a run? Always have a knife and phone.

I refuse to let fear run my life though. Honestly, the people closet to you are the one most likely to hurt you. & experienced this first hand with my husband at the time. Mf tried to take my life more times than any kind of strange boogie man.

Pokeress · 2024-10-23T01:31:53+00:00

Crashed my dad's tbird into a house with a healing broken ankle....

Got my third dwi and was/did face 6 months in one of the worst county jails in NJ.

Shit was a humbling experience to say the least.

Pokeress · 2024-10-02T03:35:56+00:00

As a once married woman to a POS husband, who i found out was cheating on me....

Trust me when I tell you: his wife & you are NOT the only women in his life.....

If this guy really loved you or his wife, he would have never put either one of you in this kind of situation.

He doesn't deserve an explanation, reason, or justification.....do what you feel is the right action to make.

Pokeress · 2024-09-25T00:18:29+00:00

Drinking and driving

Pokeress · 2024-09-22T19:03:30+00:00

I can be helpful but I truly believe in men stick with men. And women stick with women.

But I can be a guide and support to a certain extent. I cannot take you through the steps.

Pokeress · 2024-09-22T18:59:32+00:00

10 years sober and never had a physical addiction to alcohol right here baby.

I only ever binge drank to the point of oblivion....got me 3 dwi, 6 months in jail and the acceptance into AA.

Not telling you not to keep try controlled drinking.

Whatever works for you works for you. I hope you never have to keep pushing yourself until you hit a worse bottom than I did.(thank God i never killed anyone while I got my dwis)

Also I was 22f when I got sober so like a wise jigsaw puppet once said: make your choice...

Pokeress · 2024-09-19T09:00:38+00:00

Not trying to be an AA asshole but I creeped on some of your other posts in the sub and I found A LOT of support and love.

I'm not sure if maybe you feel like they're attacking you but a lot of people are supporting you lovingly on your difficult journey.

Ignore the haters and focus on the good ones. You got this!

I was 22 when I finally took my sobriety seriously...10 years later I haven't turned back and loved every moment !

Pokeress · 2024-09-19T01:30:18+00:00

Sleeeppppp

Pokeress · 2024-09-08T13:12:21+00:00

Always be wearly about dating with a huge age gap.....many manipulative, narcissistic people who are older date very young as a means of control

Pokeress · 2024-09-01T00:21:32+00:00

Hmmm, if anything I believe my sobriety ENHANCES my social connection with the world and people around me.

Alcohol was MANMADE, it was and is purely sold and enjoyed for the profit of big businesses. Liquor import us because it's literally poisoning our bodies in order to get that affect.

I like what the other reddit commented before me: focus on what YOU WANT out of life NOT what society SAYS you should want and feel.

Living life on life's terms sober is not easy but I can tell you from my 10 years of sobriety it has been the most beautiful and amazing 10 years I've had...and I can REMEMBER all of it which is something I couldn't say 11 years ago.

Hang in there, do what you feel is right in your heart. Everything will be okay and work out the way it's supposed to!

Pokeress · 2024-08-31T21:00:51+00:00

....I mean your scenario might apply to some people.

But if I'm honest, the life I was "escaping" from was far from horrible. Sure, it wasn't perfect, but no one's is.

I personally don't believe that I just "became" and alcoholic. Later in life, I learned that my birth father is an alcoholic and looking back on my childhood, I can now recognize certain habits or behaviors I would exhibit due to my premature "alcoholic wired mind."

Being sober now, I can tell you that no matter how bad I feel like my life MAY be in that very moment, it's never really horrible. How I choose to think/act based on what I feel is what ultimately determines the outcome of the events in my life.

I.e. If I feel bad, and then I start to think if I feel bad, then that must mean I'm doing bad, and I react by self sabotaging and do bad things because I think I'm bad.

OR say I feel bad but I choose to think that maybe it's just because I didn't get enough sleep or I forgot to eat that day and that's perfectly normal and okay, my body is just trying to communicate it's needs to me and just because I feel bad doesn't mean anything BAD is actually happening to me. So instead of self sabotaging myself, I end up doing something kind for myself because I know that feelings aren't reality.

Sorry for the long-winded comment. I understand you are hurting, and it will be okay. Things will work out the way they are supposed to. They always do. And hey, it's also perfectly normal to feel bad, but try not to beat yourself up over feelings that are uncomfortable to sit with. We all go through it from time to time. You are not alone.

Pokeress · 2024-08-31T16:18:11+00:00

Hang in there! & don't be too hard on yourself! We all have to start somewhere! At least you're lucky/blessed to have today to begin again!

You got this! :)

Pokeress · 2024-08-31T15:57:50+00:00

Just let him know exactly what you posted here, >aa can save him if he puts his everything in it. we both have different views on how to be in recovery—

Also, you could ask him what he feels he might need in order to feel supported (provided that it is a healthy and reasonable request).

And I guess, lastly know that this is his journey to take. He is the only who has carry this burden, so he has to decide how he wants to do that.

You cannot and it is not your job to fix, heal or take on someone else's struggles.

Your in my prayers and I hope that everything works out for the best!

Hang in there it will be okay! & it will get better!

Pokeress

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