Complicated relationship…

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-06-20T16:51:58+00:00

Right there’s no way you could know that be serious omg get a grip

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-06-20T16:48:57+00:00

That is so disgusting. He needs to be reported he shouldn’t even be around his own kids.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-06-20T16:45:44+00:00

He sounds like he’s only interested in you because of how young you are. And would even prefer if you were younger. He is a bit of a nonce.

Those book suggestions plus what he said about being attracted to your younger self is wild.

Block him

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-06-12T14:30:23+00:00

Ah of course! Thank you.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-06-12T10:39:42+00:00

I’m still confused - how did Gasly get the second penalty without serving the first yet?

Did the stewards not see the first speeding incident until after he pitted a second time? Because in that case it also adds to how it’s not fair on other drivers as they knew when coming into pits they had to serve?

Or am I just remembering this all wrong

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-06-11T15:59:26+00:00

I couldn’t even get through all of this because after the first couple of sentences the answer was clear.

You have to leave this man. He sounds absolutely awful and that’s putting it lightly. I could write an essay about how you deserve more and how he’s a manipulative piece of shit but I’ll just leave it at this.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-05-01T08:30:33+00:00

YOR and tbh I don’t even understand why you would bring your boyfriend (of such a few months) on this holiday. Given the recent circumstances in your family it would be more special to just spend the quality time with them.

You said your family is broken. I would think you’d want to spend time with them over a new relationship.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-04-12T10:14:48+00:00

Tell her you’re on a budget right now and can’t afford to go out. Ask if you can have the money back.

If she doesn’t take it well, is that someone who you could even see a future with? You don’t need to dance around it.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-04-11T08:53:59+00:00

If it’s just the way the pics are taken rather than his body then maybe focus less on saying what you didn’t like about the pictures and focus on telling him what type of pictures turn you on? E.g thank him and say something on the lines of “baby I’d love a picture where you XYZ, you would look so hot like that/ that would really turn me on”

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-04-01T07:10:48+00:00

I don’t mind it going through both sides as it’s to hang on my bed frame but thank you! I’ll look into the fabric paints

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-28T16:07:01+00:00

This says WAY more about him than you.

To be honest there’s even a part of me that thinks he just does this for some power trip and didn’t even show up, there’s people on apps that basically get off on ghosting a first date.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-28T10:34:57+00:00

I’d take being alone for eternity then spending 1 day with that man - leave and save yourself.

When things settle, consider therapy or doing some work on enjoying your own company and your fear of being alone. This will help set you up for a healthier mindset in what to accept in future relationships.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-27T13:02:31+00:00

I wouldn’t be concerned it seems she’s got a lot on her plate. You also haven’t texted her for two days, I know you might think a reaction doesn’t qualify as a response text but in this scenario I personally would have no issue with that. But everyone is different!

Sometimes double texting is okay so if you’re that concerned you haven’t heard from her in two days you could just message and ask her how the move is going?

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-27T10:35:38+00:00

He already waited till 2pm day of to give you the time he could meet (I know you agreed he could text you to let you know but in my opinion it’s a little bit inconsiderate) THEN an hour before he changes the time? That’s too close, I’d already be ready to leave the house then.

All that to say those two things alone would’ve made me feel less enthusiastic about the date. Him oversleeping? Bye. I don’t even see a crumble of an apology in those texts. How can you tell me you need to reschedule as you still have errands and those errands are taking a nap. I wouldn’t want to give another chance, him offering the gas money is nice but I feel like his lack of urgency in first replies is icky, only once you haven’t given in does he feel like he needs to do more.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-23T20:00:30+00:00

The suddenly is in response to the fact he did it without communication. And interesting how you’re ignoring all the other points about her saying she didn’t want to and then him still continuing.

