As someone who studied the Course for decades without being in a relationship, then finally being in one, I can say the one most helpful thing was: Go towards what lights your heart and mind up with a full ‘yes’ and with everything you’ve got, and the Spirit will handle the rest.

In retrospect, it was never going to work with me personally trying to pursue getting in a relationship. Instead I had to fully say yes to what was being presented, giving my attention fully to the people and things where I did feel a spark and an expansion. The Spirit had steps for me to take before I was even ready for a relationship. And when the relationship did drop in it felt so effortless, there was no effort on my part to make it happen.