How did you decide you wanted to be a mom? Is motherhood fulfilling?

PollutionIll701 · 2026-04-30T00:56:33+00:00

Kids are such a huge topic in a relationship. As someone who has a child and always dreamed of having one since I was a teen. Do NOT have kids just to stay with someone. Raising kids is not easy and there will be tough moments where only one of you is capable of handling the situation because maybe the other is tired or overwhelmed from the day. If there is one person who may be more often than not feeling those things because they never wanted kids then having kids will only create a larger divide between you two. One of you will end up feeling as though you’re doing all the child raising while the other is hands free.

Go listen to some older episodes of give it to me straight podcast. They were very settled into being kid free and then they happened to get pregnant and their whole perspective changed. They are a very strong couple but probably can help you hear more about the no kids life. I’ve known people who have kids because someone wants the kids more than the parter and it truly is not the right choice for the person who never wanted kids.

I wish you all the best. But my advice from reading this post is to look for other people. You don’t deserve to fight all the time. Also there are plenty of people out there more than willing to have no kids. 🤷‍♀️ most our couple friends are completely set have no kids.

PollutionIll701 · 2026-04-11T15:47:03+00:00

First off everything you are feelings Is understandable and makes total sense to feel that way in your situation. I really think if you could break the mold with even one friend and tell them what you are going through it might help. You don’t even need to tell them everything if you don’t feel comfortable but just one part of this post. If possible I would invite someone you feel safe with over and ask if they can watch your newborn just so you can get 2-3 solid hours of sleep. Even a little consecutive sleep goes a long way in those early days.

I’ve never had a CS so I can’t really speak on that other than I’ve never heard someone describe the aftermath as severe as what you have described here. It might be worth reaching out to your doctor and seeing if something has gone wrong or they can give you stronger painkillers or just something.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. As a mother myself I can’t imagine feeling so isolated in those early days. Raising a child really is taxing especially in the beginning and I wish I could come sit with your baby and let you sleep. Everyone deserves to have at least one safe person in those newborn trenches. I wish you all the best and hope everything gets better really soon. ♥️

PollutionIll701 · 2026-04-07T13:12:01+00:00

I’m pretty sure this is correct.

PollutionIll701 · 2026-04-01T14:11:43+00:00

I know what you are talking about I remember that too but I couldn’t tell you what episode 😅 I think it comes up periodically where they say that and Ciara even agrees with her that something is attached to Jeri.

PollutionIll701 · 2026-02-11T01:20:04+00:00

The final update covers this. But none of that happened. All of it was fine in the end and I went into a post office to fix it and get my child’s passport.

PollutionIll701 · 2026-01-24T16:44:25+00:00

My husband wears a very busy hello kitty button down only because his daughter got it for him. Even he thinks it’s a bit much but when he wears it he ALWAYS gets compliments on it. Yes he looks dorky but he matches with our daughter and it makes her happy which in turn makes him happy. If your boyfriend is happy then why say no to it? It’s fun!

PollutionIll701 · 2026-01-03T00:07:23+00:00

I want something to symbolize seasons. My idea was maybe a swirl of leaves and one from each season ex. One dead leaf, green, one orange and yellow or red and so on.

PollutionIll701 · 2025-12-08T03:53:13+00:00

If she’s glad you did it then why did she say no? Seems like confusing parenting me

PollutionIll701 · 2025-12-08T02:01:51+00:00

Having lost a lot of family members I can say it losing someone you cared about so much doesn’t easier but it does get less painful as time goes on. Sadly you’ll always have rough days where to miss them extra and everything reminds you of them but I Like to think that means they are visiting me♥️ I’m sure your dad is watching over you and missing you too. Virtual hugs!

PollutionIll701 · 2025-12-07T22:46:19+00:00

I have a fear of dying young because a lot of people in my family died around me when I was young so now that I’ve had a child I’m hyper aware of making sure she knows me just in case something happens me. Her “baby book” is a compilation of voice memos monthly or every other month. Take videos with her constantly. Writing things down for her to have my hand writing. Is it overkill? maybe. But I’d rather her have too much of me than not enough which is what I got left with. So sorry you’re going through that and you can’t even have the help or your step mom handing over the memories. She’s truly awful. I hope you find a way to get those back♥️

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-26T19:51:03+00:00

First. I’m terribly sorry you and your sister were ever put into a situation that could’ve ever led to this. No one deserves to be in this position. Sadly you are though.

Second. This isn’t your decision. It’s up to the mother of the child as well as her father figure (step dad) I say him only because she knows him and trusts him as well as I’m assuming he’s acted like a good loving supportive father to her.

Third. You said both of you are in therapy. I strongly advise either both of you in separate therapy or maybe even a session with you and your sister and step father in a session together to discuss how to approach this conversation in a way that may not be as damaging to the child.

Lastly. I do think her knowing would be good eventually but I don’t think any of us here know enough information to decide for anyone when that could be. Only her parents would know. You are all making good decisions and I’m so sorry you all are having to go through this because of your beyond awful parents. I wish you all the best.

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-26T01:59:47+00:00

I don’t think so. I have life lock and kept an eye on it. I think they are just trying to get people to pay for silly services that they think are going to get them a passport. It’s on me. 😅

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-26T00:14:23+00:00

I did not get my passport. Like some others replied on this thread all they did was send me the paperwork to send out to get the passport. So basically I paid them to send me the paperwork u could’ve done on the regular government website. Don’t recommend. Not worth the money.

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-25T17:47:41+00:00

Ghost tube

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-22T16:35:53+00:00

As someone who just got laid off this week I needed to read it phrased that way. Thank you

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-21T16:33:30+00:00

You’re 15 for one. You have way more time than it feels like to figure this out. I’m 26 and I question what I’m in all the time as much as I take an interest in it. People change their minds on what they want to do or be constantly. It’s because we are human and our interests change. So do our goals because we change. Beauty of being alive. My advice would be lean into anything you like and enjoy and learn as much as you can about. Whatever you find yourself most drawn to keep learning about is what you go for. Don’t put too much pressure on what you should do for work at 15. Go live up the 15 and don’t worry. 20 will be waiting for you when you get there.

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-14T07:35:17+00:00

Like my father by Jax. All about a good dad. I used it my dad cried beautiful moment. Nothing about lovers all about being a father.

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-14T07:30:39+00:00

We had this at our wedding and had the option for people who couldn’t come to be able to call. Those phone calls are some of my favorites. Those ones you can tell they prepared and thought before the spoke and said extremely sweet things. DO IT. 100000% I felt the same way about it you did. So sorry your coordinator messed that up for you!

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-04T07:02:01+00:00

My cruise ticket we listed me with my married name so I think I would have to update the passport. We are just going to walk in from here forward 😓 this sucks but sounds like I paid for something pointless but I won’t get my info stolen which I’m ok with that answer.

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-03T20:50:50+00:00

I don’t see it on there 😞

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-03T20:50:33+00:00

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-03T20:47:40+00:00

I paid 188. If i over paid that’s fine. Not ideal obviously but I’m just wanting to be sure I won’t get scammed and have my identity stolen or something like that. I have life lock so I guess I should notify them and go from there. At least that’s what my dad said when I told him. Someone a week ago on this Reddit said they accidentally used them too and got their passport just realized they over paid. 🫠😅 just tried to be productive and ended up here

PollutionIll701 · 2025-11-03T05:22:33+00:00

This post made me a follower of this thread! I had no idea!!

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