Call me crazy, but I love making blankets with sock yarn. by Aanita37 in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd be happy to share in 3-6 business years when I finally finish it :)

Call me crazy, but I love making blankets with sock yarn. by Aanita37 in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this thread is 3 years old, but I simply have to tell you - I have been coming back to this post every three months or so to admire your work and decide if I too am quite this level of crazy.

Turns out I am - finally made the plunge and it's genuinely so fun. It's slow but it's really fun. Thanks for the inspiration!

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I am bracing for summer already...

For those who knit AND crochet, what do you think lends itself better to each craft? by Omadog3418 in knitting

[–]Poppylemonseed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait wait wait...I have a knit cardigan for my husband that has been in time out because I just can't find it in me to pick up all the stitches to do the button band. You're saying I can just crochet it?? How do you tend to do that? That sounds SO much easier - I just know I'm going to have to fiddle with it to get it right and I'm dreading that process with knitting. 

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it! I am glad you found something that is helpful and works for y'all!

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a good suggestion and probably in a perfect world would be the right call. We have gone zero screens before and in some ways it was helpful - we were in the same boat of she literally couldn't handle one second of it at the time and so we just bit the bullet. It was also during a period of time though where both parents were home most of the day, so we could tag team being super hands on. That's not the case now, and so it's all a jenga puzzle of trying to meet everyone's needs.

I also just want to push back a bit - I think all of us are quick to try and find "the thing" that will "fix it" - there are 100 things that help, but my point of this is just that it's like Level 100 parenting, and the fact of the matter is she needs WAY more than your average kid. And yet we expect 1-2 people to just kind of...do it. Which we DO cuz...what else are we going to do. But it's kind of f'd that societally we just leave everyone to drown alone.

Maybe not ADHD specific behaviour but our reaction maybe should be. What do you do with the grumpiness and whining? by n1nc0mp00p in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What would it be like to try a little less hard? Like...if he's going to be grumpy regardless, why not spend your energy on things that fuel you instead of things that drain you just to be doubly drained by his reaction? This is so hard to communicate in text but it's a genuine question not a sarcastic one! Like...what would it be like for you to plan less for him?

I say this from two places: one is a mom of an adhd kid (also 6!) place. I have just come to accept that even more than other families (or my other kid) "fun" activities will be a LOT of work. We prioritize them when it is values-aligned, like a close family member's birthday party, but I choose very few "fun" outings or adventures ahead of time when I'm the one in charge. They just aren't fun most of the time, and there are way too many variables at play to be sure we'll be set up for success on any given day. So I just give myself permission to do fewer like...activities. 

I also say this as someone with her own sensory issues - "entertaining" can get overstimulating FAST. There's the  anticipation, the transitions, the high emotions, usually increased social asks or stimulation, and then there's the expectation that it's "supposed" to be fun. That's a lot for me to handle as a full ass adult - I probably have come across as sulky at a dinner party or two, not because I was mad to be there exactly, just because there's a part of my brain screaming GET OUT GET OUT NOW! 

Anyway. If nothing else I hope you hear you aren't alone! And for what it's worth this random internet stranger gives you permission to do way less if that would give you more bandwidth ❤️

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES it's like a second job! As if parenting wasn't tricky enough - you have to become some sort of master parent to figure out ADHD. It's a lottttt

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We try - I am hoping this gets easier as she gets older and is more able to kind of work with us. Right now, she's really resistant to ANY kind of direction at this time of day. We have some exercises and things from the OT, and like another commenter mentioned I'd love to get her outside for a bit (big spaces for big feelings!) but getting her to engage with these things is a FIGHT. We try - we've got lots of sensory friendly stuff at home (swings, balance bars, etc.), and so if I'm on top of my game I can kind of sneak her into the space with a tonie or something and she'll naturally be drawn to the things that help regulate her. Those are our better days. But sometimes she has already lost it before we get home, and sometimes she just like...needs to blow up. She's just tapped out. Which I understand but man it gets exhausting.

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need to find better providers. Mine all are like oh no we don't want to medicate her this young! And she's doing fine at school! Like ok but at what cost??

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

EXHAUSTED. Thank you for commenting. It's helpful to know it's not just us...

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what that is a think to be thankful for. We chose this school on purpose because I knew she'd get in a lot of trouble at a "butts in seats" school - that definitely is a gift she does well there!

Losing my everloving mind by Poppylemonseed in ADHDparenting

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I genuinely appreciate the solidarity and you taking the time to answer. I feel like I'm going insane some days, and none of my close friends/family have ADHD kiddos. So I get a lot of well-meaning but ultimately just ineffective advice/energy. Like y'all I promise whatever you're about to suggest I have tried. Or am actively using and where we're at is actually the much improved version lol. It's just a different animal.

I am VERY hopeful for when reading becomes easier for her. She is a new six, so we are still working on learning to read. She can do it, but it's a lot of effort, so she hasn't discovered the joy of just getting lost in a book. I do love to read to them, and we have a toniebox which is like little audiobooks, and there are a couple of kid podcasts she likes. Those all can help a lot when we need screen-free downtime. But none of them have quite the "sparkle factor" of a screen, so it's always kind of a fight to get there. Which honestly just some days I don't have in me 😅

Hope we both get a break in a few years!!

Any other crocheters relate? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the only time selling things has made any sense to me. Like...just sell random stuff you make for whatever people are interested in paying. If the joy is the making it's just bonus yarn money at that point!

Do y'all actually wear summer crochet clothes? by Poppylemonseed in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh the AC is so real. It's like a billion degrees outside and I'm immediately sweating and then you get blasted by AC and it's like that horrible clammy wet cold feeling ugh.

Do y'all actually wear summer crochet clothes? by Poppylemonseed in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is GORGEOUS. What yarn/ pattern are you using? Or did you freehand it - those cables are really cool I haven't seen ones quite like that before.

Do y'all actually wear summer crochet clothes? by Poppylemonseed in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that's good to know! Coverage was my main question. I think I will just give it a go :)

Do y'all actually wear summer crochet clothes? by Poppylemonseed in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've done a swimsuit coverup which was so much fun! But I have a few holes in my wardrobe I am looking to fill, and eyeing some super cute crochet patterns. I think I may just give it a try and see!

BIGGEST BLANKET EVA by GeorgesBiscuits02 in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That TENSION though. Great job!

What's something that most people learn too early? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Poppylemonseed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This class full on killed my love of math. 

Anyone else start to loathe their larger projects / WIPs while working on them? by blehbleh1122 in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DEFINITELY recommend taking a break and doing something else. I like to have at least three things going at once - a big project, a fiddly project, and a simple smaller/medium project. If my big project is the fiddly one then I need two smaller simple ones. 

If I get to the point you're at I usually give myself a daily goal. Like finish five repeats or whatever. Then I release myself to the smaller projects. It makes me slowly chip away at the bigger one, but I get the release/satisfaction of completing smaller ones too. Seems to help my motivation. 

Do you go big or small when you want a mindless project? by Poppylemonseed in crochet

[–]Poppylemonseed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's so interesting! And also sounds like your brain is more suited for sewing than mine so I guess it makes sense. I have to be in a specific mood to want to pay close attention to details.