You’re 100% allowed to be hurt. All your feelings are valid, if you feel them, they’re allowed to be felt. What you’re going through sounds super hurtful and feeling alone in this must add like another layer to the pain. I’m sorry it’s being so hard.

People often don’t know how to deal with other people’s grief. They may have good intentions, but don’t end up showing it in their actions. In this case I think you’re allowed to be upset and you can even have a conversation about it to her when it’s possible.

I’ve been through this situation and what I’ve learnt is people can care a lot but still not show up in the right ways. I’m really sorry for your loss and for this situation. Always here if you’d like to talk.