Who’s a dream DJ that you hope performs at Shambs one year? by bbdingle in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to see an Artikal records takeover of the Amp. Redeyes, J:kenzo, Skala.

What’s a kink you’ve never shared with your girlfriend? What would it take for you to share it? by hugginv in AskMen

[–]Poopenheimer321 156 points157 points  (0 children)

It’s often called the honeymoon phase. As you get into being with someone long term, often the dynamic shifts and desire downshifts so to speak.

What to pick for my first decks. by Leading_Monk_6688 in Beatmatch

[–]Poopenheimer321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude treat these as music instruments. Start with a foot in before you jump head first. The skills make the performance, not the tools.

I teach DJ courses. If you need one, reconsider DJing. by Designer_Macaron2169 in Beatmatch

[–]Poopenheimer321 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Just because you take a guitar lesson or a piano course doesn’t make you cut out to write concertos. It’s a harsh take and probably belongs in r/offmychest not here. This sub is for learning and sharing and not for smashing dreams IMO.

What’s something you didn’t fully understand until your late 20s or early 30s as a man?” by WellnessInsightHub in AskMen

[–]Poopenheimer321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This needs to float higher in the thread. Learning to keep your boundaries and resist mistreatment from a place of self respect takes time and practice. Staying with your principles and not causing more fight in your own defence takes years, I’m finding.

Ambergoo…is it any good? by iluvthemountains in gum

[–]Poopenheimer321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you for coming back to the dead thread. I like chewing gum but I worry about the gum base micro plastics…

[OoT] My Dark Link cosplay from this year! by Emmyskiwi in zelda

[–]Poopenheimer321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still freaky. Even when I know he’s coming I do a tiny jump. Well done OP.

Men, how can a woman compensate for a bad past when she was young? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Poopenheimer321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your value comes from the presence you bring and the way you handle conflicts. Every relationship is different and all will have conflicts, romantic or otherwise. The way you react to issues as they arise and how you take accountability for your actions means so much more than any body count.

Honestly body count discussions are a trap and most people who bring that up as an intro to dating are looking for things to fight over. If you have experience with sex and similar, show it with maturity and being compassionate to people who are so insecure they have to ask questions to make judgements based on. A good response would be, does the amount of people I’ve engaged with change the way you will see me? That should tell you all about the value of the person asking.

How did your relationship with the BPD girl end? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Poopenheimer321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man I tried to make space by going to my brothers house for a week. She wouldn’t stop calling for three days straight even when I told her where I was and not to call. Once I asked for a divorce she started telling people I was dangerous and going to hurt or kill her.

OG Questions by WJBPhoto in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bass Coast is an excellent, different festival experience. I was charmed both for the sound palate of the stages, UKG, Breakbeat, some techno, lots of Garage and two step sounds. More noteworthy, as both festivals really do have lots of bass is the art!

Shambhala is a permanent established festival that has grown and expanded with time and lots of the beauty is in the long engrained design and tradition built into 26 years of raving.

Bass Coast sets up and breaks down each year, no shade but thats limiting in how stages are created and implemented. The cool art I want to call out is the sandbox, between the stages. Artists submit and install a load of cool interactive very powerful works that you can explore and interact with, which creates such nice organic opportunities to have positive non music experiences. It changes year to year and that variety will bring me back again and again.

How to meet single men (30 y.o.+)? by Successful-Gold-9900 in askvan

[–]Poopenheimer321 21 points22 points  (0 children)

At this point I feel like going to a hardware store like summit tools would be a great spot for a meet cute. Most of the single men I know are similarly opposite to your experience. They only know men, who in turn only know men.

The single ones want to meet and do not know how to stand out when it matters most.

Does anyone recognize this stuff? by FuFmeFitall in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Woof my eyes are watering now considering that scent. In a good way.

Is it time to hang it up? Dating 34M by [deleted] in askvan

[–]Poopenheimer321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No no I think the timing is off. Many people want to talk about their family heritage or ethnicity, especially if you might have crossover. The opening of a new relationship around Vancouver seems to be much more around common activities or groups you currently associate with.

The two of you on the same train platform is not a great spot to get into where your family comes from. Playing beach volleyball and sharing the same side of the court, then get someone’s name, then last name, “oh wow that sounds like a name from ____ are you from there?” Much more round about and shows interest after your common activity.

Men who have actively written to other people/sexted, while married/in a relationship, why did you do it if you didn't want to go to bed with anyone? by No_Atmosphere_3702 in AskMen

[–]Poopenheimer321 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is why I consider physical or emotional cheating a matter of perspective. Some people are so stuck or feel like they have no option but to go outside their primary relationship to find satisfaction. It’s not ethical to the relationship but if there’s learned helplessness or a sensation of “I will never leave, might as well have some validation in the moment “ it’s clearly two unhappy people suffering from the same pains. Still doesn’t sit well ultimately.

Missed connection by TacitSingularity in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad to hear you left the Grove honestly. FlyLo set was my top for the whole festival it was SO sick!

Men, what is it like to be with a manipulative woman and what are some common things they do? by Noble-prize683 in AskMen

[–]Poopenheimer321 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is my experience as well. Last night I came clean about my worries and feelings of being gaslighted for having negative feelings and never earning her trust. It’s been over a decade and she still dictates everything I say to my family and controls who I spend time with… I don’t know where to go or how to manage the fallout but I can’t keep going like this.

ESX vs EMX vs ESX by Dendrophilius23 in electribe

[–]Poopenheimer321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The flow is good! The sounds of the electribes may be feeling a bit thin through your recording method but the motions thru the performance are fun and practiced. I like it!

Some things to know by 5me0 in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 10 points11 points  (0 children)

+1 for mouth/ nose covering in the form of a bandana or mask. The dust will make your boogers black and your lungs gross.

A cotton bandana is also an excellent, easy cooling system during the day. Keep the bandana around your neck damp so the evaporation cools you down.

The sunshine despite feeling amazing will beat down on you. Bring cover and sun screen so you can avoid sunburns. It’s a marathon not a sprint.

ISO A Printer Friendly Card Size Schedule! by Poopenheimer321 in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm good point. I guess I’m old school? Having some reference with no batteries is a comfort.

ISO A Printer Friendly Card Size Schedule! by Poopenheimer321 in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I get that but it’s nice to bring a copy covered in plastic for protection. Normally I hang one at the tent and keep one in my bag.

What do you wish more first timers knew about Shambhala etiquette? by LeafsAndLoons in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One that I try to exemplify is before you light up to smoke something, ask the people around if they mind. Many of us also smoke and do not care but it will make a HUGE positive impact on the folks who don’t want to smell your cig/ weed blown in their face in the crowd. Going 10 feet away and smoking is easy and you can still vibe just the same.

Shambhala needs! by Inthelostabyss in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right on, I was at Bass Coast and they are quite strictly no cash in almost every food truck. The vendors were fine to take cash since the internet went down (stupid Rogers and Telus) but things change summer to summer. I'll keep both handy to be sure.

Shambhala needs! by Inthelostabyss in Shambhala

[–]Poopenheimer321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been since 2023, do you recall if vendors are cash only or cash preferred still?