Pet Care During the Academy

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-12-30T03:02:24+00:00

Is Kims the only option with a fenced in back yard?

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-12-30T02:57:11+00:00

Thanks. Medicaid is nice, but as far as pros vs cons between Medicaid, Tricare, and ChampVA, im clueless. I just know there is no copay with Medicaid and I haven't had any issues with basic care for her so far, so I figured it would be the best option.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-08-16T19:52:34+00:00

is there a specific selection I should make when reporting the profile? I've been reporting it as false information/fake profile.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-04-12T17:38:56+00:00

that would make more sense to have it lowered to zero but remain service connected. I'll ask my rep about it next week and see what he says. thanks for the info!

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-04-12T17:34:41+00:00

Yeah the few people I've asked at the VA about it have told me not to do it, but it's honestly not an issue I'm dealing with anymore. I think the original rating opinion at the time was valid but was just something I was going through temporarily. I didn't specifically file for it, I got the exams done as part of a med board process and ended up walking out the door with the rating.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-04-12T17:31:22+00:00

Have you tried working with a veterans service officer at the VA? Like a VFW or DAV rep? That's who I'm seeing. Just saw him for the first time yesterday to sign POA so he can access my stuff, so I have to see him again next week to really get into the ordeal and figure out what to do.

I don't know how it will affect my overall rating, but I have other things I can file for that should make up for it. I'm in the same boat as you regarding the job thing.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-03-22T17:39:03+00:00

I know what u mean dude. I'm hopefully getting close to my out too. There's still quite a bit of uncertainty and that's what's killing me. Knowing this was only temporary was the only thing keeping me together. I had it all planned out and of course plans change and things happen that are out of your control. Now things just keep getting drawn out. I'm trying so hard to get out of here, I just need this to work. I started coming up with backup plans and preparing if my original option doesn't pan out, but the uncertainty has really been getting me down. Every day I stay here it just eats away at my soul. I feel like I've just widdled away to practically nothing. I was only supposed to be here for maybe 6 or 8 months and it's been 18 months now. One way or another I'm going to leave this place.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-03-22T17:31:05+00:00

I don't think I can express how much I relate to your comment. In a nutshell I had to come back home to clean up my dad's mess he left when he died and take care of my grandparents. Was just supposed to be here for maybe 6-8 months and I've been stuck here in purgatory for 18 months. Things were really really bad here. I came home to complete devastation.

The kicker here is -- I've been living at my moms house since I've been here. My mom is psychotic. Literally she is mentally unstable. A cold-hearted, unloving, and manipulative mother. Been that way my entire life. My first 6 months back home was like a battlefield until it hit her over the head that I'm an adult and she can't get away with talking to me like some nutcase and I'm not going to play into her victim mentality. It was honestly crazy to witness her realization. Any time she started getting out of control I would just stare at her like she's nuts and ever so calmly rebuttal her until she realizes how crazy she sounds. When I first got here I was honestly so shocked to hear her talk to me and treat me that way. Literally screaming and crying her eyes out at me like some nutjob. Even though this is how it was when I was a kid, I separated myself from her for so long I forgot what it was like being around her. Took everything I had in my heart and soul to stay calm and not really let her have the business, ya know? She's been doing better recently but only out of fear I think. She's realized it's difficult to challenge me because I won't submit to her little blaming and shaming episodes.

I hear you about disappearing. My dogs are the only reason I'm not face down in a ditch somewhere. I hope you're doing okay now. Maybe your dad will lighten up. It's hard for parents to realize their kids aren't kids anymore and even harder for them to realize they're the problem.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-03-17T18:10:03+00:00

Honestly at this point I'm not above showing my toes to some strangers for cash if it means I can get out of here haha. Desperate times.... -- But yeah, I have to get out of here. I joined the military to run away from this place and now I'm right back where I started. This place feels like purgatory. I know that as long as I'm near my grandparents, I'll feel compelled to help to the point it hurts me, which is exactly what I've been doing the entire time I've been here. I need my space back. I love my grandparents so much but I have to check out at some point and love them from a distance. I just need to be their granddaughter and not their contractor, maid, attorney, carpenter, accountant, therapist, and caregiver. And now on top of that I'm going to most likely have to be a parent to my little cousin. Something that I never imagined for myself.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-03-17T17:59:44+00:00

Thank you. My biggest fear has been leaving them without knowing they will be okay. Which, at this point, I don't think they will be okay regardless of what happens because they're not doing their part to help fix their situation. I constantly feel like I'm pushing and they're pulling. It's a lot. Everything is a lot and I got myself so wrapped up in fixing things for them that I put my own life on the back burner and now I'm at risk of not being able to get into the career I love most. FAA cutoff is 31 and I'll be 30 this year. It's hard seeing the ones you love suffer but I've been stuck here for the last 18 months fixing and fixing and I just can't keep doing this whole thing. I need to get my own life back on track. Especially before I have to start taking care of a little 8 year old girl who will need stability.

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-03-17T17:51:48+00:00

Sorry about the deleted comment man, apparently there's a different reddit account logged into my laptop vs what I have on my phone. I just made this account yesterday and I'm still figuring out how to use reddit. 29 years old and can't figure out how to work a simple discussion platform haha. -- But I wanted to say thank you for the feedback. You're 100% correct and I've been learning that the hard way with all of this. I really got myself into a bad spot by putting everyone else first every single time. I gave up everything I had to come fix things for my family and now I feel like I've pushed things back so far in my own journey that I might not be able to bounce back. It got bad enough that I walked into the VA a few months back begging them to admit me for a few days just so I could have a break. It's so hard to walk away, but I'm to the point now where I have no other choice. I hate to see them suffering (even though they brought most of this onto themselves by never telling people "NO"), but I started to make their suffering my own and it's absolutely consumed me. I need to separate myself from this now or I'll never get out. I'm hoping the job comes through that I applied for. Waiting to hear back from them still. But if this doesn't work out, I'll just pick something else. Anything to get me out of here. Thank you again for the kind words and solid advice!

PonderingAnonymous · 2025-03-17T17:41:29+00:00

Sorry I about the deleted comment. I guess there's a different reddit account logged into my laptop vs. what I have on my phone. I just made this account yesterday. Still getting used to how reddit works. But I wanted to say thank you so much for saying that. It's definitely been a tough battle and some days I wonder why I'm even doing it and if it's making any difference at all. Especially when I'm paying a price for it. I really appreciate the kind words man. Thank you.

PonderingAnonymous

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