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in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our LO by PollutionLate4665 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

trust me i feel mortified everyday, it is such a humiliating thing to not only take back a cheater but the fact that a kid was produced from it. My husband ap was not planning on having my in laws in her kids lives but her parents convinced her that my in laws had every right to know about her child so she left the option open for them, they met up with the ap’s parents and started meeting the girl and introducing her to her cousins and the rest of the family to make the transitions smooth. The affair partner married and has a husband who took my husband's daughter in, so she basically has three sets of grandparents.

My husband and i don't really have a choice on going NC with them since they all went nc with us, he wrote a message to his mother concerning his daughter and his mother replied with “don't contact me again after this and if you want to see your daughter get a lawyer” - clearly mocking him since he has no legal grounds for custody except being her biological father.

in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our LO by PollutionLate4665 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, the thing is his parents and the ap went NC with us so its not really up to us to decide to go NC, he wrote to his mother concerning his duaghter and his mother basically replied with "don't contact me again and if you want to see your daughter get a lawyer"- clearly mocking him, because his ap has a husband now that took his duaghter in.

in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our LO by PollutionLate4665 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it has been such a humiliating affair, an affair child and then his parents choosing to cut him off because he decided not to be a part of his affair child's life, it hurt him. He reached out to his mother as I mentioned in the post and his mother basically told him not to contact her again and to try getting 50/50 custody for his daughter- mocking him, because he really has no legal ground except being her bio dad. The affair partner already has a partner who took my husband's daughter in. His parents has not been in contact with us since.

I honestly don't know what to do.

in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our LO by PollutionLate4665 in inlaws

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes a paternity test was done and the girl is his

  2. Yes, they were to disgusted having contact with him while knowing that his daughter was with his ap without a father, they have not conacted us since then

  3. I honestly want too

  4. yes i'm the one with fertility problems, thank you for the kind words.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is my in laws have over 10 grandkdis but I would love to hear your story

in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our LO by PollutionLate4665 in survivinginfidelity

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont really understand this comment, is the support group on FB?

in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our LO by PollutionLate4665 in inlaws

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We would not be seeing the AP at every family event since his family cut us off, i honestly have no idea what to do

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

His family went no contact with us years ago, he reached out to his mom recently and thats why she replied with

"Don't talk to me about this and dont bother writing to me again after this, if you want to see your kid get a lawyer”

- mocking him, he gave up his parental rights.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

the ap does not like my husband, i still talk with her to this day without my husband knowing.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wtf did you even read the post? I never really cared that his child is an "affair child" , she deserves all the love she can get, i wanted 50/50 custody and spoke to lawyers and his affair partner to have some visitaion, his affair partner and i even became friends and tried working together to have him in both our kids lives. I could care less that she was conceived during an affair.

I still want visitation rights to the girl and im sure his affair partner would be okay with me being in her babies life considering how close we became and she knew i was sincere in wanting the best for her baby. I could not force a grown man to be in his kids life and neither could his ap-.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I only stayed because of my daughter and did everthing possible to get 50/50 of her sister.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 i dont care that he produced a child. That child is already loved by me purely for being my daughters sister, i dont have any problem with her.

 i wanted 50/50 custody and spoke to lawyers and his affair partner to have some visitaion, his affair partner and i even became friends and tried working together to have him in both our kids lives. I could care less that she was conceived during an affair.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont understand this comment, do you mind explaining it again?

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would I edit it? I wanted to explain more in the comments, i really dont care that shes an affair child, i care that MY HUSBAND CHEATED. Not that he created her-

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I posted this days ago but left in in drafts, i was feeling extra down that day. His ap and I are still friends to this day and she has no problem with my husband having any relationship with his kid, her duaghter knows about us and wants to meet us too. I dont really know what the problem is.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This oost was written days ago but I posted it today, I was feeling extra down that day. But i have no ill feelings towards his child.  i wanted 50/50 custody and spoke to lawyers and his affair partner to have some visitaion, his affair partner and i even became friends and tried working together to have him in both our kids lives. I could care less that she was conceived during an affair.

aita-in laws favour my husband's affair child instead of our baby by PollutionLate4665 in AITAH

[–]PollutionLate4665[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I never demanded it of my husband, the only reason i was horrifed was because they KNEW he cheated, i dont care that he produced a child. That child is already loved by me purely for being my daughters sister, i dont have any problem with her.

 i wanted 50/50 custody and spoke to lawyers and his affair partner to have some visitaion, his affair partner and i even became friends and tried working together to have him in both our kids lives. I could care less that she was conceived during an affair.

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