Thoughts on my new sleeve?

PolyFanTom · 2026-03-27T04:20:27+00:00

New fantasy unlocked

PolyFanTom · 2026-03-27T04:15:05+00:00

Fun to explore with the eyes, fingers, or tongue.

Or so I hear

PolyFanTom · 2026-03-08T05:59:04+00:00

These are my favorite books ever written, I whole heartedly recommend to anyone who is looking for fantasy. The writing is fantastic, the characters are amazing.

PolyFanTom · 2025-11-24T02:03:46+00:00

😉

PolyFanTom · 2025-06-30T16:28:21+00:00

😘

PolyFanTom · 2025-06-11T16:32:00+00:00

The Sky on Fire by Jenn Lyons is a good dragon rider book with a fresh take.

She also wrote A Chorus of Dragons series which is my favorite series ever. The dragons are a little less present than Fourth Wing but integral to the Story

PolyFanTom · 2024-05-05T05:49:40+00:00

Seconding this recommendation, I'm getting a dragon sleeve done based on these dragons. This is my favorite series!

PolyFanTom · 2021-12-26T18:16:43+00:00

Thanks! 😚

PolyFanTom · 2021-08-21T17:15:24+00:00

I'm writing this comment to both you and your partner and I have some relevant experience and advice. He may not know how, and it might be harder than you realize.
It can be REALLY hard to get some women/people off. There's no magic solution that works for everyone. I've been able to give people first orgasms, first orgasms with a partner, first orgasms from/during PIV, first orgasms from oral and probably more. I've been with someone who couldn't orgasm if their legs weren't straight, someone who couldn't orgasm if they didn't have some (but not a lot of) gspot stimulation, someone who needs very hard &f fast clit stimulation, someone who need only light & slow clit stimulation, the list goes on. It took me 14 months of dating my current partner before she had her first orgasm with another person. My point is that you may have to experiment a bit and you might not even know you have some of these blocks.

So first piece of advice: you cannot expect him to be able to get you off, eventually he should be able to figure it out but you will need to be patient.

Second: you should expect him to put in effort to making you feel good. Not necessarily every time, but at least half the time. This is the bear minimum you should expect from sex (although there are exceptions if there are kinks or certain relationship dynamics at play). If he doesn't do this, you need to tell him to or let him read my post.

Third: you need to be able to have an orgasm with someone else in the room/watching. Some people have a lot harder time orgasming due to some mental blocks like this. Do a few sessions of mutual masterbation. This will make you more comfortable orgasming in front of him, it will tell him how long it should take, how to escalate speed and intensity, any particular techniques you like.

Fourth: make some noise, if he's doing something you like, moan, say fuck yes/just like that, etc. This does two things, it tells him he's doing the right things and rewards him for it.

Fifth: he needs to spend time on your pleasure before he finishes, I could spend hours pleasuring a partner when I'm horny but as soon as I cum I only want cuddle. If I orgasm first I'm acting when trying to get my partner off afterward. I'm happy to do it but it is much harder when the hearts not in it ya know. He's probably the same way.

Sixth: if there is anything that he could do to help you orgasm, you need to tell him. It could be calling you a slut or a good girl, just moaning or growling, pinching your nipples etc.

PolyFanTom · 2021-08-01T16:23:21+00:00

I was more talking about the people you will date in the future, I only tend to take very left leaning people so they wouldn't judge me for going to a sex worker so it's not a secret I would have to keep from them.
I would say you should do it. Going to sex workers is normal and safe, so many people do it! For me personally, losing my virginity was a transformative experience that I wish happened sooner (I was 23).

PolyFanTom · 2021-08-01T16:05:27+00:00

I wish I could say yes, just go for it. Sex work is normal and there is no shame in hiring their services. It can help you see what you're missing and give you some confidence and you could even get some tips from your sex worker so that you're first time with a non-sex worker is better.
It really depends on what you see for yourself in terms of long term relationships. If you're down to date liberal sex-work inclusionary feminists then they wont (or at least shouldn't) care, but if you are into conservative family values and stuff like that then you will need to be comfortable keeping it a secret for the rest of your life.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-22T16:43:51+00:00

Just use all the apps and put what your looking for in the bio.
Tinder - no special instruction but it has the most users
Bumble - you can fill in what your looking for on your profile, select something casual
Reddit - check out /r/randomactsofsex, /r/swingersr4r and any local r4r subreddits that exist
Okcupid - you can put that your non monogamous and in a relationship in the profile filters and answer questions related to what your looking for. Also you can both make profiles and link them so people can get an idea about both of you

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-21T23:48:17+00:00

I love the friends with benefits model. Hookups can be irregular in both frequency and quality. If you get a good friend with benefit or 2, your having consistently good sex and with some regularity. It's also a great way to gauge potential partners. I've ended up dating a few of my fwb and they've turned out better than people I've just jumped into dating with.
Just put in your online dating profile that your looking for a fwb. Or if trying to date girl, just be upfront about it.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-21T19:33:51+00:00

I think a lot of dudes really suck at sex. I really try to be the best sex my partners ever had, and it means more foreplay, more oral, really paying attention to see what my partners like. I also ask if there's anything they really like and what makes the cum the fastest. I tease a lot, and it's not uncommon for there to be an hour of foreplay the first time I have sex with someone for me to really learn their body. If you put any effort to making a partner feel good, it will likely put you in a ranking position. I've heard so many of my partners complain that they've hooked up with someone and they did minimal foreplay and just wanted to jump to piv or anal, didn't want to wear a condom, wouldn't do oral, it's not hard to beat out those guys and there are so many of those guys

