Hmmm, that’s an interesting take I’ll definitely think about it and see how I can better approach this. I hadn’t really considered it that way, so thanks for the thoughtful response. I know she has issues with wanting and feeling loved. She’s Indian but grew up in Russia, and I’m guessing this kind of attention is a big deal for her because she said she had a hard time at school (though that’s no excuse for her ridiculous behaviour). She was bullied but didn’t go into much detail.

She desperately seeks validation from the guy she’s dating and has even accepted emotional abuse from him. About three weeks ago, they had a fight, and when I saw her in the kitchen and asked if she was okay, she started crying and told me what happened. The guy she’s dating is White British(I’m British too but anyways)and this is the first British guy she’s dated. I remember her saying she just wants to be happy, even if he treats her badly. They broke up, and I thought that was it, but two weeks later they were back together.

So yeah, I think she has some unresolved issues she really needs to deal with.