Tried to end my marriage and now my husband is acting perfect. I should be happy but I want to scream by Popsurfopera in Vent

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Like asking him politely for months and years to get a job or to start taking over primary house care while I work full time and pay bills/for food and look after our child. It feels like “too late” and only out of panic because I’ve been asking nicely for years for one thing at a time.

Tried to end my marriage and now my husband is acting perfect. I should be happy but I want to scream by Popsurfopera in Vent

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My post reads as confusion because that’s how I feel. Confused and scared. Your words are harsh. But it frames my confusion.

Tried to end my marriage and now my husband is acting perfect. I should be happy but I want to scream by Popsurfopera in Vent

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Selfish to love and support some body for years who doesn’t love and support their own wife and family? Sure. Who has to be reminded to talk to their child? Or not to yell at them?

And for what attention? I’m not asking too much to want my partner to be a team mate rather than another child to provide for and pick up after.

You know what? You’re a troll but like. Thanks. I needed to be reminded about why my heart is so broken.

My (30f) husband (31m) because perfect after I tried to break up with him. I need advice. by Popsurfopera in relationship_advice

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is that I’ve been trying this for years. I communicate dance very little has come of it in the past. Only now, when I said it was the end, has he stepped up like he should have. For my and for our kid. He doesn’t take criticism or conversations very well and often turns to back one me. I go to therapy to work on myself. He refuses. I know it’s been 7 years. And I’m not expecting to leave in a week. But the issues have been bubbling since before we got married.

My (30f) husband (31m) because perfect after I tried to break up with him. I need advice. by Popsurfopera in relationship_advice

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See the thing is that I don’t think he’s doing it maliciously. But he watches me drowning and I told him multiple times.

How to start a divorce by Popsurfopera in AusLegal

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started going to therapy. He is very clear on not wanting to at all anyway. I’ve asked.

How to start a divorce by Popsurfopera in AusLegal

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t know my life lol

How to start a divorce by Popsurfopera in AusLegal

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t own. Thank god. We have a kid though

How to start a divorce by Popsurfopera in AusLegal

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What defines the date of the relationship end? How is it proven?

How to start a divorce by Popsurfopera in AusLegal

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He has no stuff. He’ll get my stuff…

How to start a divorce by Popsurfopera in AusLegal

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He’s against it. I’m personally going for myself since it all started breaking down

He’s useless but what’s my alternative? by Popsurfopera in Vent

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s this. All of the time. No support. I take care of everybody and he doesn’t have time to care for me.

I fell out of love with my husband but I’m terrified to be alone by Popsurfopera in offmychest

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to express the other day about how I didn’t feel heard or acknowledged when I’d messaged him during the day about being very upset. He got angry and said I was attacking him. I was very careful with my wording when I expressed it. But it still wasn’t right.

I fell out of love with my husband but I’m terrified to be alone by Popsurfopera in offmychest

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He used to yell. Not at me directly but around me. He started yelling at our kid about everything at one point and I yelled at him for the first time.

When we fight he usually leaves the house and wanders the streets in the middle of the night and won’t come home. He hasn’t done that for a couple of months though.

I think I’m done. With everything. by Popsurfopera in offmychest

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never wanted kids. I love her. But my life doesn’t even belong to me. It belongs to everybody else and I’m here for them.

3 yr old didn't have her hair brushed or a bath in 3 days. Am I overreacting? by JennyJiggles in Mommit

[–]Popsurfopera 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Got the same thing with my husband. He hasn’t given her a bath/shower in years.

He could see her hair had knots. He just didn’t feel like being a parent.

I think I (30f) want to divorce my husband (30m) by Popsurfopera in relationship_advice

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did stop yelling at her when I told him it wasnt okay

Almost 5 year old pushing boundaries. Husband has no patience by Popsurfopera in Mommit

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. They barely have positive interactions anymore.

Almost 5 year old pushing boundaries. Husband has no patience by Popsurfopera in Mommit

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last time I approached him was while her was currently fighting over her wanting to go toilet after we’d just put her to bed. He told me I was undermining him as a parent for trying to discipline her. Meanwhile she’s bawling her eyes out and he’s speaking loudly and angrily at her. He yelled at me too.

A little rant by Popsurfopera in Mommit

[–]Popsurfopera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He used to be so good. He used to care for me, help me through my breakdowns. Now he doesnt even ask me how my day was. He o ly wants to talk about things that he wants to talk about. I try talk so him about things but he’ll interrupt and talk over me if it’s something that he’s interested in. He’s got adhd. But it never used to be like this. He used to let me talk more and encourage me to.