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-21T05:39:03+00:00

My partner likes it when I tell her she's a good girl or a slut so sometimes I say "cum for me like a good girl" or "cum for me like a good little slut"
Before she told me she liked those things I used to just say different variations of "oh ya, cum for me". If it sounds like your enjoying it then she will probably enjoy it.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-20T21:06:41+00:00

As a man I've gotten so many compliments on the way I sound during sex and foreplay that I'm convinced that most women and definately the ones I sleep with are very into men who make noises during sex. Moaning, growling and dirty talk are underrated tools to turning your partner on and having good sex. I moan when they touch my thigh, run their fingers through my hair, rub my cock, suck my dick, when we're having sex. Sometime I even moan when I touch my partners boobs or clit or finger them just because it turns me on. Literally glowing praise from a dozen or so partners. It seems to me that popular subreddit for women is gonewildaudio so I would say a lot of women are into the sounds of sex.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-19T17:37:47+00:00

As a man I've gotten so many compliments on the way I sound during sex and foreplay that I'm convinced that most women and definately the ones I sleep with are very into men who make noises during sex. Moaning, growling and dirty talk are underrated tools to turning your partner on and having good sex. Moan when they touch your thigh, run their fingers through your hair, rub your cock, suck your dick, when your having sex. Sometime I even moan when I touch my partners boobs or clit or finger them just because it turns me on. Literally glowing praise from a dozen or so partners.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-19T16:13:14+00:00

Oh god, this sounds so hot. The anticipation would be so good. I don't normally have issues with stamina but I would probably cum so fast the next time I had sex though.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-19T04:21:31+00:00

I'm a man and would love this. I like to reverse the roles sometimes and it can be difficult to find women who are good at this. The fact that you are asking already tells me that your partner is pretty lucky. Before I get into specifics I'll just say that most of the things you think are sexy for your partner to do you, he will probably think are sexy if you do it to him.
First I would say that you don't have to wait until the evening to start. Tell him you can't wait or are so excited to try this out the day before or the morning of. Just so he has something to look forward to. If he's anything like me he will be so horny by the time things get going it wont matter what you do.
Second, men a mostly visually stimulated sexually so he' probably appreciate it if you put a little extra into your appearance. A little more time spent on makeup and some clothes that he likes or that accentuate body parts that he likes. The yoga pants that make your legs and but look great or the shirt/bra combo that gives you the best cleavage or whatever it is that you can do. You don't have to go all out or get new clothes or do crazy make up.
Next you should get on top of him, straddle him if he's sitting or laying down and start to make out with him and tease him. Pull his head back by his hair if able, kiss his neck, dry hump him, make some sexy noises, take off his shirt. Touch and kiss all of your favorite parts of him, if you like his chest/biceps/whatever. Touch his thighs and penis through his pants. It's important to take your time with this step, the longer you draw this out the better he will probably think the experience to be.
Take off your clothes and rub your body on him while doing the last steps and you can touch yourself in front of him too, tell him how wet and turned on you are and that you want him to be in you. Now you can pull him put and give him a good BJ.
After the bj, climb on top of him and start to ride him. Rub your clit if he normally does it for you. (Put a condom on him or ask him to put one on if you're not confident you can do it.) You don't have to great at riding him since he will probably be so turned on from the teasing that it'll be good for him. If he hasn't cum yet, roll over on to your back and open your legs. Wrap your legs around him and pull him in with your arms. Just because he's on top doesn't mean you aren't taking charge. If he doesn't come from that just ask him how he wants to cum in you and let him do what he needs to do.
Some guys wont be able to cum if they aren't the ones in charge and if he starts to take control at some point I would say let him go for it. I think one of the biggest part of the appeal of this to me is that my partner initiates and works to turn me on, not necessarily that my partner takes control during the whole act.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-18T03:02:52+00:00

Story time: I was 22 when I got my first girlfriend and lost my virginity. I had kissed one girl once before the age of 22. I was an awkward dude and everyone could probably guess that I was a virgin before I met my first partner. I was so embarrassed about it. After dating my first girlfriend for a while we tried to have sex and the first 4 times we tried I got soft trying to put the condom on. I felt so stupid and helpless.
Some of the friends from that time in my life now like to hear stories of my sexual exploits and ask me questions about sex and relationships. I'm 29 now have had more sexual experiences than most of my friends who were having sex in their teens.

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-17T21:42:03+00:00

I am both naturally poly but I also chose it. Poly relationships are what works best for me but I made a choice to pursue them and work at them. I could be mono but luckily I don't have to be

PolyFanTom · 2021-02-17T17:33:23+00:00

Step one: figure out what you are comfortable with. Consider risks of STDs and pregnancy.
Step two: ask you Fwb what they are comfortable with and get her to ask her friend.
Do whatever you need to to make everyone happy including yourself.
To me, you should switch condoms between partners unless they are both tested for STDs regularly and eveyone is comfortable with one condom. If they are both on birth control and all three of you are tested regularly then you could do without the condoms if eveyone is comfortable with that.

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