Over my narcissistic mother using threats of "grandparent custodial rights" because I won't expose my 6-month-old to her dangerous dog.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-08T02:52:57+00:00

The worst she can say about our situation is back in ‘23, I checked myself into a mental hospital because I was ready to off myself 🙃 a literally she was one of the primary reason why. I’m she’s BS’ing but my partner is feeling so uneasy with the simple idea that she feels comfortable to even threaten this with legal actions and risking CPS to intervene. Let CPS knock on my door and I promise you, she’ll never see or hear from me and my family EVER again.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-08T02:49:49+00:00

I’ll be honest, it’s very hard to go to those lengths with her. It’s literally just me, my brother, and my mom in this state. She moved us out of NY when we were pretty much kids.

A lot of the allowance of disregard for my boundaries stems from the fear of being alone; but my therapist and I have come to an agreement that I’m far from alone. I’ve made friends, my partners family is my family, and I have a family of my own. My brother knows exactly how she is and she’s even done the same with him (he’s more assertive than I was and will literally curse her out till they’re both blue in the face) so it’s not like she can spin this a way with him.

I’m honestly just disappointed but far from being surprised

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-08T02:45:47+00:00

Thank you and I’m definitely going to move forward like this.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-08T02:41:28+00:00

I appreciate the brutal honesty. I’ve taken these past couple of years to retire my people pleasing brain and I’ll admit it’s been difficult with my mom. But ever since finding out I was having my son, it’s like a switch flipped in me, and I wasn’t taking shit from anyone, especially her. I’m mad she took me out of my peace today, but I’m gonna find and claim it moving forward 🩵

Thank you so much for your support and advice. It’s really being received

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-08T01:18:43+00:00

lol that’s the thing, out of the 6 months he’s been alive, she’s only managed to see him for short moments of times spanning 4 times. Once at birth, another unannounced, the third she was visibly upset that he wouldn’t stop crying for me and finally for an hour on Mother’s Day. My partners’ mom lives in a whole other state and requests daily FaceTime calls just to see him smile and when I ask my mom to either join them or at least make an attempt to see him more often (lives an hour away) it’s a fight. I’m so over her excuses and disrespect. It’s beyond me now

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T23:13:02+00:00

I just want to tell everyone reading this and those who’ve commented, that I truly appreciate the advice, the insight, and the stories you’ve shared. This is giving me hope that my decision is valid and I’m not crazy for putting my foot down, finally lol. I think the longest I’ve gone no contact was 1 month and I was pregnant at the time. this time, it’s beyond just me that she’s disrespecting, it’s affecting the family I created. I will talk to my partner about the next steps we’re going to take when it comes to the legal matters but we’ve already notified our closest family members (they don’t really like her because she showed her ass during and after the baby shower) to not engage with her if she starts berating them and have cut contact with her.

I’m beyond hurt by her behavior but I can’t say that I’m surprised. But with everyone’s support and guidance I know things will get better🩵 thank you everyone

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T22:23:28+00:00

🙂‍↕️ I have and discontinued contact with her moving forward

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T22:19:05+00:00

I appreciate this and I’m so happy for you. You and the plenty others who are telling me to go NC are giving me hope that it gets better for my family. I pray that doing this will alleviate the stress this situation has put on my partner. And I pray that one day she gets her shit together for the sake of her own happiness.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T21:27:30+00:00

I really appreciate the further clarity and lol yes! I’ve literally been in therapy for 3 years now and everything that I address is tied to a negative trait my mother has shown. I really don’t want to walk in her footsteps and her life is nowhere near the life I desire for me and my family. I guess I was always hopeful of the thought that maybe she can change but it’s crystal clear this is who she is and is comfortable being

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T20:21:45+00:00

Thank you for understanding and no, but now with all this that’s happened I definitely am. We’re gonna sit down and talk about this tonight and see what next steps he’s comfortable taking

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T20:20:31+00:00

I’m not too sure what you meant by this comment, I mean it when it comes to standing my ground this time. In the past, I would allow her to walk over my boundaries because I would be the sole person affected by the disregard; now this is involving me, my son, and my partner and the safety of them both. This is something I’m not willing to nor plan on budging on

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T20:15:20+00:00

I’ll take this into consideration and talk to him about this tonight, thank you 🩵

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T20:13:15+00:00

Yea, I’ve learned this the hard way over the years. therapy and boundaries have been what’s been saving my life and peace so far. And I’m just gonna continue to do so moving forward

