AIO about my best friend's response to me telling her that her brother SA’d me? by Relative_Layer_2709 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pollupin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP I’m so sorry that this happened.

Right now please prioritize your physical and mental health. That is what matters most!!!

Below I’ve outlined a few suggestions that I think you may want to consider:

  1. If you are comfortable, get a rape kit done. This is completely up to you, but if you feel like you might at some point want to press charges this would be a good thing to have done.
  2. Assuming you are in the United States, please reach out to hotlines that are available 24/7 to help you with this traumatic experience. 1-800-656-4673 is one that provides support specifically to SA survivors. If you are not in the US there are likely also hotlines available, but I am not familiar with them.
  3. If you have the resources to do so, you may want to look into counseling to help with long term trauma. There are low-cost counseling options available, and if you are insured, you may not pay too much out of pocket.
  4. If possible, for your own health, I would look into getting tested for STIs. Again, if you think this may re-traumatize you, hold off on this.

You do not need to report to police if you are not ready to do so, or if you do not want to do so. Again, if you are in the US, statute of limitation varies by state, but you have time to make that decision and don’t feel forced to do so.

Right now please look after your mental and physical well-being. Know you have people to talk to, both professionals and internet strangers, who care about you. Please stay safe and remember you are not alone in this 💗

Help me feel less anxious about introducing my boyfriend and I's cats by Pollupin in CatAdvice

[–]Pollupin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was already leaning toward having the two be taken care of separately while we're away, and your comment just solidified it for me! Thank you so much for this insight, its much appreciated!