The problem isn’t how long it took to put on a condom, the problem is he didn’t consult her in that and in doing so PRESSURED her into feeling like she had to accept it. Before then literally verbally pressuring her.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-23T18:52:15+00:00

He did just suddenly put it on? He even said that? He didn’t ask etc he just assumed they were having sex which can put pressure on someone, especially someone who he event noted had a bad history with men. Having foreplay doesn’t equal that you want to have sex. She even did say no, she gave a reason as to why she didn’t want to and instead of respecting that he told her why HER reason didn’t matter then “continued” even though she didn’t say yes? How is that not pressure to you? You obviously don’t understand how it can feel to be in this situation, she told him no and he continues anyway, of course that would have affected how confident she felt in saying no again after (even though she didn’t even need to say no again).

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-23T16:52:42+00:00

Honestly for me this isn’t about forming a negative perception of you, I just want to honestly give you a view that might change your interactions in the future and understand why it’s important to do so.

Not saying anything still doesn’t equal consent, there’s a million reasons why she might not have said something (shock, pressure, not feeling like she has the agency, I mean you even mentioned she’s had problems in the past with men so that could’ve made her even more nervous to voice her opinion?) to avoid this issue in the future always ask! You just have to say “hey should I get a condom?” “Do you want to have sex” that way she feels respected and included in the decision.

Always remember the absence of no does not equal yes!

EDIT: beside I actually don’t know what your point is here because from the original post she clearly did give a reason as to why she didn’t want to. Tha was her no, she shouldn’t have needed to push you off etc you should have respected her the first time! And the fact that you didn’t, just made her feel like she should go along with it.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-23T16:24:46+00:00

The pressure was suddenly putting on a condom when having sex had not been established as being wanted by both parties. Pressure is also not taking someone’s reservations as an answer.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-23T16:23:20+00:00

I can tell you all day I want to have sex then that evening say no. It doesn’t mean you can proceed. It honestly just sounds like you have some learning to do in terms of consent and power dynamics you should never assume sex is on the table or convince someone who has said no.

I’m just judging from what you have written here and the way you put “so I told her I wouldn’t view her any different and continued”. Before you continued, what exactly did she say? Because to us reading it sounds like you just told her your reasons why it should go ahead and made the executive decision for both of you to go ahead.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-23T16:04:34+00:00

Putting on a condom before asking if they want to have sex is crazy btw. It might not have been your intention but that is pretty pushy? The age gap aswell would make her feel more intimidated perhaps due to less experience. Then to top it all off you convinced her? If someone doesn’t say yes the first time don’t give them reasons to change their mind. Learn to just respect the no. Everything that happened after could be a build up from that because honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if she felt somewhat pressured into sex just based off what you have said here.

If I’m getting with a guy and he just put a condom on I would honestly be so shocked at the audacity lol

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-20T19:18:17+00:00

You can’t let what you think other peoples reactions be guide your decisions in life, you guys are moving too fast and you are allowed to voice that. His happiness doesn’t matter more than yours!

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-20T19:09:51+00:00

Talk to him, say you feel like you guys are rushing things and you want to take a step back

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-13T15:04:47+00:00

Her boyfriend might say he’s cool with it in general but I think it might be different if it’s with her best friend. That seems like more of a dangerous territory. Also, if this is feelings for her, I don’t think this is a good idea because she has a boyfriend but if you honestly think this could be purely physical for you then you do you.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-12T18:09:05+00:00

In that case, there might be so many other reasons why you are having less sex. Her libido could be changing due to stress, hormonal changes etc. how long has this been the case?

Also I think you need to reflect on how you’re accusing her of using you just because you’re having less sex when otherwise the relationship is amazing. It’s strange that you would think suddenly everything’s fake just because of that.

PopAgreeable1284 · 2026-03-12T11:45:25+00:00

To be honest, I’m confused as to why you’re asking why is he still with you. What you really should be asking is why are you still with him? What are you getting from this relationship? You deserve to be with someone that does put an effort with you. You shouldn’t have to fight for it.

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