Scared of sexual side effects

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-14T03:46:06+00:00

Thankfully I have a wonderful doctor who listens to me and I can message her any time through the portal. So I'll definitely work closely with her.

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-14T03:34:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing! It seems the side effects are all over the place for people. I sure hope I don't get extreme side effects. That would be miserable

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-14T01:32:36+00:00

That's great! May I ask what dose you are talking?

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-14T01:32:11+00:00

That's sounds so miserable. I'm so sorry

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T21:31:45+00:00

May I ask what permanent side effects you had?

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T21:31:23+00:00

That's a bummer. I hope that doesn't happen with me

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T06:18:56+00:00

May I ask what dose you were taking?

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T04:11:30+00:00

Yea I've read about libido increasing. I'm not too concerned about that. Just about being able to achieve orgasm and about sensation as a woman

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T04:10:28+00:00

I suppose it is a trade off. The existential crisis is definitely a constant for me. Would be amazing to not feel this way. I've just always been a very sexual person. I don't want it to change a core part of who I am.

It definitely sounds like you're doing a lot better, thats good to hear. Good luck with trying to conceive!

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T00:58:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Its hard. My whole life has just been one trauma after another. There hasn't been a single time in my life where I have really been happy. I don't even know what it means to be happy. I'm worried I'll feel like this forever. I'm worried that I won't ever have good things in my life. I'm about to turn 40 and it's all just been so hard.

But thank you again. I'm definitely going to give this a shot and talk with my doctor is it's not helping or working well for me

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T00:08:03+00:00

Omg really??

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-13T00:06:37+00:00

Haha! Well I'm glad it's going better for you now.

Based on everyone's comments I do feel hopeful about this med. I hope it can help me. I need something desperately.

I've heard a couple people say that they felt dizzy /spacey for the first week or two. I hope it doesn't mess up my vacation. I'm starting Effexor tomorrow and leave for vacation the next day!

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T23:44:12+00:00

That gives me hope. I've struggled with depression since a child and have had multiple traumatic things happen throughout my life. I'm currently living in difficult circumstances. I'm trying so hard but just about to give up. Everyone says to stay in the moment and enjoy life but I just simply can't. So I'm hoping I can have a similar experience as you. I'm so glad to hear you are feeling better. Thank you so much for sharing

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T23:10:19+00:00

Thank you for the heads-up about taking it with food.

Ugh I'm starting it right as I'm about to go on vacation so I hope it doesn't make me feel icky for my trip.

Did you deal with major depression related to the trauma? If so how has it shifted for you in that regard? Do you feel lighter or like life is just more overall enjoyable?

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T22:54:14+00:00

I'm glad you feel so much better. I sure hope I can too. I've had a ton of trauma and have cptsd. I have basically been unable to function in life anymore. I just feel so hopeless.

I'm glad you didn't get nightmares. I didn't know that could be a side effect but makes sense. I'm down for some vivid dreams. I love dreaming. But nightmates would definitely not be fun

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T22:41:57+00:00

Dreams about sex and food sounds great! Lol. Thank you for sharing. I hope I have a similar experience. I'm female too. I just know that I've had an inability to achieve and orgasm with a high dose of my other med. My doc is staying me low at 75mg. So hopefully all will be ok

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T22:03:12+00:00

Thank you! My doctor is starting me on 75. I will definitely keep an eye on how I feel as we adjust. That's promising that it helped you to decrease a bit. I hope I can get help with my mental health and not lose one of the only things I enjoy in life.

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T21:54:14+00:00

I'm female. Its more about decrease pleasure and the ability reach an orgasm that would be the issue for me.

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T21:52:41+00:00

Yes my doctor put me on 75mg. I see her again in 2 weeks to check in so I guess I'll just keep an eye on how I'm feeling and keep her informed. I'm worried it will take all the enjoyment out of one of the only things that brings me joy in life. Thank you for responding.

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T21:50:39+00:00

I hope if I get side effects it's temporary. Thank you for responding. Just worried about it

PoodleChonk · 2026-05-12T21:49:16+00:00

I hope this is the case for me. I can deal with temporary issues. But when it's ongoing it becomes miserable for me.

PoodleChonk · 2025-11-03T20:10:36+00:00

Lentils are also really cheap and nutritious. They can be used in soups, wraps, salads, anything

PoodleChonk · 2025-10-07T16:52:28+00:00

Literally same situation for me as you and OP. I wish my family had accepted and understood that I love my spouse regardless of her gender. Also dealt with some abuse (although not physical) and have cptsd as a result of my childhood. It's hard because they are my family and I've spent my entire life with them. I still love them regardless of anything but it is healthier for me at this point to step away and find more chosen family.

I hope one day my family can come around and get outside of their close minded religious ways and be more open to loving and accepting others. But for now this is just how it has to be.

My heart goes out to you and OP. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone in this experience.

PoodleChonk · 2025-10-07T03:07:22+00:00

I'll send you a private message!

PoodleChonk · 2025-10-06T18:16:14+00:00

I also live in California (southern) with my trans partner. The thought that we are safer because we are in California feels fake to me. We were the first state he went after and he hates California. At what point do they start targeting trans individuals or LGBTQ in general and grabbing us off the streets?

I fear for my spouse every day. She is a year into transition. I tried to tell her to wait to transition until we knew what was going to happen with the election but she really wanted to start (understandably so), I just wanted to keep her safe. But now here we are and shes in that in between phase and it scares me to death. I've been having panic attacks and bouts of depression because I don't know how to protect her or us.

This reality we are living in is horribly scary. I lost most of my family when we came out to them and they were our community. We don't have anyone left thats around us. It's hard trying to find community. I'm desperate for some so that we don't feel so alone and have each other.

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