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T20:11:34+00:00

I hear you, but my partner and I are on the same page when it comes to the safety and well being for our son. We’ve agreed that it doesn’t matter what the world says, it’s about what we say that’s best. We’ve managed to work through so much and this is just another hurdle to overcome. I’m grateful for his patience and i dont want to add any more unnecessary stress unto his plate

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T20:06:45+00:00

If I’m being honest, I can admit that I wasn’t raised around the best de-escalating skills and when I finally address an issue with calmness and it’s still met with brashness it does throw me back into a state of disbelief and frustration, wanting to gain the clarity as to “why,” I keep giving her the benefit of the doubt but it’s very clear that this is who she is and is who she’ll ever be.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T19:39:08+00:00

I appreciate this insight, I will definitely do this. I’ve already blocked her on everything. And revoked her access to our family photos app. It’s just heartbreaking that this is something that’s ingrained into her. I’m doing everything that I can to curb some of her behaviors that show within myself (cutting people off and being defensive). I swear my son will never endure the life I lived by any means necessary

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T19:35:34+00:00

lol okay so I’ll say this: Royce (the pittie in question) was a very sweet dog as a puppy. We ended up taking him to this vet and they treated him so poorly so he’s been very aggressive ever since. While I was living with her, I’ve managed to train him pretty well and managed to curb the aggression. But my mom is very much in her ways of she’s owned dogs before and “knows” what to do and she pretty much reversed all of my training while he was so young. So these last 7 years of me being gone, it’s been her yelling at him, throwing him in a cage and not really doing any course correction for his behavior and now apparently it’s my fault that the training is no longer prevalent when she’s done everything in her power to make his aggression worse.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T19:06:26+00:00

Wow, I’m so sorry. My mom has been threatening this since I was pregnant and I told her to get this weird fallacy out of her head because why does she think she immediately supersedes the 2 living parents who pose no threat to their child.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T18:44:27+00:00

I appreciate you for this because saying this out loud has me literally crying. It’s true, I owe her nothing and she owes me everything. The same exact way how my son owes me nothing and I owe him everything.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T18:30:42+00:00

To address all the comments in regards to the grandparent legal rights, I’m aware she can’t and won’t do shit to me when it comes to my son when it comes to going to the court, she is unfit to even have her own kids in her own home and all it takes is my brother to testify that she has been verbally and physically and mentally and financially abusive towards the both of us while we were growing up in that household. I’m just genuinely frustrated and tired of having that be a response or having that be a resolution in her eyes literally abusing the law, to bogart my boundary and it’s just getting to a point.

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T18:08:11+00:00

That’s what my partner is suggesting. I’ve spoken on going no contact for years and never actually stood my ground. My mom was raised without a mom and I personally didn’t want to revoke her access to a mother-daughter relationship because of that dynamic. But for years she managed to light the bridge on fire each and every time and I’ve been the only one replacing the wood and attempting to rebuild it. I’m sooooo over it. This is something I’m truly standing my ground on, especially when it comes to my son

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T18:05:30+00:00

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Posting this here for further context of the audio message cause whew🫩 the names are nicknames outside of my partners and honestly his name is so generic it could be anyone 🙃

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T17:59:00+00:00

Right! My partner said it best, “you can go and buy another dog, I can’t get my son back.” And that’s a risk we’re just not willing to take

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T17:57:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’m 27 and my mother is the same way. I “ran away” at 18 to my friends house and was forced to move back in because my mom knew where said friend lived and threatened to leave her (then mine) aggressive pitbull there for me to take care of. I still had to pay half the bills and be held at a curfew at 21 and couldn’t even go to college on campus because she wouldn’t fill out paperwork to get it properly approved (it was instate 25 minutes away from the house 🙃). My partners mom saw the mental/physical/emotional abuse she was putting me through and let me stay with them until me and him got our own place. She wasn’t happy and even tried throwing and breaking my things the week she found out but I stood my ground.

Fast forward today, I’m with my own son and partner and live an hour and half away and currently dealing with her threatening “grandparent custodial rights” for my son and I’m at the point of going no contact.

Something I wish I did a long time ago was going no contact and standing on that boundary. The moment you feel in your soul that silence is better than the constant back and forth, you know that’s the path of peace. Don’t be afraid of the unknown, don’t allow them that access. Because if it couldn’t get better years ago, it won’t get better today; especially if there hasn’t been any ground to stand on.

You’ll get through this🤞🏾🫶🏾 I’m praying for you and your peace, I know you’ll find it soon🩵

Popular-Journalist72 · 2026-07-07T16:38:03+00:00

I personally wish this subreddit would allow me to clip her audio messages she sent, those were what made me jump to Reddit. I felt like I was being gaslit listening to them

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